Girl from work - easy read.

[OldSelf]

Hey everyone, hope you're all having a great week.

I recently got hired as a server again at my old job. This time, I have a lot more experience with flirting, teasing, my body language is on point, and I'm way more independent and no longer suffer from victim mentality (thanks a ton!)

It's my 4th night back at work and all the girls are being really sweet and engaging. It's great.

Tonight I was having some beers with one of the girls and I deep dove her as we chilled outside.

She made a few comments like, "You're really deep." to which I answered, "Yeah, definitely so." She then went off and brought up her boyfriend when I asked her what her living situation was. I said, "Eh, everyone is so caught up in money and as Socrates said (when Alexander the Great asked him what he wanted from all the riches he possessed), 'Just move out of the sun, you're blocking my tan.'" She said, "I wish you could tell that to my boyfriend, he's all about money. I can't remember the last time he looked at me in the eyes as I talked to him."

I'm not sure if it was on purpose or she genuinely just said it.

I replied, "Wow." In a, who wouldn't want to look into a cute girl's eyes while chatting, kind-of-way.

She said, "Oh god, I'm so sorry... I don't know why I said that..."

To which I replied, "It's alright... speak your mind."

We share some laughs and the chemistry was really strong. I asked what time it was and when she answered I said, "Well, ____, I'm gonna get going."

She didn't say anything and started cleaning up the table and I walked inside. I walk about 30 or 40 feet and turn around and say, "Hey ___ before I forget, let's exchange info." and give her my phone. She says, "Sure! In case you want to cover shifts or something..?" I replied, "Perhaps" and smile. She smiles puts her number and I grab my helmet and leave.

I'm outside about to take off on my bike and she says, "So that's her, huh? At least it's not a crotch-rocket." I smile and says, "Abso-fucking-lutely it's not." and pull away.

If you've made it this far reading: was I chasing when I went for her number, should I have corrected the frame instead of keeping it ambiguous when she brought up why we were exchanging information and do you think I should even pursue a girl I work with?

Best

ST

 

[foggy]

Sounds like a fun time

She is directly stating to you that she's unhappy with her boyfriend. Indirectly she's basically telling you to save her. I've learned that when girls say "I don't know why I said that to you", it is a sign of interest.

The fact you left your frame open to interpretation was a good idea. You're communicating you are discreet which is important to her because she has a boyfriend. But basically you're implying that you are getting her contact info to hang out. If anyone were to ask though, she could easily say you got it for shift changes and say it convincingly. As well, you probably excited her a little.

Chase has some excellent articles on how to know if you're the one who is chasing or not. Ask yourself this simple question: would this girl ask you for your number to keep this interaction moving forward? In this case the answer is yes, so you are not chasing. Anytime you can imagine a girl doing the thing you want to do, then its not chasing. If she wasn't showing signs of interest and you asked for her number? Thatd be chasing.

Pursuing people you work with is usually a bad idea.

 

[OldSelf]

backstory,

It totally was

When I read, "she's basically telling you to save her." I think of white-knighting.... But then I think of James Bond who beds women whose husband he just killed for doing 'evil' things in the world. Is saving a girl a good thing and is that a good frame to roll with?

And you're right, after a few days of meeting some cute girls and bedding a few new ones, shitting where I eat is not a good idea... Considering my livelihood is dependent on my job at this place and it's a rural area where jobs are hard to come by and she's a life-long friend of the owners... Bad, bad idea!

Thanks for the aid,

ST