Getting compliments

[Anonymous]

Heya,

New member here, been lurking around a couple of months now, and I have made huge progress, had my first ons (and it was a 7) and I have built a stronger confidence and self-esteem.

However it suddenly came to me that I am terrible at receiving compliments, I've never been in a position in my entire life to earn compliments on other things than my intelligence etc..

Two weeks ago I was out with friends and i suddenly found myself raving to techno (the old school one) slightly intoxicated, suddenly this blonde (i love them) 9 comes up to me and wants to dance. We share a few words and I exercise what I have learnt here, all is good. We continue to dance, and she compliments my perfume, trying to guess which one it is or something, i'm all startled but I continue to dance, she dances with me for 1 hour, after which the club closes. During the dancing i kiss her gaining confidence she might enjoy it because she complimented my perfume, and we make out some three times, but she didn't want to do it anymore when her friend is around. When the club closes im unable to close the deal, she was from out of town visiting friends, but i feel like i have no idea what the next move should be, what i should make of this situation. Next day i met her again by random after sharing which club i was going to, at first she was energtic and happy about seeing me and we were going for a place to sit down, it was pretty crowded, so she wanted to go to the bathroom, i let her, then after 10 minutes of her not showing up i give up and join my friends again. The next day she texts me back that she lost her wallet, which she might have, i dunno. Anyhow I fail to recognize what i do wrong and what i do right.

Anyhow, i have been more active on Tinder, and today a girl complimented how good i was at taking initiative, i take this is a compliment, but all i kept thinking for 5 minutes was if she was kidding or not. It really bugs me that i have to go through things like that.

I'd really appreciate if anyone would share their tips and experiences.

 

[Suave]

Those were cool, get some experience and you'll do better. Don't worry that much about it. I repeat, DO NOT WORRY! CONSCIOUSLY! Since you f'ked up, the next time some girl compliments you, you'll automatically do better.

Something to try, however is, SMILE. Smile (The flirty kind) is good for such times, then lower your value and give it to her, since she complimented you, the ball's in your court already, so move things forward.