Right, so I just started 6th Form and there's a bunch of new girls in my school One of these new girls catches the same bus as I do, and pretty quickly she (who has a pretty long-standing boyfriend), myself and my mate have all become pretty good friends. Since my number of really good female friends has never exceeded more than 1 or 2 at a time, it's little surprise that soon after this I worked out I was attracted to her. Like, quite a lot. Only problem is, of course, that she's already taken. Plus obviously now i've broken the "scarsity" rule and so she seems happy as friends. But annoyingly that hasn't stopped me from, for want of a better word, starting to obsess over her.
The mixed signals sure as hell aren't helping either:
-Fairly often she's talking about her boyfriend and seemingly is dissatisfied, BUT it isn't consistent by any means and she's never hinted at a potential break up.
-Fairly regularly she flirts with me (not my mate, but not sure if that's due to lack of interest or knowing he's taken). BUT often she sounds more mocking or teasing than genuinely flirting. She also frequently refers to me as "buddy", which obviously is friend over anything else.
-Then she invited me to a party, and later in the evening we snuck away for a few moments and made out. BUT she was pretty drunk and so far as i can tell doesn't remember it - neither of us have brought it up.
-Finally she's made a slight habit of gently poking me, usually in the arm but every so often going for the...nipple? It's actually become a running joke between us by this point (again probably a bad thing for me). Poking back on the arms has not been seen as overstepping any bounds, though for being a bit of a pussy I haven't tried going any further with it
So yeah. I'm pretty damn sure she's either consciously or subconsciously just being a tease. Though I haven't said anything outright, I wouldn't be surprised if she's worked out I at least have a crush on her. My head's telling me "Drop it and avoid her as best you can!", especially after reading Chase's advice. BUT I can't just catch another bus, since it's too much effort and will detract from my already weak social life. More to the point, the rest of my body doesn't wan to give up even knowing it's almost certainly a lost cause. Plus, she's actually a pretty decent friend regardless of this (like getting me to that party etc,).
Any thoughts? Either to win her over or more likely accept my place as "just a friend" and get over her?
The mixed signals sure as hell aren't helping either:
-Fairly often she's talking about her boyfriend and seemingly is dissatisfied, BUT it isn't consistent by any means and she's never hinted at a potential break up.
-Fairly regularly she flirts with me (not my mate, but not sure if that's due to lack of interest or knowing he's taken). BUT often she sounds more mocking or teasing than genuinely flirting. She also frequently refers to me as "buddy", which obviously is friend over anything else.
-Then she invited me to a party, and later in the evening we snuck away for a few moments and made out. BUT she was pretty drunk and so far as i can tell doesn't remember it - neither of us have brought it up.
-Finally she's made a slight habit of gently poking me, usually in the arm but every so often going for the...nipple? It's actually become a running joke between us by this point (again probably a bad thing for me). Poking back on the arms has not been seen as overstepping any bounds, though for being a bit of a pussy I haven't tried going any further with it
So yeah. I'm pretty damn sure she's either consciously or subconsciously just being a tease. Though I haven't said anything outright, I wouldn't be surprised if she's worked out I at least have a crush on her. My head's telling me "Drop it and avoid her as best you can!", especially after reading Chase's advice. BUT I can't just catch another bus, since it's too much effort and will detract from my already weak social life. More to the point, the rest of my body doesn't wan to give up even knowing it's almost certainly a lost cause. Plus, she's actually a pretty decent friend regardless of this (like getting me to that party etc,).
Any thoughts? Either to win her over or more likely accept my place as "just a friend" and get over her?
