Girl goes from hot to cold in 24 hrs. Why?

[Mr.Rob]

Okay this one has me stumped like no other right now!

Yesterday I went to an out of the way college to hit up some daygame.

I go up to a group of girls (3), I tell them I have a crush on one of the girls but I can't tell them because if the girl I like has a boyfriend I'll cry :'(.

The group immediately singles out the girl without a boyfriend (1 out of the 2 hotties) and I chat her up. She's attracted I can tell by the way she's looking at me. For one I made her day and she was quite enthralled but also she seemed genuinely interested and I could tell we had good sexual chemistry. She has to jet off to class immediately so I pull her aside real quick and get her number before sending her off to class.

She calls out my name as we part ways.

So at this point I'm thinking she's definitely into me right? I'm pretty good at telling these days when girls are into me based on their body language.

Anyway I text her an icebreaker, no response...

No big deal she's in class probably has shit going on and just forgot.

I call her tonight, I address the fact that it was totally crazy/random how we met, I address that I might have embarrassed her in front of her friends (she says it wasn't a big deal), and then I just try and have a normal warm conversation and she's a block of ice.


She won't contribute at all and interrupts me to ask me "is the only reason you called to have small talk?" I try and handle objections and other bullshit, but fail in getting to a substantial place of ground. She gives me the "nice to meet you" and hangs up.

Haha I'm befuddled not so much to her (I've had way worse phone call rejections than that) but as to what caused such a HUGE change in mind.

Most girls I call that were only a tad interested usually give me the time of day on the phone to see what I can do but this girl who was seemingly interested initially cuts me off....

My question: What is this girls thought process to switch so immediately from one extreme to the other. To be soooo enthralled to meet me one minute and then act like she wish she didn't know me the next. Could anyone enlighten me as to what she was thinking?

Thanks =)

-Rob

 

[Thedoctor]

Rob,

Seems to me she got irritated that you called with no purpose, which is why she made that comment. Phone calls shouldn't be much different than texts. You might make a bit of chit chat to get a bit of rapport going, but get to the point fairly quickly. Ask her out somewhere. Otherwise, you're a man who does things without purpose, which is not generally seen as an attractive trait.

-John

 

[Mr.Rob]

You might make a bit of chit chat to get a bit of rapport going, but get to the point fairly quickly.

Yeah that was the game plan. She got testy very quickly into the call. Though you could definitely be right, perhaps I should've been even more direct and just skipped the bullshit altogether.

Thanks for input Doc,

-Rob

 

[Drck]

She won't contribute at all and interrupts me to ask me "is the only reason you called to have small talk?"
>>>> Yes, exactly, you called her without purpose. You wanted to chitchat over the phone. She is not interested, she can chitchat with her girlfriends all day long, and she probably does every day.

She meets a guy, he looks attractive, sexy, confident, perhaps dominant. Good vibes are there, she gets excited. He's got balls to ask for a phone number, good. Ok, what else is he gonna ask for? How far is he going to go? What is he going to take away from her without asking her permissions, and without worrying what she's thinking?

ACTIONS would be a good answer. Take her out. Don't ASK her where she would like to go and when, don't ASK her which places she likes. Don't ask her for permission. TELL her: why don't we go to XYZ, they have a great ABC there. Is Th or Sa good for you? (You can't Fr because Fr you have another date).

So now she's got to chose between two days - two days of your choice. Now she's got to go to XYZ - a place of your choice. Now she's got to do ABC - do things of your choice. Now she's got to follow because you placed yourself to a leading position, you don't ASK - you TELL. Now she knows that you are leading, that you are making decisions, that you are pushing things forward - you got specific place and specific time, specific things to do - with her. Now she knows that you have a life, and you want to have and specific things in your life, and you want specific persons in your life - now she knows that you want Her! And, you didn't even have to say that you want her, she already knows it... And now her mind is rolling, now her calculator is calculating... Now she's got to do things to keep this guy interested...

Why do you think that most women never get anything done? Because all they do is talk, they talk all day long, then they sleep, wake up, and talk some more. In between talks they text, and when they get tired texting they talk again. They have no real goal to accomplish anything, they can't decide anything, they can't push for anything, they can't move things forward - all they can do is talk only.

That's the reason why they don't need guys to talk that much. They don't really desire to chitchat with guys, it's ok but not that important. They desire man, a guy with ACTIONS, guy who pushes things forward regardless of high possibility of rejection. It's a risk, and he is risking being rejected by her, so she must appreciate it even if she doesn't really have feelings for him..l They desire guy who TELLS them without asking their permission....

But she's not stupid, she knows the power play. She may suggest another day, or another place, just to show that she won't follow so easily. Just to confuse you, just to see whether you really have balls, whether you are really confident - or just pretend... Which is fine, who really cares. Give her that, let her win, show that you are flexible and open minded - and next time do exactly the same, then repeat over and over, keep repeating till her frame collapses. It's your choices, it's your place and it is time of your choice...

 

[Mr.Rob]

I swear I'm innocent don't shoot me Drck!

Because all they do is talk, they talk all day long, then they sleep, wake up, and talk some more. In between talks they text, and when they get tired texting they talk again

Haha actually this part was funny