Fundamentals and teenagers

[Byron]

Hey, I need help figuring out what to focus on now. I am 16 years old but I want to figure out how to be an attractive man and get it down cold within the next few years. I have gotten most of my body fundamentals and fashion fundamentals down, although there is always room for improvement. However, I cannot seem to be able to pin down my "vibe" yet. How do I get a bad boy yet romantic sort of vibe? And what are some other key fundamentals I should know? I have been working on fundamentals for several months now. Also, how to you project a sort of byronic hero air at age sixteen?
-this site is great, thanks everybody
-youngbyron

 

[Novacane]

Keep opening woman and collect reference points, I'm 17 nice to see other young guys out here. I can admit however that from time to time it can be hard trying to develop in the PUA community especially when you are young and just getting the hang of things, but the earlier the better! So my suggestion would be to experiment with different things and see what does and does not work. As for the byronic hero check out this article https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-b ... attraction, with being unpredictable you sort of develop byronic traits as is. Hope i've helped.

 

[Blondie]

What up Bryon

One thing that might be able to hone your "egde" is to pick up a hobbie that you think is bad-ass and get really good at it. For me its weight lifting, but it can be matial arts, playing guitar,moto cross , painting whatever as long as you think its cool. Knowing you can lift more/beat up/play better than anyone in the room adds a certain swagger to you. It will take alot of time and energy to develop this but it'll be more than worth it once you get it down.

 

[Byron]

It's hard to open women where I live, I'm in a expat community where everyone knows everyone already, all the locals are muslim and religious, but I do try to talk to people, especially women a lot. I had picked my hobby as being sexy/good to talk to, but yeah picking a badass hobby is a good idea, thanks!

 

[PrettyDecent]

Hey youngByron,

When I first started reading this site in November of last year, I became hardcore into working on just fundamentals...and not talking to women. It wasn't until March that I started approaching women regularly, and when I did, my fundamentals (specifically vocal, body, and social) fell like a boulder off a cliff. Unfortunately, there is no substitute for approaching women. It's like any skill you learn. If you watch videos on how to play guitar for 5 months, you're still not going to play like Jimi Hendrix when you pickup a real guitar for the first time. You're going to find all of the mistakes and problems that you couldn't find by running scenarios in your head.

That being said, being 16 and living in a religiously-zealous country can make it difficult to talk to a bunch of new girls regularly. But I dare you to challenge yourself and find women by being creative and finding ways around the problem. Because that is when you will be truly successful with women. And that's how you get your "vibe" down. Bad boys get what they want, but it's only because they bend the rules and find solutions to problems that are difficult to pinpoint.

Anyways, good to hear you are working on fashion and body fundamentals, posture is definitely a hard one at first. Malls are especially good places to find young girls your age. If I were you, I would travel to the nearest place with a larger population to approach girls at least once a week or every other week. That way, if there is absolutely no other solution you can come up with, you can get a diagnostic of where you are and what you can improve on until the next week or two. Lastly, age means nothing. Age won't stop you from achieving success with women. Only a lack of trying to find a solution.

Good luck,
Jake

 

[Ross]

Vibe is something that is difficult to learn. The "edge" that a bad boy emits grows out of a deep purpose. And what is the difficulty with young men? They rarely know how to define their purpose.

Perhaps a story of my own finding of edge will enhance the learning of what it encompasses. Edge was something I naturally picked up around the age of 16. I started to run Track & Field, and I had no edge. My successes with women were at an all time low; I didn't even register a blip on the radar. But as I became invested in running, I became hardened. I believed so deeply in running track that my belief in advancing myself by running carried over into other facets in my life. I noticed that I had an increasing number of personality changes occurring:

- I became very intense. Before, I was always very soft, and didn't have much of a drive. It felt like my engines were turned on, and I was rearing to push the pedal to the floor.

- I felt better than everyone else. I became very arrogant in how I dealt with people. I can remember starting a fight with a freshman claiming he was faster than the seniors even though he was younger. In the middle of a run, I pushed him in the back and said some things that sure shut him up. I never would have dreamed of doing this before becoming so invested in Track; I probably would've sat back and just listened.

- Besides these two things, women started to pay attention to me. I wasn't very attractive for any other reason besides my edge, so I wasn't exactly doing well with women, but I managed to have their interest. To this day, women call me mysterious and the most interesting man they have ever met. I believe this is because of edge. Edge is a very potent tool that many people don't even recognize.

So, there you have it. I have an edge about myself for different purposes, but it still is there. The key to edge is finding purpose in things, and becoming so good at those things that you feel better than all those about you. This is your purpose, and you are going to find the most efficient way to succeed and continue to prove that you are the best. Blondie hits it on the head when he suggests an activity to begin the edge. Stop playing life for fun, and start playing it to win, and the edge will appear.