Girl first responds after 2 weeks -- what to do?

[jackal2020]

Here's the situation:

I met a girl on the street, said hello, she was asking me tons of questions, agreed to a drinks date, and we swapped numbers (though to be fair, she wanted to trade Facebooks, and I had to insist on numbers). Looked alright from there.

However, she then ignored my icebreaker. A few days later, I sent her a 'planning logistics' text, which she also ignored. A few days after that (a week after we met) I sent a quick video message, since I've been experimenting with those and they're hilarious. She reads it immediately (read receipts), and ignores it.

But then, another week later (two weeks after we first met), she comes back with a "hi! sorry i was really busy." And that's all.

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What would you do from here?

I considered trying to drag the conversation out with a "safer" response. But, my take on the situation is that this girl isn't all that interested -- she'd have replied to an earlier message or sooner if she were. Hard sell, so I'm not gonna waste my time trying too hard when there are better options elsewhere.

So, I opted for a warmer version of 'hi, so you decided you want to chill?' I reasoned that is the only interesting reason she'd be texting me now -- I've been very direct all along, figured this stays consistent. If she texted me for some other reason, I'm not all that interested.

We'll see what happens.

 

[ulrich]

Girls sometimes revive dead numbers when they are bored just to feel some attention/get some validation.

If she didn’t reply you at first, she is not feeling excited about you and 99% sure this is a dead lead for you.

Feel free to try bold things here. Chances are you won’t get anything from her.

 

[foggy]

you missed an escalation window by moving too slow. she wanted to fuck that day.

after missing the window, she kept you in her back pocket and is giving you a second chance now.

you're best to strongly take the lead here and move this to sex sooner rather than later. ie today.

 

[Fuck This]

Reply like it was the next day. Don't hang all your hopes on it, Schedule something in the next 3 days, even if it is just coffee.
The late reply was Strike 1.

 

[Chase]

@jackal2020,

Going in the right direction.

She already had a lot of negative investment built up with you. You've invested a lot more heavily than her and she just ignored you.

Then, very basic text to you.

I'd have gone even more basic back than what you replied with, and not proposed a date or anything -- she hasn't earned it yet at this point.

Instead, just:

Her: hi! sorry i was really busy​

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You: Hey... I know that feel. So what's up?​

Then if she gives you something, you can proceed with pitching the meet.

There is also the other alternative... where you get that message from her and then just IMMEDIATELY call her.

Like, within 60 second of her sending it if possible.

I have done this quite a few times to girls like this, and I absolutely love it. I find it personally hilarious, doing this.

It's like "Gotcha!"

Because a lot of the time she is just assuaging her guilt by ignoring you by sending one little text that is not going to go anywhere. Telling herself, "All right, I'm not a COMPLETE bitch... see, I replied to him once..." at which point she'll go back to ignoring you.

But if you call her immediately after she messaged you, it's highly socially unacceptable for her to ignore that call, after she's just apologized for being unavailable. So she's all but forced to take it.

Of course, once you have her on the call, then you can engage her with your voice, re-seduce her, and get her intrigued again... then try to nail her down on a date that day if possible, to get her out while she's still feeling you before she goes disappearing all over again... if not, then get the next date set with her ASAP. Don't give her time to slip back into flake mode.

Chase