Fulfilling her fantasy without being a pussy

[MelbourneBounce]

My girlfriend told me about a fantasy she has. She wants to finger my asshole.

When she brought it up, I made it clear that I wasn't in to it.

Upon reflection, I'm okay with trying it once as it seems to be important to her.

How do I let her know I'm okay to fulfill her fantasy without seeming like I'm doing it just to please her? How do I keep her respect and seem strong while agreeing to her wish?

 

[Thedoctor]

M.B.,

As I've gotten older, I've found myself doing lots of things I had previously said I would never do. My advice here would be not to over-think this. If it's something that,after giving it some thought, you're curious to try, simply tell her that. If you're not curious at all and are only doing it for her benefit, I probably wouldn't advise it. This is something that is rather invasive to you on her part and she should understand if you are not comfortable with it. Ask her if there is another fantasy you can help her in fulfilling. Most people are going to draw a line somewhere.

-John

 

[NarrowJ]

Getting my asshole fingered doesn't really sound like something I'd let a girl do. Although, I would more than gladly do it to her. Anything that attempts to reverse the roles of masculine[male] and feminine[female] is not anything I want happening in a relationship I'm in.

Sounds like an attempt to dominate you, to me (just being honest).

What if she's just trying to build compliance for more brazen acts like ramming you in the ass with a big dildo or something? Does that sound like something a dominant male does- get rammed in the butt with a big plastic dick?

I wouldn't do it, but that's just me!


J.J.

 

[luego]

She's skipping a step; start with just touching, before you get into any sort of "lube up and enjoy" type activities. You'll likely be surprised about the sensations. But, generally, I think you want to portray it as "I've thought about it, and yes, I'm willing to do some experimenting with you. I think we can both have fun". Encourage her to fulfill some of your fantasies as well (but not as a quid pro quo thing).

 

[NarrowJ]

She's skipping a step; start with just touching, before you get into any sort of "lube up and enjoy" type activities.

Exactly why I'm afraid this would escalate into more than just a finger or two. She may not even have using a dildo/vibrator in her mind right now, but I'm guessing after she fingers his ass a few times, that's going to get boring, and then what's the next step up from that? Then the next step up from that when she gets bored of that one too?

I was talking to a girl about a year ago, and we were just getting into some sexting/dirty talk when she told me how she likes to "dominate" men. I didn't even ask what she meant. Guh-bye.


J.J.