Getting Burnt Out Mid Outing

[Bboy100]

Hey guys,

So I've noticed a pattern in some of my longer outings. When I go out for 1+ hours to meet women, I find that I get to this point where I just lose energy. That is to say, I always start the night super high energy. So i'll often be able to approach girls in "party mode" and flirt with them pretty successfully. Also, when I'm in this higher energy state, my banter/flirting seems to be more effective overall. More girls hook, and more girls seem to be interested in me/excited to talk to me.

But after I get to about the 1 hour mark, this completly turns on its head. I lose all my energy and my fundamentals take a huge hit. It's similar to the feeling you might get after you hit the gym super hard. Or if you go on a really long all day hike and you get home. That low energy state where you don't want to do anything except just pass out on your coach.

Once I reach that point, almost all women lose interest in talking to me. In fact, once I get to this point, it seems most girls won't even give me the time of day For example, I was out the other day, and I walked up to a women in this low energy state said "Hi". She looked at me and literally just walked away without saying a word. LOL. Also, I'll get girls asking me weird questions like "dude are you on drugs?" or "are you okay?". Half the time, when this happens, I'm completely sober. lol

Anyone have a similar experience?

 

[Paulie Walnuts]

I don't get asked if I'm on drugs BUT I know what you mean. When I start the night "high state" I noticed I lose energy throughout. If I start the night in a more chill "mid state" and build up like a vampire soaking social proof and energy from every interaction; I end the night super happy, in a great mood and high state, getting better and better with each interaction.

Just my two cents.

 

[windsofchange]

Actually this has happened to me recently numerous times. I start out being wide awake, and then poof out as the day goes on. It may be that the we're pushing ourselves 'too much' at the start; and we have to learn to calibrate the amount of energy expended. There is only so much nervous energy we have to use in a single day; fitness and health can possibly increase our stamina levels but we still have to make good use of the nervous energy.

I think trackrunner12 has the right idea. Maybe do some meditation or something to mellow out a bit, and allow yourself to 'feed off' the energy you get as the night goes on. Especially if you're going for longer periods of time.

 

[Skid]

Bboy,

I've experienced the same - I feel less motivated after I've been hitting on girls for an extended period of time however I think it affects me less because I'm naturally a less energetic guy (not the sort of person you will find jumping off walls) and I don't do a ton of night game which requires you to be extremely energetic. Some things I've found that help are :

Do day game - it teaches you to hold a more steady energy level for a longer period of time instead of these short bursts of energy. Sometimes in daygame you can walk around for 25 minutes and not find a girl you want to talk too genuinely (more if you've chosen your location poorly or you are exploring). Also in daygame you have to open much lower energy otherwise you will freak girls out.

Once you feel like your energy is sapped - stop trying to get girls off the dance floor or the other higher energy areas. Go for the girls in an energy state similar to you like the smoking area or the girls that a sitting at a table chilling and drinking.

Take a break to get your energy back - if its night game do get a drink set next to some dudes and have chill conversation - when you find yourself getting bored and you see that cute girl in the tight dress walk by suddenly you are motivated again! If its daygame I like to get a smoothie or something grab a seat and watch people walk by.

Skid

 

[Bboy100]

Thanks for sharing your experiances and the advice guys!

If I start the night in a more chill "mid state" and build up like a vampire soaking social proof and energy from every interaction

allow yourself to 'feed off' the energy you get as the night goes on.

his seems cool! How exactly do you guys go about doing this?

Another factor is losing the high energy and learn to be intriguing with low energy. Piercing EC and a low voice are the tools of the low energy trade.

Yeah. This is something I need to work on. Every time I'm in a lower energy mood, I have difficulty with flirting/spiking attraction altogether. Instead, I go straight into deep diving which girls don't seem to go for. And that makes sense cause why should they? I've given her no good reason to want to talk to me so far. I've been thinking maybe the concept of "DHV" from old school pickup might not be a bad idea?