Long-Term GF 1 week vacation abroad. How to handle it?

[surfer11]

Hey Fellas,

I have been currently dating my girlfriend for 5 months and has been one of my best relationship abroad. There is a lot of laughs and good times together. She booked a vacation abroad to visit her friends where she used to live and I know that she is going to go party and have a great time. I know she will go clubbing and I am not sure but there is always the possibility that she will get drunk and hook up with some guy.

My question is:

How do you handle this situation?

I.e. Do you just say, baby, I trust you have fun or set some boundaries.

Thanks in advance for your time.

Cheers,

Surfer

 

[Sandman]

What I usually do is I say "I don't date girls who party but you're free to do as you wish babes, it's your decision".

However I play it like this because I know if I say this my gf will not go and party. If that's not the case in your relationship maybe you can say I trust you. If she's going abroad there's gonna be a great temptation to go out and party (none of my exes went abroad without me while I was dating them).

You should not restrict her and be needy. Setting boundaries like "you have to text me" shows neediness or saying "you can't drink" will probably lead to her not listening to you which is bad precedent.

If it's a relationship abroad, your days are probably limited anyhow (I assume you'll go back to your native country at some point). It's especially important then to not show neediness. Do you want her to remember you as a fresh air in the years to come or that guy who did not let her have some fun?

If you want to marry her, I suggest find a girl who does not party.

Anyhow, If she loves you she'll stay loyal 98% of the time (%2 is not worth worrying over because that's always a possibility). What you have to worry about is if she often parties without you (once every two weeks for example).