Hey
I went out the last couple days to socialize and it's way out of my comfort zone. Actually I've used the skills I naturally have before this and have done a few similar things in the past without even thinking much about it and I've even had relationships with girls that I'm satisfied enough with meaning this was not about getting around first base second base etc. This was about improving my skillls comversationally and possibly making new friends. So the last two days were deliberate and then for some reason I spoke to my father last night and I felt really bad about it from that conversation I think. It was bad enough that it felt awkward and wrong because I had no idea what I was doing but my dad asked me "what's going on?" Like why were you talking to people. It's even harder since I cannot hear anymore (but I hope to again). Anyway technology does help my conversations with people. But the real point of the matter as I said was the way it felt like Chase mentioned in one article about making friends and how it felt wrong at first. At least I had a few interactions that were kinda normal but i think it's possible they all thought who is this guy and what does he want? And I don't want to be that guy but I guess this is only a stage. I know people do this all the time although in different ways and make friends, talk to strangers, and have fun very naturally. But I should have learned this a long time ago but I didn't. I actually realized I did a couple things like this back then like trying to make friends while traveling but I only got so much success and not near enough to really really improve my social skills. I've had the chance to talk to thousands of people (for business purposes) and hear many conversations so I've got a few reference points but I'm still struggling with this. Just wondering if you guys have any tips. I've already read the articles on deep diving, the conversationalist, how to make friends, and others, but I'm the kind of person that asks the wrong questions in a conversation instead of the right ones like questions that only elicit yes and no answers. I even read "how to win friends and influence people" a long time ago but I couldn't relate to many things the author would say because he'd say interactions with people have to come from a genuine place and I'm like how do you do that? He would say for example if you thought someone looked good or you liked their clothes or whatever then you should tell them but that doesn't happen to me all the time but I do try and at least apply that. So any tips how to keep things from being awkward would help. Thanks for reading this. I know it's probably long.
~Yhaceed
I went out the last couple days to socialize and it's way out of my comfort zone. Actually I've used the skills I naturally have before this and have done a few similar things in the past without even thinking much about it and I've even had relationships with girls that I'm satisfied enough with meaning this was not about getting around first base second base etc. This was about improving my skillls comversationally and possibly making new friends. So the last two days were deliberate and then for some reason I spoke to my father last night and I felt really bad about it from that conversation I think. It was bad enough that it felt awkward and wrong because I had no idea what I was doing but my dad asked me "what's going on?" Like why were you talking to people. It's even harder since I cannot hear anymore (but I hope to again). Anyway technology does help my conversations with people. But the real point of the matter as I said was the way it felt like Chase mentioned in one article about making friends and how it felt wrong at first. At least I had a few interactions that were kinda normal but i think it's possible they all thought who is this guy and what does he want? And I don't want to be that guy but I guess this is only a stage. I know people do this all the time although in different ways and make friends, talk to strangers, and have fun very naturally. But I should have learned this a long time ago but I didn't. I actually realized I did a couple things like this back then like trying to make friends while traveling but I only got so much success and not near enough to really really improve my social skills. I've had the chance to talk to thousands of people (for business purposes) and hear many conversations so I've got a few reference points but I'm still struggling with this. Just wondering if you guys have any tips. I've already read the articles on deep diving, the conversationalist, how to make friends, and others, but I'm the kind of person that asks the wrong questions in a conversation instead of the right ones like questions that only elicit yes and no answers. I even read "how to win friends and influence people" a long time ago but I couldn't relate to many things the author would say because he'd say interactions with people have to come from a genuine place and I'm like how do you do that? He would say for example if you thought someone looked good or you liked their clothes or whatever then you should tell them but that doesn't happen to me all the time but I do try and at least apply that. So any tips how to keep things from being awkward would help. Thanks for reading this. I know it's probably long.
~Yhaceed
