FR Funny FSC Reaction “That's too Personal!!”

[foggy]

Yeah so I was daygaming at the subway station.

Approached this girl, hooked her, we walked onto the train, ran my usual stack on her.

We were connecting and she was stimulated, so I decided to escalate the vibe:

FOG: isn’t it interesting how you can meet someone and you feel like youre on the same wavelength as them? And as you talk, you get the sense they understand you on a deeper level?
HB:

Boil, boil toil and trouble! I watch as her stimulation levels quickly max out. She looks stunned out of her mind, like she was hit by a brick. It’s not too often I get girls this stimulated.

So I’m like…. OK I’ll de-escalate a bit….and I immediately moved on over to social frame:

FOG: hey, by the way, that reminds me….If I were to ask you, what you like to do besides eating or sleeping, what would you say?
HB: [still very stimulated] that’s too personal of a question!

HAHAHAHAHA. Can’t remember what I said after that but thinking back I'm having a good chuckle over her response. If this were just a few minutes earlier, there would have been no resistance. But I triggered some FSC in her, which shaped her response.

Here's how i will prevent this from happening again:

• The first issue was that she was a little bit too stimulated for me to escalate the vibe in that way, like I should have waited a little longer till she was more calm to prevent FSC from even occurring.
• The second issue was that I took the wrong social frame route, in the wrong format [a question rather than a statement] and too quickly too. Instead of asking her about herself, I should have taken a minute to lead into talking to her about myself or the environment. Something less target centred….less likely to make her feel vulnerable.