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anyways here it goes:
I'm quite confused about something and I was wondering if you could help me out a little here.
Two months ago I met this (Chinese) girl who moved here from the Netherlands to start her business with her sister (24 & 25 years of age), they became pretty good clients at my dad's company, and after seeing her 2 times or so in our office/her business I decided to add the both of them on facebook, seeing they had moved in not that long before and they might want to make some new friends or whatnot.
So they both accepted my friend request and then I discovered she has a boyfriend who lives about 140 miles away and I didn't talk to either of the girls for the first week or 2, then she commented on one of my pictures and I ended up making a joke to her about her comment in private chat, but cut off the conversation not much later...
A week or 2 after that she suddenly started talking to me asking me what I was doing at the time, and after asking me if I wanted to go for a drink, I said yes.
So the 2 of us went out for a drink and it was just a casual drink and I dropped her at her house 1 or 2 hours later.
We went out like 8 times in 12 days even though she works 12 hour days 5 days a week, which kind of surprised me.
I was suspect that she wanted something more because of the way she talked to me, double bottom type of things and asking me what I'm doing quite a lot, and inviting me over and all that stuff.
I figured she was just being very very friendly towards me and decided not to think anything about it, she has a boyfriend after all...
One night I did go out with her and 2 of my (male) friends, she was complaining about her boyfriend, saying it was hard to have a long distance relationship, and that relationships didn't matter much, it was all about work at this point.
By the time she had said this I had already developed a crush on her and I was pretty hurt by her saying that, and it was noticable that evening (so my friend said).
So we left the place after that drink and I decided I was just going to drop her off at her home, it wasn't going to be anything anyways and I was just going to get hurt, I figured.
So I tell her that I have to work tomorrow, it was rather late and I was better to get some sleep.
The following quote (translated) is from what followed:
Her: "No c'mon let's go do something... cmon" -while poking my arm once
Me: "So what do u want to do then?"
Her: -whips her hair- "I'm down for anything"
--
So at that point I didn't realise the situation and was confused and a little bit angry about what she said before, thinking did I just hear this correctly because she does have a boyfriend...
I dropped her off not long after that, only thing we did was stop at a parking and smoke a cigarette, and she smoked one too even though she's not a smoker.
Also, one of the days after that she posted on my public facebook wall "if i were still asleep"
I found that rather weird and was wondering what her boyfriend must think of that if he saw it.
A couple days after that I invited her to have a drink when she was done with work... she said yes, so I was just waiting for her to finish what she had to do so I could pick her up.
She suddenly messages me asking if it weren't better to just do some boardgame or play cards instead of going for a drink.
So she came over and we played some card/drink game with a bottle of bacardi, she was better than me at it (lol) and I was pretty drunk pretty quick, so after a while she decided to go home since it was already late, and I walked her home (she lives close).
On the way to her house I (drunk...) thought it would be a good idea to tell her I like her, and so I did...
The reaction was something along the lines of "Wow, you are fast... I can't do that to my boyfriend I'm sorry..."
So that was that, I was walking home alone, drunk and very, very sad about my 'rejection'.
So I was like FUCK IT and I decided not to talk to her much anymore, because I was quite dissapointed and wanted to prevent further harm being done to me emotionally, she kept talking to me and I once responded with something like "meh I don't care, its ok..." and she goes out of her way to say it was all great fun, she hated the situation that is now and she really wanted to be "really really good friends", stating she would be "a better friend to me than X
". (X being my best friend)
So from then on it all pretty much went downhill, we still talked and every couple of days we had a decent conversation but it wasn't as vivid or enthousiastic as before.
She still asks me "What are you doing now?" like twice a week but I haven't seen her privately in a month or so now, only at her work when I pick up an order.
She still likes pretty much all of my photo's and statuses on facebook (dont post much though...)
It seems like sometimes she's overly in love with her boyfriend and the other moment he doesn't exist or is unworthy of her. She rarely even replies to his public messages to her and I suppose it's quite obvious that her priority is not her boyfriend but rather her business.
Any idea on how I should handle this keeping in mind they're decent size clients that I would rather not rub the wrong way if possible.
She sends me messages out of nowhere every now and then so I do suppose that means she was thinking of me at the time.
She would very probably have cheated on her boyfriend with me, I feel alot of attraction to her physically and I would be down for being 'friends with benefits' with her.
I was looking for something serious at the time and was taking it too slow.
I'm a little confused as to what to do now and couldn't resist the temptation of posting here.
Kudos if you actually read this post and reply lol
anyways here it goes:
I'm quite confused about something and I was wondering if you could help me out a little here.
Two months ago I met this (Chinese) girl who moved here from the Netherlands to start her business with her sister (24 & 25 years of age), they became pretty good clients at my dad's company, and after seeing her 2 times or so in our office/her business I decided to add the both of them on facebook, seeing they had moved in not that long before and they might want to make some new friends or whatnot.
So they both accepted my friend request and then I discovered she has a boyfriend who lives about 140 miles away and I didn't talk to either of the girls for the first week or 2, then she commented on one of my pictures and I ended up making a joke to her about her comment in private chat, but cut off the conversation not much later...
A week or 2 after that she suddenly started talking to me asking me what I was doing at the time, and after asking me if I wanted to go for a drink, I said yes.
So the 2 of us went out for a drink and it was just a casual drink and I dropped her at her house 1 or 2 hours later.
We went out like 8 times in 12 days even though she works 12 hour days 5 days a week, which kind of surprised me.
I was suspect that she wanted something more because of the way she talked to me, double bottom type of things and asking me what I'm doing quite a lot, and inviting me over and all that stuff.
I figured she was just being very very friendly towards me and decided not to think anything about it, she has a boyfriend after all...
One night I did go out with her and 2 of my (male) friends, she was complaining about her boyfriend, saying it was hard to have a long distance relationship, and that relationships didn't matter much, it was all about work at this point.
By the time she had said this I had already developed a crush on her and I was pretty hurt by her saying that, and it was noticable that evening (so my friend said).
So we left the place after that drink and I decided I was just going to drop her off at her home, it wasn't going to be anything anyways and I was just going to get hurt, I figured.
So I tell her that I have to work tomorrow, it was rather late and I was better to get some sleep.
The following quote (translated) is from what followed:
Her: "No c'mon let's go do something... cmon" -while poking my arm once
Me: "So what do u want to do then?"
Her: -whips her hair- "I'm down for anything"
--
So at that point I didn't realise the situation and was confused and a little bit angry about what she said before, thinking did I just hear this correctly because she does have a boyfriend...
I dropped her off not long after that, only thing we did was stop at a parking and smoke a cigarette, and she smoked one too even though she's not a smoker.
Also, one of the days after that she posted on my public facebook wall "if i were still asleep"
I found that rather weird and was wondering what her boyfriend must think of that if he saw it.
A couple days after that I invited her to have a drink when she was done with work... she said yes, so I was just waiting for her to finish what she had to do so I could pick her up.
She suddenly messages me asking if it weren't better to just do some boardgame or play cards instead of going for a drink.
So she came over and we played some card/drink game with a bottle of bacardi, she was better than me at it (lol) and I was pretty drunk pretty quick, so after a while she decided to go home since it was already late, and I walked her home (she lives close).
On the way to her house I (drunk...) thought it would be a good idea to tell her I like her, and so I did...
The reaction was something along the lines of "Wow, you are fast... I can't do that to my boyfriend I'm sorry..."
So that was that, I was walking home alone, drunk and very, very sad about my 'rejection'.
So I was like FUCK IT and I decided not to talk to her much anymore, because I was quite dissapointed and wanted to prevent further harm being done to me emotionally, she kept talking to me and I once responded with something like "meh I don't care, its ok..." and she goes out of her way to say it was all great fun, she hated the situation that is now and she really wanted to be "really really good friends", stating she would be "a better friend to me than X
". (X being my best friend)So from then on it all pretty much went downhill, we still talked and every couple of days we had a decent conversation but it wasn't as vivid or enthousiastic as before.
She still asks me "What are you doing now?" like twice a week but I haven't seen her privately in a month or so now, only at her work when I pick up an order.
She still likes pretty much all of my photo's and statuses on facebook (dont post much though...)
It seems like sometimes she's overly in love with her boyfriend and the other moment he doesn't exist or is unworthy of her. She rarely even replies to his public messages to her and I suppose it's quite obvious that her priority is not her boyfriend but rather her business.
Any idea on how I should handle this keeping in mind they're decent size clients that I would rather not rub the wrong way if possible.
She sends me messages out of nowhere every now and then so I do suppose that means she was thinking of me at the time.
She would very probably have cheated on her boyfriend with me, I feel alot of attraction to her physically and I would be down for being 'friends with benefits' with her.
I was looking for something serious at the time and was taking it too slow.
I'm a little confused as to what to do now and couldn't resist the temptation of posting here.
Kudos if you actually read this post and reply lol
