This week I was over at a girls house, she threw a small gathering with 3 of her friends and 10 from our class. Let's call her B. We began the night doing some drinking games which went on for a while. One was "Never have I" and B drank a lot on this one. B had a lot of previous "adventures" with her boyfriend whom she dumped 2 months ago and other guys, I always thought she was inexperienced but boy I was wrong. Before I can continue I need to get you guys up to speed about this girl B.
2 weeks ago we were on a school trip to another town. We slept over at a hostel. I shared my room with 4 other guys and we planned to sneak in a few of the girls to our room at night. (Our teachers were very strict about not letting boys and girls be in each others rooms after curfew) We managed to get 2 girls in to our room. B and my friends girlfriend. B decided to jump in to my bed and we began spooning. We had to be very quiet because the teachers were roaming the hallways all night. B and I had this sexual tenstion the whole trip so this was the climax. But we didn't want anyone else in our class to know about anything so we had to be quiet and could only caress eachother which we did. She started moaning and I got a raging boner but there was 5 other people in our room, which was only maybe 5x5 square meter, there was just enough room for the 3 bunk beds. We were in the top bunk in of the beds. We typed some on our phones so the others wouldn't hear us. That we should keep this a secret, and she asked if I have done this earlier which I just responded with a devilish smile. Eventually she had to go and pee and she couldn't get back to our room because of the teachers still roaming the hallways. Now back to last night.
The night went on, we shared a few laughs, went out to smoke. But the last few weeks in school an enourmous sexual tension has been hanging in the air. So I pretty much knew she was hooked on me, just needed to isolate her. It didn't happend untill almost 5 in the morning. The last 2 hours it was just B, another guy in my class and myself still awake. We were sitting in her room (B and the other guy was sitting in the bed, one in each corner) talking about almost everything. B wanted me to join them in the bed but I felt that it would be weird so I decided to sit in a chair right next to the bed. I just sat there and waited for my guy friend to leave us alone. I decided to go down for a smoke and they were still in the room, after a while the other guy went down as well but he fell asleep. I now saw my chance to go upstairs, which I did. Once in her room she asked if I wanted to join her in bed to talk. She didn't undress so I went in in my t-shirt and chinos. She started talking about her ex, that he knew who I was. She had told him about our "night" on the classtrip.
We started making out and it was hot! It went on for a few minutes, but as soon as I tried to escalate further I hit LMR. She told me that this is crazy, we're classmates, this can't happen, it will be awkward in school. I tried to smooth talk her that it it's casual, it's doesn't have to get weird, no one has to find out. Nothing worked, I tried to kiss her again and she shot me down. "We will never have sex, we're just friends" She said. I backed off but tried again. I tried everything I remembered about shit tests like that from the articles here on GC but nothing seemed to work. Then she started talking about validation, that she makeout with people to fed her ego. That she had a list on everyone she had madeout with (after me that list was 27 people). Making out are just fun at the start she said, and that she likes to have made out with people just to tell her friends about it. That it felt good to be validated, that almost all the fun about is just to be able to brag about it. She asked me if I felt the same and I responded "I have never told any of my friends about anything i've done with girls, that's between me and her and I don't get any satisfaction to tell people about it" This was my honest answer and how I see things. After that it went on for a few minutes then she said to me "You know you can go down stairs and sleep". It came to my mind that she wanted me to leave now, but I remained a few more minutes to see if I could try to save it. I was wrong, she told me sharply, you should go downstairs and join your friend, I'm tired and I sleep better alone. Now I knew I screwed up big time. I kept a light mood and did not act butthurt or anything about it. The next morning we woke up at the same time, she started to clean the kitchen and living room and I started helping her. She said she wanted to do it alone, in her own way. She acted very cold towards me, I tried to warm her up but didn't succed. So I left soon after.
I'll try to give my hypothesis now about what I did wrong here, and would really appreciate any tip or guidance from you guys in the comments.
The last year I have improved my fundamentals enormously and everything about me. I've been improving myself the last 1.5 year. I've started weightlifting, got my fashion sense up to date. Almost everything about me is changed and for the better. So now when I started at a new class at my school I've been this "cool guy". And this girl B, she is very cute, silly and the typical nerd (to be very sterotypical of me). So when I've been coming to school now with my new image, and everything I guess I didn't live up to her expectations she had of me. I found out that night she had waaay more experience than me, she had sex with girls, boys. So she got dissapointed, and that I didn't make a single move after our class trip untill last night at the gathering didn't help either, I moved way to slow. Never done anything with a girl besides at parties and sober so I had no earlier experience on how to deal with this matter (I've read so much here on GC, but never got to put it in practice untill now, which I didn't). I chickened out, I acted like a pussy...But here's a quote that fits pretty good right now "Failure is the key to success; each mistake teaches us something"
So if you stayed and read everything I wrote about my FU you got any tips on how to act and behave in school from now on? Will see her next time on monday.
Jake10
2 weeks ago we were on a school trip to another town. We slept over at a hostel. I shared my room with 4 other guys and we planned to sneak in a few of the girls to our room at night. (Our teachers were very strict about not letting boys and girls be in each others rooms after curfew) We managed to get 2 girls in to our room. B and my friends girlfriend. B decided to jump in to my bed and we began spooning. We had to be very quiet because the teachers were roaming the hallways all night. B and I had this sexual tenstion the whole trip so this was the climax. But we didn't want anyone else in our class to know about anything so we had to be quiet and could only caress eachother which we did. She started moaning and I got a raging boner but there was 5 other people in our room, which was only maybe 5x5 square meter, there was just enough room for the 3 bunk beds. We were in the top bunk in of the beds. We typed some on our phones so the others wouldn't hear us. That we should keep this a secret, and she asked if I have done this earlier which I just responded with a devilish smile. Eventually she had to go and pee and she couldn't get back to our room because of the teachers still roaming the hallways. Now back to last night.
The night went on, we shared a few laughs, went out to smoke. But the last few weeks in school an enourmous sexual tension has been hanging in the air. So I pretty much knew she was hooked on me, just needed to isolate her. It didn't happend untill almost 5 in the morning. The last 2 hours it was just B, another guy in my class and myself still awake. We were sitting in her room (B and the other guy was sitting in the bed, one in each corner) talking about almost everything. B wanted me to join them in the bed but I felt that it would be weird so I decided to sit in a chair right next to the bed. I just sat there and waited for my guy friend to leave us alone. I decided to go down for a smoke and they were still in the room, after a while the other guy went down as well but he fell asleep. I now saw my chance to go upstairs, which I did. Once in her room she asked if I wanted to join her in bed to talk. She didn't undress so I went in in my t-shirt and chinos. She started talking about her ex, that he knew who I was. She had told him about our "night" on the classtrip.
We started making out and it was hot! It went on for a few minutes, but as soon as I tried to escalate further I hit LMR. She told me that this is crazy, we're classmates, this can't happen, it will be awkward in school. I tried to smooth talk her that it it's casual, it's doesn't have to get weird, no one has to find out. Nothing worked, I tried to kiss her again and she shot me down. "We will never have sex, we're just friends" She said. I backed off but tried again. I tried everything I remembered about shit tests like that from the articles here on GC but nothing seemed to work. Then she started talking about validation, that she makeout with people to fed her ego. That she had a list on everyone she had madeout with (after me that list was 27 people). Making out are just fun at the start she said, and that she likes to have made out with people just to tell her friends about it. That it felt good to be validated, that almost all the fun about is just to be able to brag about it. She asked me if I felt the same and I responded "I have never told any of my friends about anything i've done with girls, that's between me and her and I don't get any satisfaction to tell people about it" This was my honest answer and how I see things. After that it went on for a few minutes then she said to me "You know you can go down stairs and sleep". It came to my mind that she wanted me to leave now, but I remained a few more minutes to see if I could try to save it. I was wrong, she told me sharply, you should go downstairs and join your friend, I'm tired and I sleep better alone. Now I knew I screwed up big time. I kept a light mood and did not act butthurt or anything about it. The next morning we woke up at the same time, she started to clean the kitchen and living room and I started helping her. She said she wanted to do it alone, in her own way. She acted very cold towards me, I tried to warm her up but didn't succed. So I left soon after.
I'll try to give my hypothesis now about what I did wrong here, and would really appreciate any tip or guidance from you guys in the comments.
The last year I have improved my fundamentals enormously and everything about me. I've been improving myself the last 1.5 year. I've started weightlifting, got my fashion sense up to date. Almost everything about me is changed and for the better. So now when I started at a new class at my school I've been this "cool guy". And this girl B, she is very cute, silly and the typical nerd (to be very sterotypical of me). So when I've been coming to school now with my new image, and everything I guess I didn't live up to her expectations she had of me. I found out that night she had waaay more experience than me, she had sex with girls, boys. So she got dissapointed, and that I didn't make a single move after our class trip untill last night at the gathering didn't help either, I moved way to slow. Never done anything with a girl besides at parties and sober so I had no earlier experience on how to deal with this matter (I've read so much here on GC, but never got to put it in practice untill now, which I didn't). I chickened out, I acted like a pussy...But here's a quote that fits pretty good right now "Failure is the key to success; each mistake teaches us something"
So if you stayed and read everything I wrote about my FU you got any tips on how to act and behave in school from now on? Will see her next time on monday.
Jake10
