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Need some advice- Complicated situation with a girl I was sleeping with for a few months.
Met her through one of my good platonic girl friends.. We hooked up one night, and shortly after that we started having a casual relationship. She actually wanted this . Mostly seeing each other in social situations but then started being just us. Sex was off the chart for both of us, tons in common, and led to being more on the boundaries of casual but more emotional intimacy. She iniaited she didnt want this to just be a fling and lead somewhere. Over a few months we were seeing each other more and more. Usually I dont get too attached to girls but this one I was starting too and she was as well. I made tons of mistakes that you the articles were talking about. Seeing her too much, being a little too needy, although it was returned alot. She was very hard to read, mixed signals gallore on what she wanted. One day all over me, next gone cold. Part of me wanted to just trash it cause it was too confusing. After a while she ended it as it got to be a little too much for her and I came across as a little too easy.
Note: I had just got out of a 5 year relationship so I got a little too caught up and didnt do all the things like talking with other girls etc. It was kind of a rebound. We did have such an amazing connection, physically and emotionally, and I know she felt that too. She got out of one too which was also part of the reason she got scared and a little overwhelmed.
After it ended it was when I found this site. I did all the things you talked about and would see her through friends ocassionally. Last weekend she started texting me and made it pretty transparent she had interest. We slept together again and it was great sex. In the morning she was all lovey dovey like nothing really changed and this where Im at a loss on next steps. Its something id like to explore but dont want to make the same mistakes, but also dont want to just cash it up to a one time bang and nothing. Im still talking with other girls, etc but how do I switch the power and give the least effort but still want to see her and not come across like I used too. I will see her without setting up anything but I dont want the attraction window to close. Not sure whether to just play it super cool and see where when I do or touch base casually. Feels like if I reach out to set something up and see her she will think Im too easy and sort of chasing her. Dont want to do nothing but not sure what to do.
Any advice on next steps after you re bedded her? Ive realized all my mistakes from before and have gotten back to myself prior to being on rebound.
Thanks guys
Met her through one of my good platonic girl friends.. We hooked up one night, and shortly after that we started having a casual relationship. She actually wanted this . Mostly seeing each other in social situations but then started being just us. Sex was off the chart for both of us, tons in common, and led to being more on the boundaries of casual but more emotional intimacy. She iniaited she didnt want this to just be a fling and lead somewhere. Over a few months we were seeing each other more and more. Usually I dont get too attached to girls but this one I was starting too and she was as well. I made tons of mistakes that you the articles were talking about. Seeing her too much, being a little too needy, although it was returned alot. She was very hard to read, mixed signals gallore on what she wanted. One day all over me, next gone cold. Part of me wanted to just trash it cause it was too confusing. After a while she ended it as it got to be a little too much for her and I came across as a little too easy.
Note: I had just got out of a 5 year relationship so I got a little too caught up and didnt do all the things like talking with other girls etc. It was kind of a rebound. We did have such an amazing connection, physically and emotionally, and I know she felt that too. She got out of one too which was also part of the reason she got scared and a little overwhelmed.
After it ended it was when I found this site. I did all the things you talked about and would see her through friends ocassionally. Last weekend she started texting me and made it pretty transparent she had interest. We slept together again and it was great sex. In the morning she was all lovey dovey like nothing really changed and this where Im at a loss on next steps. Its something id like to explore but dont want to make the same mistakes, but also dont want to just cash it up to a one time bang and nothing. Im still talking with other girls, etc but how do I switch the power and give the least effort but still want to see her and not come across like I used too. I will see her without setting up anything but I dont want the attraction window to close. Not sure whether to just play it super cool and see where when I do or touch base casually. Feels like if I reach out to set something up and see her she will think Im too easy and sort of chasing her. Dont want to do nothing but not sure what to do.
Any advice on next steps after you re bedded her? Ive realized all my mistakes from before and have gotten back to myself prior to being on rebound.
Thanks guys
