Gaming/Pickup at School and Small Confindments

[BallIsLife]

I have been approaching and closing for numbers at a nearby mall. Approached 5 beautiful girls but only got one number. I like the luxury of malls because there's a lot of open spaces to work with. If she rejects you, you can just walk in the other direction. The end. But one thing that has been bothering me is approaching and closing at school or in a small confindement. At school, there's tons of beautiful girls to work with but the thing is I don't want to ruin my relationship I might have with these girls. I'm friends with their friends so I might have to see them again, which would be awkward if they rejected me or even said yes because I would have to force a conversation. There's this cute girl in my class that I want to approach but if she rejects me or likes me I would have to see her 2x a day. Do you guys approach girls in your classes/school? Plus, I dont want to seem like the creepy guy who is a player and just tries to get girls numbers. Also, I don't like to approach in small confinement say a bus or a coffee shop because if you get rejected or she says yes, you have to still sit there and see her after. Maybe I'm just trying to find out how to stop thinking what other people think of me. So what do you guys think of this? Since you guys are the masters at this, any advice or motivation is appreciated

 

[ray_zorse]

There's no reason you can't approach women from social circle (which is basically what you're describing). It's probably best to get in the habit of complimenting women and practicing stuff like eye contact fundamentals no matter where you are, even if they are married or whatnot... having said that, it might be best not to do this with superiors such as your teachers etc, unless you can do it in a calibrated way.

If you're already approaching women in malls etc, you probably have a pretty good idea of what works and what doesn't work. But I would avoid the "totally cute" opener in social circle, and go for direct tailored compliment because this works pretty much anywhere and shouldn't lead to you getting a player reputation, after all what woman can resist a sincere compliment delivered in a friendly, outgoing way?

Asking them out for coffee or whatnot is where you can become unstuck, I did this with an office chick who was giving IOIs and fucked it up and now things are a bit awkward but hey... WTF... it fades with time (she'll be going to a birthday party I'll be attending this weekend and I'm sure all will be fine, I did manage to have a conversation with her recently without fucking it up hahaha). I say just man up and go for it, if things get awkward think of it like this... in the process of becoming a player you'll be learning how to direct and use sexual tension... and, if you're not comfortable with the buildup of sexual tension then you're not going to be able to do so effectively... so when things get awkward just realize you're the master

cheers, Ray

Edit: If you unintentionally get a player reputation it is not gonna harm your cause any, even if you get rejected in front of other women they'll still be in awe of the fact that you had the balls to get out there and do it, this makes you more desirable than 95% of men out there... what you need to worry about is a creep reputation and this is easy to solve, don't be creepy Read the article on "how not to be the creepy guy" and practice your approach in shopping mall until you're comfortable.

 

[BallIsLife]

Thanks Ray! You're right I should just remind myself that this is just part of the proccess. Good luck with that office chick.

 

[BallIsLife]

Loved the edit Ray. That was another thing I was trying to figure out. Helped tons.