getting women to open up

[shaneawi]

Every time I meet a new girl and we talk the conversations go well. I'm able to deep dive, keep the convo on her, talk about her family, relate back etc. When I talk to a girl the next time I see her I'm able to bring up topics she told me in the past such as asking about her family or a class she was taking. The conversations seem to go well, she's smiling, excited, kind of nervous. But I'm always the one to have to initiate any interaction. I could be sitting next to this girl in class and she won't say hey but she'll do it to other guys that she has little to no interest in.

What am I doing wrong in not being able to get women to open up to me? I feel like I'm putting in effort and investment to get to know them but I can't even get a "hey." I'm not asking for friendship, sex or a relationship, just a "hey" when shes sees me.

Any advice?

 

[DLegend]

Go by what Drexel said. You're probably investing too much on her, without getting any back. She doesn't say hi to you in class? Who cares. Pretend she doesn't exist and go talk to other girls in class, get that preselection, and she'll definitely start noticing. You were probably chasing when you were talking to her, especially if she's showing no investment

Rule of thumb for chasing: If the feeling is mutual, it isn't chasing. If it's not, then it's chasing.

Example: If a girl is telling you she has to go, but hoping you'll stop her, If you stand up and grab her arm and tell her not to go, then it's not chasing, it's persistence.. She wanted you to do that. But if she thinks you're weird/creepy or simply isn't interested, then doing something like that will definitely be considered chasing.

You just gotta read her cues!

Good luck, DL

 

[Man-O]

I find it that if they don't open up chances are the conversation will fade out within a min., and I'm on to the next or head back to friends and chill.