gaming in work social group

[shaneawi]

I work at a job where there are a bunch of law clerk, attorneys. We're all in our mid to late 20's and we all go out to drink on the weekends.

There's a girl in the group who has a boyfriend. I've met her on two nights when we all went out to drink as a group, guy and girls. All the girls in the group who are all friends like me a lot and I have really good social proof with all the girls. When I show up to drink, every girl wants to talk with me. I acted pretty high value around her and the group, teasing, push pull etc. She enjoyed the interaction we had and said that I was a real "charmer."

The second night that I went to happy hour with the group, I started talking with three of the girls who were all friends. I noticed her glancing over at me quite a bit. When the girls I was talking to went to the bathroom she got up and sat in their chair and started talking with me, slightly teasing me and asking how my date with another girl went. Throughout the night she touched my arm and held her hand on my arm briefly about 2 or three times while we talked without me initiating physical contact first. We also started talking about sex briefly and she admitted that she was a "hoe" in college but not anymore. Another girl at the table asked what my ex girlfriend looked like and I showed her a picture. The other girls said my ex girlfriend was pretty. The girl I was talking to said she wanted to see the picture. She looked at the picture and didn't say anything. When we were talking she said she was learning how to cook and I suggested a cooking book that she should buy. She sent me a text today with a picture saying that she bought it

Any advice on how to escalate with this girl? I don't know if I'm in the friendzone with her or not. She may just be being social with me and I'm reading too much into it.

 

[Hue]

Bruh,

I have really good social proof with all the girls. When I show up to drink, every girl wants to talk with me. I acted pretty high value around her and the group, teasing, push pull etc. She enjoyed the interaction we had and said that I was a real "charmer."

They're [she is] attracted

The second night that I went to happy hour with the group, I started talking with three of the girls who were all friends. I noticed her glancing over at me quite a bit. When the girls I was talking to went to the bathroom she got up and sat in their chair and started talking with me, slightly teasing me and asking how my date with another girl went.

She more or less "opened" you, she took the opportunity to get closer to you

Throughout the night she touched my arm and held her hand on my arm briefly about 2 or three times while we talked without me initiating physical contact first. We also started talking about sex briefly and she admitted that she was a "hoe" in college but not anymore.

She's trying to get your mind on sex.

Also that's her way of saying she's experienced in bed but not a slut so she has high sexual value but not low exclusivity value (she doesn't fuck everyone)

Another girl at the table asked what my ex girlfriend looked like and I showed her a picture. The other girls said my ex girlfriend was pretty.

Good Preselection

The girl I was talking to said she wanted to see the picture. She looked at the picture and didn't say anything. When we were talking she said she was learning how to cook and I suggested a cooking book that she should buy.

She sent me a text today with a picture saying that she bought it

Compliance. And she might be trying to qualify herself somewhat.

Any advice on how to escalate with this girl? I don't know if I'm in the friendzone with her or not. She may just be being social with me and I'm reading too much into it.

I don't think you're reading too much into it at all, if she really was the one being the aggressor here. You're definitely not friendzoned just because you work with her.

If you want my advice on how to get with your coworkers (AND RECOGNIZE THIS IS A SLIPPERY SLOPE - hence the phrases "don't stick your pen in the company ink" and "don't shit where you eat")..

1). Isolate her, show your interest in a private way
2). Get her on a casual date as soon as possible
3). Get her to your house
4). Bang her

Not much different than any other seduction other than the first step.

You have to show your interest in a socially calibrated way. Make good use of plausible deniability. Here's a journal post of mine where I think I did this fairly well. viewtopic.php?f=15&t=16528#p85894

Keep the shit secret. Work places LOVE to talk about their coworkers, because shit becomes so regular in their everyday jobs
You can even use keeping it secret as a sexual frame.


Hope this helps.