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There's this girl I know from university who grew up not far away from my parents' cottage. She's staying at her parents' place right now, and I'm at the cottage alone for the next couple weeks, so we decided to hang out. We met up in the park and played volleyball for a bit, hit up a festival that was going on nearby, and then came back to my place.
There's always been a bit of sexual tension between us, and we hadn't seen each other for over half a year (and last time I saw her she had a boyfriend). I still wasn't sure whether to make a move on her or just treat her as a friend, but after a while I put two and two together: she had come back to my place alone with me, she made lengthy eye contact with me (which I held) without saying anything, listened to me playing piano, and at the time I decided to go in for the kiss, we were sitting beside each other on the couch and she had her legs over me.
When I went in for the kiss, she didn't reciprocate and just looked at me in the eyes. When I asked what was going on, she said "it's not that I wouldn't want to,", but that there was some guy that she was "talking to", and it was nothing serious but she felt guilty doing anything with me. We kept hanging out and lied together on the couch after that, and we escalated a little bit and kept touching each other but never got anywhere close to sex. Eventually her mom called and wanted to come home because she was worried about her, so I drove her home.
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I'm not very good at getting through LMR – this was probably the third or fourth time I've dealt with it, and I've never gotten through it except maybe once. Her reason for saying no seemed pretty weak, and I feel like if I built a better connection, used foot-in-the-door techniques and yes ladders, I could maybe have gotten through it. At the time, it wasn't all that frustrating not to get to sex – I was happy to be getting as far as I did, and I don't think it ruined our friendship, and I think some of the tension is still there – but it sure is frustrating the next day to think about how we might've had sex last night and possibly this morning.
There's always been a bit of sexual tension between us, and we hadn't seen each other for over half a year (and last time I saw her she had a boyfriend). I still wasn't sure whether to make a move on her or just treat her as a friend, but after a while I put two and two together: she had come back to my place alone with me, she made lengthy eye contact with me (which I held) without saying anything, listened to me playing piano, and at the time I decided to go in for the kiss, we were sitting beside each other on the couch and she had her legs over me.
When I went in for the kiss, she didn't reciprocate and just looked at me in the eyes. When I asked what was going on, she said "it's not that I wouldn't want to,", but that there was some guy that she was "talking to", and it was nothing serious but she felt guilty doing anything with me. We kept hanging out and lied together on the couch after that, and we escalated a little bit and kept touching each other but never got anywhere close to sex. Eventually her mom called and wanted to come home because she was worried about her, so I drove her home.
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I'm not very good at getting through LMR – this was probably the third or fourth time I've dealt with it, and I've never gotten through it except maybe once. Her reason for saying no seemed pretty weak, and I feel like if I built a better connection, used foot-in-the-door techniques and yes ladders, I could maybe have gotten through it. At the time, it wasn't all that frustrating not to get to sex – I was happy to be getting as far as I did, and I don't think it ruined our friendship, and I think some of the tension is still there – but it sure is frustrating the next day to think about how we might've had sex last night and possibly this morning.
