Getting Sexual over Text..

[PrettyDecent]

Would be interested to hear y'alls experience in getting sexual/sexually teasing/sexually framing over the texting-medium. For example, here's a convo I had with a girl who texted me earlier today:

Her: Just finished packing.. =\
Me: No worries Brazil gal got dragged out tonight..let's finalize Clancys tomo at 1?
Her: Deal!
Me: Cool
Her: Fuck! I just remembered I finish work at 3. Is 3:30 too late?
Me: Wear something sexy and we'll say 4

Now, she hasn't answered back, but I'm still confident we'll see each other tomorrow - she's tried getting me out a couple other times. But point is, she didn't play along with the sexual frame, and it perplexes me. I haven't played much with getting sexual over text, and when I have, it almost never gets played along with unless the girl and I had strong sexual tension in person, too.

How do you fellas fare with sexuality in text? Any ideas on making it work, or is the success determined before you even exchanged numbers (e.g. through strong sexual tension)?

 

[Franco]

PD,

Her: Fuck! I just remembered I finish work at 3. Is 3:30 too late?
Me: Wear something sexy and we'll say 4

Nothing particularly bad here, and sometimes I'll say something like this too. But I can already tell you the issue with this is that it doesn't imply "sexual undertones." Whenever you refer to anything sexual over text, it should be rather witty and imply sexual things without directly asking for them or stating them. I'm sure you already know this, but as an example:

• Her: Ugh, that test I took earlier today was really hard and took forever!
  Me: Well, not everything that's hard and long is a bad thing, you know.

She KNOWS what you're referring to, but you present it in a socially "suave" fashion that isn't breaking any rules while still slightly "bending" them. Also, be prepared with the fact that your first sexual text to a girl that you've just met usually takes the LONGEST for her to reply to. As soon as she sees a text like the one I mentioned above, she'll probably have to decide at that point whether or not she's attracted to you that way and whether or not she's willing to play along! Sometimes a girl will be responding to me in less than an hour, and then suddenly I send a sexual text, and then I don't hear from her for 12 hours! But often times, after the 12 or so hours, the text I usually get back is something like this...

• Me: Well, not everything that's hard and long is a bad thing, you know.
  Her: Oh really? And what would an example of that be?

...and then you're off to the races!

The important thing is to NOT double-text her. Never send another text after you send a bold, confident text until she replies to it. Too many guys (pussies) like to test the water with a sexual text, and then when she doesn't reply immediately, they try to send another text and change the subject. This shows fear and a lack of confidence. These days, I'm pretty sure girls even wait to respond to texts like this JUST to see if the guy will take it back. They appreciate the ones who don't, however!

- Franco

 

[Gentle_Phrases]

Hey PrettyDecent - best of luck with this gal. I'm looking forward to reading your FR

As soon as she sees a text like the one I mentioned above, she'll probably have to decide at that point whether or not she's attracted to you that way and whether or not she's willing to play along

So Franco, what would happen if I sent a girl "8=========D" via text about 10 minutes before a date?

We should test out this game tactic...for science.

 

[Whizzy]

Hey PrettyDecent - best of luck with this gal. I'm looking forward to reading your FR

As soon as she sees a text like the one I mentioned above, she'll probably have to decide at that point whether or not she's attracted to you that way and whether or not she's willing to play along

So Franco, what would happen if I sent a girl "8=========D" via text about 10 minutes before a date?

We should test out this game tactic...for science.

I would assume that isn't the ideal text to send a girl you just met