Getting Back On My Feet

[Anonymous]

Hello gentlemen

Basically I've been reading the site and I thought I'd join the forum.

I've had the worst two months of my life. Lost the love of my life and just last week I lost my job. It's knocked the stuffing out of me. Slid into clinical depression and I went into hospital because I was suicidal. Been dealt a bad hand in life and it's completely stopped me in my tracks.

I'm a 25 year old, standard looking guy. People think I'm funny, charismatic and they enjoy my company. Obviously, this hasn't been the case recently. I've stopped playing football and I drink everyday. I'm stuck in a rut.

I want to get back on the dating scene. Start enjoying myself. There is no way of getting back with my ex no matter how much I'd like it to. She was gorgeous and I thought I "made it" in life so to speak. I messed it up and I hold my hands up. I guess I have to regrettably move on.

My confidence is at an all time low which is the hard part. I want to be myself again. Any tips here guys? Just want to rebuild my life from level zero, feel like a loser at 25 for "starting again" but I guess I have to face this challenge sooner rather then later.

 

[Tyme2k]

You know, I've definitely been there, lost girl, job, even place to live. But you know what? It was a turning point in my life, I ended up getting a better job with higher pay every time this happened. I ended up getting a hotter girl, and ultimately found game.

Game is more than just "how to pick up chicks," it helps you become a man, to suck shit up and become great. It's inside all of us it just depends if we are willing to do what it takes to get there.

You are posting some pretty sensitive stuff here though, man.. a forum might not be the best place to go for help.

Start working towards something and every time you fuck up keep going. it will seem daunting, but think of it as a "right of passage" you will find things you never thought existed.

 

[Franco]

Hey LS, welcome to the boards!

You're not alone here. I believe there is a handful of members who have joined this board who have a similar story to yours... including myself.

Check out my introduction on the boards here and you'll find a few links to other posts that might help you get started on improving your life again. Chase offers plenty of material on here to turn everything around -- you just need to read it, RE-read it, and begin to apply it right away.

The discussion boards are also very helpful. Feel free to ask any questions here (broad or specific), and the members here will surely give you some good advice.

Cheers,

Franco

 

[Estate]

Welcome!
And wishing you the best of success....

You mention a few things in your post, not Pick up related. Be sure to work on those things too and get yourself in a good place.
Meeting girls is great but it's not everything in life... work on other areas too to get yourself back on track and you'll enjoy the dating and so will the girls a lot more too.

Best of luck!

 

[Chase]

Same as Tyme - big turning point for me. I went through a big break up and got laid off from work within a few weeks of each other. Both offered me "outs" - the girl wanted to get back, on her "conditions" (e.g., we'd settle down and I'd be exclusive) and the job wanted me to stay, on IT'S "conditions" (e.g., I'd leave California and move back to Washington, D.C. and keep my same grade and pay but take on an incredibly mind-numbing position), neither of which I found all that appealing.

So, I said au revoire, and took off traveling the world. Started a few companies, and never looked back. I've had people telling me all my life they could see me running my own business, but *I* certainly never saw it. Never even wanted it... too much stress, too much responsibility, I said.

When I was laid off, everyone seemed surprised at my reaction. People kept apologizing, and I had to keep reassuring them I thought it was fantastic.

When you're still young, it's the perfect time to find yourself suddenly unmoored - no job, no relationship.

There's a big world out there filled with lots of adventure (and loads of beautiful women)... I might suggest you take a little time before you dive back into the straight-and-narrow and continue on down the same path as everyone else.

One caveat: I've seen some recent graphs on long-term unemployment, and that it's decidedly more difficult for someone out of work more than 6 months to find a new professional job. So, that is something to consider before really going off in search of a better life. Of course, there're always other alternatives (starting your own business, doing freelancing on one of the many freelancing sites, joining a startup company in Silicon Valley, etc.).

Chase