One thing I'm adamant about paying attention to is how much of their body they face me with, something I got from David Snyder that he calls the rapport continuum. And the other would be comfort vs. discomfort as well as level of submission.
If she's only giving me her shoulder then I only give her my shoulder. I take this as a sign that I've gotta get more of her interest before I can do anything else. Which means that we're probably not past the hook point, she's not invested just yet and I've gotta focus more on higher energy game to get her more interested. Gotta focus more on fun/teasing and etc. at this point.
However if she's facing me with her full body then I face her with, not quite all of my full body but probably like 90% (subconsciously this does more than you'd think). This is a sign that she's either very into me or very into the conversation. Either way it's a greenlight to move forward with my game and I can start to focus on other stuff, like getting to know her (deep diving) as well as dialing back the teasing a bit. I can also allow the energy level to drop at this point and start focusing on arousing her and building compliance and etc.
So yeah, that's my first thing: how much of her body is she giving you? She looking at you over her shoulder or is she facing you?
And in addition, is she using anything to block herself off from you? Example: maybe she's facing you but she holds her purse in such a way that she's kinda blocking herself from you.
Next up is submission:
Is she making herself seem smaller than you, laughing at stupid shit you say easily, stuff like that?
How about her 'smileyness'? Is she smiling a lot (although some women don't smile a lot naturally whereas others will smile even if they hate you)?
What about her general level of giggliness? Though again, some women will giggle regardless.
Does she 'play along' easily? Example, if you mention a joke about being a pirate or something does she go along with it and add to it?
Then finally: comfort vs. discomfort:
Signs of Comfort
- Eyebrow flashes
- Gravity defying behavior in general is a comfort sign because it takes effort to defy gravity in some way
- Relaxing face/body
- Tilting their heads
- Mimicking gestures or words
- Leaning in
- Facing you
Signs of Discomfort
- Lips compress or ‘disappear’
- Jaws/fists clench up
- Eye/mouth blocking
- Or putting objects in between you
- If someone distances themselves physically
- Facing away from you or moving their body from facing you to not anymore
- Pointing their feet away from you/the conversation
- ‘Pacifying behaviors’ --> not always a bad thing depending on other signals you see
- Rubbing their neck, head or just about anything
- Self-touching in general which includes arm or leg crossing
