Tuesday--> Missed SO much opportunity because I failed to ditch my core group of friends and party hop. smh
Wednesday --> Too hungover / tired, drank water and went to work like all day
Thursday --> Interned, then sat around all day. Was still recovering mentally from Tuesday tbh. Did convince myself to go out though.
I get to the bar around 10:30. First I posted up, and waited for some friends to show up. They do, and I had been scouting since then. 4 groups of cute-hot girls.
The first clearly is with a boyfriend, the 2nd is a duo of two girls. Really should have approached these two. They looked all relaxed and flirty at first, but I never approached and saw them leave flustered. 3rd is a pack of like 6 girls, anxiety got the best of me. The last is one hot girl, and right when I went to approach she gets grabbed by her boyfriend.
There was also two girls who sat down to wait for their turn for pool, and one looked kind of cute. I went up and said, "came here just to see us play huh?" and it didn't land well. Pretty douchey actually. Also the cute one turned out to have a glass eye, so, not a big deal.
Eventually I'm talking with a couple of dudes, one black dude is talking to me about how because he's not in a frat he can't get girls without trying super hard and I'm calling bullshit since I've seen both sides. My friend introduces me to a big girl who seems chill.
Then a short, cute blonde who's friends with her come up. I intentionally ignore her at first and then introduce myself and hold onto her hand. I quickly screen for boyfriend and proceed to deep dive about how she ended up working as a photographer at a modeling agency. I decide to move her after a bit but when I take her hand and sit down she says she's been sitting all day and won't. Her face says yellow light. I ignore and talk some more. Eventually I propose coffee, she's down but then hits me with how busy her schedule is. I laugh and say "busy busy, let's do Sunday afternoon" and she says it'd have to be at like 10:00 AM and it feels more like 'I'll give him excuses until he gives up' then it does legitimate excuses. I laugh and say we'll see then walk off to buy myself a drink.
When I come back there's like 3 dudes talking with the group I was with, 2 to her. I can't get next to her again, and put my hand one guy saying, " 'cuse me bruddah, tryna sit down" and he looks at my condescendingly, then looks at her asking "What, is this your boyfriend?" with a smirk and laugh. I say, "yea we just got engaged actually" and then turn to my friend to talk. Unsuccessful redirection of getting tooled.
I talk with my friend about shit until they leave, as I had a sense they would. They do and I sit next to the girl and get her number, but she's a dim yellow light. I'm aloof and eventually leave and go home, then text her about an hour later my name and to save my number. She never answered. Next.
Friday
I had work and did my best to game a girl who's table I sat. Logistics were fucked, but she seemed like she wanted to meet someone that day and extroverted. All alone, getting margaritas and talking to me warmly while I serve her? Probably thirsty. I chatted with her about her plans for the day, but didn't move forward. Should have said, "So you'll just be out an about with yourself?" "Yea!" "Let me join you when I'm off, no need to ride solo
" or something.
When I get off I'm crazy tired and take a nap. I had been texting the girl from my last LR and she comes over for wine. She's weirder than I remember - probably from the booze and candy I had that day. I wake up like 5 min till our date and scramble to clean my house. We Netflix and chill, fuck, Netflix, fuck, get more wine, dinner, fuck, and she stays the night. I didn't want her to, really, but we both wanted to fuck again and I wasn't ready - too tired. I wake up again, we fuck, and then she literally sits and waits for me to wake up again to fuck for 3 hours. Lol ironic, considering what I did because I couldn't sleep wasn't at all dissimilar. But... after hanging out with someone for.. 14 hours? I was ready for her to leave. Yeesh. Good sex though - I love girls on the pill.
I had a chance to go out with my friends to some bar their parents rented out, but decided to stay in and have sexy time instead. Not something I would have done last year.
Saturday
Slept a lot, then hit work. Gotta make a move on my coworker soon - attraction may start to fade and I've made my choice on who it's gonna be. Always be moving things forward.
Got off at midnight and hit up my buddy who's only in town for a bit longer. Go to the bar and my dudes are with their girlfriends, drunk and loving their own nonsense. Funny to watch for a little bit but tbh it's getting old. I talk with my dudes older brother for about half and hour before people start to dissipate.
I get a call from my excoworker (threesome girl) and she immediately hands the phone to her friend who is flirting with me hard - she just got back from Spain and has heard so much about me (we've never met). They want to meet me at the club, like right fuckin now.
I start walking over and remember this bar that my coworkers always go to and rave about. I see it and stop inside. Pretty divey. I stand next to a cute but chubby girl at the bar and order myself a shot. There's two drunk dudes behind the bar taking a picture of them with a trophy and I go, "Are we supposed to know what the fuck they're doing?
" and she laughs and is immediately showing IOI's. The guy next to me seems to have taken offense to this, and goes "It looks like they're taking a picture with their trophy" in a stern voice. K, bud. Calm down. I glance at him then turn back to the girl.
I introduce myself, we chat about what drinks we're getting and I ask her if she's a regular here, all my coworkers are. She is, and it seems that many people in the restaurant biz fuck with this place. Turns out her old coworker went to my highschool. The girl is a total bitch (from my hs) so I make some sarcastic joke about how nice she is. She's giggling and showing more IOI's, and mentions something about her friends. At that point I had a decision to go see if her friends were hotter than her, and chill with them / pull one of them, or go to what I saw as a for sure thing with the other girls and meet them at the club. I get her number and chose the club.
I get there and immediately pull the hot one away, things are looking very good and she's got her hands on me letting me lead. Doesn't seem drunk either. Then my coworker (who's pretty tossed) gets lost with a guy, the hot one bails. My attraction wasn't regained after that. Then from the high energy of the club, I have to periodically sit there, leave, have them come to me, dance, laugh, and come back to them (in no particular order) while 3 groups of guys try to out-attract these girls to them. Chasing, hard. I just do my thing, and eventually make an effort on the hot one. Her bubble is above level 9000 at this point and she's seemingly in auto reject.
I bail, what a waste of time. If you're gonna call me all flirty to hang out, well bitch, I expect to hang out. Not be extra fuel for your ego with these guys you're not going home with lol.
I'm waiting outside the club - I was gonna catch the girls as they walked out, or maybe cold approach a girl that caught my eye. That hot one was like top 3 girls I saw out that night. As I'm posted up, I see my excoworker going home with a guy she met. "Haha, have fun with the pipe (;" I think to myself. I'm not all that attracted to her (if she lost 10 pounds then I might be), it's more just the 3some proposal that enthralls me about her. I may have a party this week and invite their whole group, then take my pick between Spain and Lips - or more. I obviously am not good enough with club game to pull these girls away from such a high energy, competitive environment yet.
I'm posted up outside the bar and a girl from my highschool (she's in counseling, ex boyfriend in jail, has been to rehab, labeled as a basket case... while I don't see her this way as the total of her identity, I know I have to been careful around her) comes up to me and says some shit while sliding her hand from my chest to the top of my crotch, super obvious. I ask her if she has a cigarette. She runs off to her friend, grabs her, and then grabs me and we go to smoke near some alley/parking lot. Her friend starts taking a piss between the dumpsters, while multiple groups of girls band together in a wall to let her get away with it, then all go their separate ways. Lol, what sisterhood.
We smoke a cig and chat and she keeps touching me. She doesn't seem very drunk, and I'm thinking in my head "this girl is known as crazy. I've seen her do crazy shit. She's super sexually open.. do I fuck her? She's obviously down, but..." and then this possibly homeless guy comes up and starts talking to us wanting a cig. They start talking, I'm not really enjoying the conversation so I back up to a wall and smoke my cig, kinda in my thoughts and watching them.
The dude is asking her for help / advice and being vulnerable. She's being really nice and compassionate and I think "wow, that's pretty cool of her to be so helpful" and this goes on a minute or two. Then he starts holding her arms by the elbows. At first I think its a heart to heart, but then I sense her being uncomfortable. Soon after I go up and say, "hey, ******, let's get out of here", and grab her arm. She immediately takes both hands wrapped around mine going "thank you thank you thank you thank you" and explains how she was getting really nervous with this guy and thought I had left.
We sit down and shes leaning into me, saying how I saved her and starts getting really touchy with me, and then we stare in eachother eyes and kiss. I pull off. She goes "Oh, I ..." and then I kiss her. We keep talking and she kisses me again. Then some guy comes over, also homeless (we're near an alley) and asks me for advice.
I take my arm around her and she snugs into me right quick, and tell him where to go very calmly. When he leaves she starts making out with me. I pull off and she invites me home. I'm getting kind of turned on and have to think for a sec, then decide I have to get up early for an impromptu job my dad hooked me up with, I shouldn't. She calls an uber and I direct him where to take me (my house), we exchange numbers and I leave. She's texted me 3 times since.
Her: Hi (2:58 am)
Her: Thank you for tonight (5:18 am)
Her: Hi (2:01 pm)
Me: hey wassup ****** (4:04 pm)
Weird.
I don't think I'll fuck her. Her friends are hotter, so hopefully this will amount to an interesting scenario or a score with one of them. I definitely think she'll be inviting me out soon where I'll put my toes in the water of their social circle.
Sunday
I had to work for a good amount today, and then my logistics were annoying when I meant to go approach at the mall. Had to get lunch, then worked out while I waited for a time-dependent chore, then had to do that, and finally got home tired as shit.
I did force myself to approach at the grocery store though. Not good.
I walk in and start getting groceries at this organic market, fairly small place. I see a girl I want to approach, she looks stressed on the phone. I try and not look creepy while I wait for her to hang up so I can open.
Then I see a hipster looking girl, but couldn't smoothly get around to her without losing her. She fucking vanished lol.
I see the 1st girl now in the line, and she smiled at me. Why the fuck do you have to be in line? I didn't just want to go up and talk to her. I didn't because there was like 6 people working, doing their grocery shit, yada yada I'm a pussy. Excuses.
I poke my head around to another area and see a girl in sports gear looking at yogurt. I slowly move over to her, then see her going for something way in the back.
Me: Scroungin for the fresh stuff, huh?
Her: Hmm?
Me: You're getting the new stuff in the back, I don't blame ya.
Her: Oh, well this one's all like this *shows fucked up yogurt thing*
Me: Ah gotcha
Her: It's my favorite, so you know *not looking at me*
Me: What is it? (What are you doing?)
Her: Honey
Me: Ah nice.
Her: *stands up*
Me: *points to her headband* I like your headband (what a compliment!)
Her: *blank stare, leaves*
Me: *laughing breath through nose*
Yeah, rough.
Could have complimented her rather than asking about yogurt, and the headband was cool because it matched her shirt and pants in a nice blend that compliments both. <-- that sounds a lot fucking better than, "I like your headband"
There was no one else that I saw attractive enough in the store, so I left.
I'll hit up Kroger next time, more people, less vicinity.
Badoo
Cute 18
Me: hello September
how's Badoo world treating you?
Her: Lol it's treating me wdll
Me: well you did just match with me after all ;p I can't really complain either. you a fan of coffee?
Her: I LOVE COFFEE
Me: nice, I'm not really a fan of getting to know each other over text. we ought to grab a cup sometime
Her: Sure
Her: Add me on snap *********
Me: sure, once I'm sure you're not crazy I'll get you number ;p *adds her* 15 minutes later, *snaps her*
Her: Give me ur snap
could have closed that a lot better... hopefully she opens it and just snaps me back
Latina
Me: hola mamacita como estas? ;p
Her: Hola
bien bien gracias y tu
Me: mas o menos, per no hablo espanol mucho jaja
Me: no estudie despues colegio *embarrassed smiling emoji* te hablas ingles?
Her: Hahahhha pero hablas bien
Her: I can speak English but I'm not speak well (oh really)
Me: haha no, no estudiaba mucho en mis clases de espanol
Me: you don't seem terrible senorita, do you like tequila?
Her: Lol pero escribes bien
Her: yes
Me: we should grab a drink sometime
es me favorite
Her: Mm ok good
Her: eso es Bueno
Me: great, what's your number? ;p
Her: *logs off*
Dunno, maybe she just went to bed.
Further.
