Fuck the rapport and just get straight to date setup?

[killerman]

Ok, thanks to this website, this year, my date setups have been pretty neat. Have no problem getting out on dates. Took Chase's advice and the procedure i take is send the girl the initial text, skip the next day then get back in contact the day after and after about 3 or 4 texts ask to meet up, which usually works. However I've been thinking that in the situation that I've run into with the girls that start texting but stop texting me before i can get to text 3 or 4, is it possible that some girls lose patience even after just a couple texts and want you to just ask them to meet up on the first or second text? there's this girl i met on the street last week. she seemed pretty keen at first. i'll give you the history of this girl here. so i meet the girl, get the number, then send the initial hey nice to meet you today text 3 hours after meeting her. to which she replies: "and you. still reckon that u do that to all the girls tho lol x. then the next day she sends me a text saying "you alright?" i was going to text her the next day but she started the convo so i thought id continue it there. send my reply then she sends me one. then i send another one but she doesnt reply back. it was kind of late so maybe she was asleep. next day she replies back at 9 in the evening. doesnt reply to my text but sends me another one of her "u alright" texts to which i respond. i havent asked her for the date yet as it's the first text of the night. she replies back a little later with " all good thanks, you're not a big texter are you". im sure that was a sarcastic comment as when id text i wouldnt give one worded texts and was generally pleased to talk to her. in short id sent about 3 texts at that point and had replied to every one of her texts so she couldnt really accuse me of not being a big texter. my gut told me i needed to ask her out asap so i texted her asking if she'd like to meet on the weekend. she replied saying "i shall try my best hun.sounds good. shall let you know closer to the time." this was on thusday night. i didnt send her anymore texts and waited for her to get back to me. she gets back to me last night saying "what u up to tomorrow?" i told her i didnt have any plans and asked her if she'd like to meet to which i got no reply. now i think telling her i didnt have any plans might have been a mistake which made me look too available, which is maybe why she didnt get back to me. i dont know. or maybe i fucked up ages ago when i should have asked her out in the first text after the initial text, what do you think? are there some girls who expect the guy to ask for the meet straight from the first text and not mess around with sending 3-4 rapport building texts?

 

[Smith]

Killerman,

It depends on the situation. Sometimes, it's good to send a few texts before asking her to meet up. Sometimes, you can just go straight to the point. Personally, I think it depends on the girl and your initial interaction with her. Some girls don't reply for hours or even days, and to these girls I go straight to the point. It works most of the time even though they reply a couple of days after. I think it's just one of their ways to screen out needy guys. Some girls, you can even keep texting her that day to meet up with her on the same day. No one way is better than the other, but as long as you get her out, then it's job done. Just remember, when you send her a "rapport building" text, she could either be very busy or she could be very excited to see your text or both, so that's why I usually go straight to the point. I think "rapport building" text is a waste of time with girls who doesn't seem to be interested in you, and you can easily screen out these girls if you just go straight to the point with your text. However, with girls who are on the fence about going out with you, a few witty and rapport building texts can show them that you're just a cool guy and not some random weirdo. So you need to judge what type of girl she is based on your initial interaction with her.