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Twice in the last couple of weeks I have met a girl out somewhere, she has asked me for my number or asked me on a date, and then when I went for the follow-up, things went sour.
First story is a little long, but really bizarre (which is what pushed me to sign up for this site and post). Met a girl at a bar, we seemed to get along a bit but got separated, I chalked it up as a lost cause and let it go. The next night, I'm coming back from a bar with a few buddies on a night bus when I run into her with her friends. We get to chatting, she gets off the bus at the same stop as me, and within a few minutes she asks me for my number. Her connecting bus arrives and she runs after it, yelling "text me" before she gets on the bus, I tell her "I will."
Two days later, I text her in the evening. Get a reply the next morning that is kind of cool. A couple more flirty texts happen and I'm about to ask her out, but I misunderstand something she writes, get a response of confusion, I then explain myself, and don't get any more replies. Three days later, I text her asking her if she wants to go out the next week. No response. The next night I sent her a text basically asking "what went wrong here?," and I say that if I don't hear back I'll let it drop. She writes me a long reply apologizing and saying that she wants to hang out with me soon.
I reply proposing a date (for clarity's sake, I'll say it was Thursday), she proposes a day earlier. Wednesday comes, she texts me that afternoon saying she can't make it, and asks what I'm doing on Friday. I tell her I might be going to a party but I'm not sure yet, "how about you?" No response. When Friday comes, I text her in the afternoon asking if she wants to hang out still. She immediately replies with, "Hey! Already going out to a bar." Not a great response, but whatever, I ask if she wants to hang out the following night. She immediately agrees. We make plans for a time and place.
That same night (Friday), amazingly, I run into her again at the same place we had last seen each other. I say hi to her, and she gives me a look of utter confusion, says nothing, and leaves with her friend. At this point I'm assuming she must have somehow not even recognized me (the first time I saw her was Halloween, I was in a costume, I don't know). Rather than text her asking her what the hell just happened, I figured I would just go to the agreed-upon meeting spot on Saturday and go from there, even though I'm not sure she'll show up at this point.
I text her at the appointed time and tell her I'm going to be five minutes late. She responds with, "no no no!"...two minutes later, "I'm sick." Third: "I'm sorry I forgot to tell you." I'm thinking to myself, "are you kidding me?" At this point, I called her. I basically said, "listen, if you don't want to hang out it's fine--I'm starting to feel stupid here." She says "no, I feel stupid, I want to meet." I tell her that if she really wants to meet then to give me a date and time later and then let me know--I probably shouldn't have even done that, but I figured at least this way I won't be sitting around worrying if I should be bothering any longer. She sends me a long text after the call apologizing and saying that she will set up a date and time, "trust me on that."
I was still pretty pissed at this point--I had just been stood up on a date for the first time in my life, and now that I knew she recognized me the previous night, I was even more angry and confused as to why she didn't at least say hi to me. I replied a few hours later, basically saying, "I don't know what to say, it's not like these are isolated incidents...you're clearly ambivalent about the prospect of us meeting up. If you still want to meet then fine, I'll give you the benefit of the doubt, but if not, just forget it."
Of course, I haven't heard back from her, and I don't expect to (honestly, not sure I want to after all this). My question is simply: what the hell happened here? How can a girl go from asking me for my number to being so damn wishy-washy?
Second story is much shorter; less to tell. Met a girl at a bar that same night (Saturday), we were hitting it off, she asks me for my Facebook/number, asks if I want to get a coffee sometime. I texted her yesterday in the afternoon, and haven't gotten a response. This being right after the first incident, I feel like I'm at my wit's end and losing my mind.
First story is a little long, but really bizarre (which is what pushed me to sign up for this site and post). Met a girl at a bar, we seemed to get along a bit but got separated, I chalked it up as a lost cause and let it go. The next night, I'm coming back from a bar with a few buddies on a night bus when I run into her with her friends. We get to chatting, she gets off the bus at the same stop as me, and within a few minutes she asks me for my number. Her connecting bus arrives and she runs after it, yelling "text me" before she gets on the bus, I tell her "I will."
Two days later, I text her in the evening. Get a reply the next morning that is kind of cool. A couple more flirty texts happen and I'm about to ask her out, but I misunderstand something she writes, get a response of confusion, I then explain myself, and don't get any more replies. Three days later, I text her asking her if she wants to go out the next week. No response. The next night I sent her a text basically asking "what went wrong here?," and I say that if I don't hear back I'll let it drop. She writes me a long reply apologizing and saying that she wants to hang out with me soon.
I reply proposing a date (for clarity's sake, I'll say it was Thursday), she proposes a day earlier. Wednesday comes, she texts me that afternoon saying she can't make it, and asks what I'm doing on Friday. I tell her I might be going to a party but I'm not sure yet, "how about you?" No response. When Friday comes, I text her in the afternoon asking if she wants to hang out still. She immediately replies with, "Hey! Already going out to a bar." Not a great response, but whatever, I ask if she wants to hang out the following night. She immediately agrees. We make plans for a time and place.
That same night (Friday), amazingly, I run into her again at the same place we had last seen each other. I say hi to her, and she gives me a look of utter confusion, says nothing, and leaves with her friend. At this point I'm assuming she must have somehow not even recognized me (the first time I saw her was Halloween, I was in a costume, I don't know). Rather than text her asking her what the hell just happened, I figured I would just go to the agreed-upon meeting spot on Saturday and go from there, even though I'm not sure she'll show up at this point.
I text her at the appointed time and tell her I'm going to be five minutes late. She responds with, "no no no!"...two minutes later, "I'm sick." Third: "I'm sorry I forgot to tell you." I'm thinking to myself, "are you kidding me?" At this point, I called her. I basically said, "listen, if you don't want to hang out it's fine--I'm starting to feel stupid here." She says "no, I feel stupid, I want to meet." I tell her that if she really wants to meet then to give me a date and time later and then let me know--I probably shouldn't have even done that, but I figured at least this way I won't be sitting around worrying if I should be bothering any longer. She sends me a long text after the call apologizing and saying that she will set up a date and time, "trust me on that."
I was still pretty pissed at this point--I had just been stood up on a date for the first time in my life, and now that I knew she recognized me the previous night, I was even more angry and confused as to why she didn't at least say hi to me. I replied a few hours later, basically saying, "I don't know what to say, it's not like these are isolated incidents...you're clearly ambivalent about the prospect of us meeting up. If you still want to meet then fine, I'll give you the benefit of the doubt, but if not, just forget it."
Of course, I haven't heard back from her, and I don't expect to (honestly, not sure I want to after all this). My question is simply: what the hell happened here? How can a girl go from asking me for my number to being so damn wishy-washy?
Second story is much shorter; less to tell. Met a girl at a bar that same night (Saturday), we were hitting it off, she asks me for my Facebook/number, asks if I want to get a coffee sometime. I texted her yesterday in the afternoon, and haven't gotten a response. This being right after the first incident, I feel like I'm at my wit's end and losing my mind.
