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So I wasn't intentionally trying to make her jealous, but she's definitely exhibiting the behaviors of a girl who went into auto-rejection. Let me explain.
She's a blonde in one of my classes who's been crushing on be ever since the beginning of the semester. She's probably like a 6.5 in terms of looks and not really my type. But because she's young she also has a vibrant energy and very playful look. (little immature for me) So instead, I just befriended her and almost treated her like my little bratty sister and flirted with her but nothing never serious. She was good friend for pre-selection purposes, or I thought.
As I got to know her little better and better, I found out she's a little socially inept at times, as expected with college women.
1. She has an orbiter guy that's just really really creepy and always hangs out with him. This used to be a bit of a crutch for me as when I would walk to class and she'd kind of be with me, this guy would always tag along. He'd always make remarks such as "she's not interested in you bro" "You need to treat her better man".
A. She felt bad for the guy and had him around, but didn't know when or how to get rid of him at times. (I.E when she's with me)
B. She started becoming associated with this guy. Imagine a guy leeching off of a girl's value to look "better" and she's just letting it happen without awareness of what kind of impact she's making to others watching this.
(Side Note: Girls have asked me why she hangs out with that guy, which I always questioned myself. He's a 37 year old guy who's balding and still lives with his parents and asked her to be her pretend girlfriend?)
C. She always presented these "time windows" that chase talks about, but I went against it because if I went ahead with it, it would've caused me headaches with A and B, and done me more harm than good.
And as time went on, she started increasingly started crossing boundaries a bit, which were non-existent in the beginning stages of our relationship. Long story short, I told her to "knock this shit off, you're starting to cross your boundaries" and she got little bit hurt and we stopped talking. (which i was relieved by)
Now in my class, the blonde sits right next to me. And the first few days we flirted in front of the whole class EXPLICITLY to get the attention of every cute girl in class. And as it worked, one of the cutest girls in class sat right in front of me next class shamelessly and started flirting with me as well. Always smiling and touching me, trying to get my attention away from the blondie.
And as I find her attractive, 7.5/10, I flirted right back and got sped up to moving things forward with her. And to be honest, I completely forgot about the blonde as once I stop talking to someone, they kind of disappear from my head space whether they're there or not. But I realized she's been watching us flirt in front of her while she's not getting any attention from me anymore, hence began to fill her with resentment and sending her into auto-rejection.
1. I was headed to my class when the "creepy bald kid" came up to me and said "Yo! Blondie wants her $3 back for the coffee she bought you 3 months ago tomorrow". And I was extremely confused as to what he was talking about. But according to him, the blondie messaged him to ask me to give her $3 back for the coffee she bought me cause I lost my wallet at the time. And I just told him I'll give it to her next time in class, which where he said okay to.
2. There's a girl that I've been secretly hooking up with that noone knows about, call her girl A. She out of nowhere told me today said "Some blonde girl asked your number from me." Turns out, Girl A is friends with a friend who knows another blonde. And right off the bat the blondie told girl A that "I'm bad news, and that she shouldn't be friends with me as I'm a 'dirty guy'" according to her words. To which Girl A asked me what she was talking about.
Girl A: "She said you owe her $3 or something, and needed to call you about it"
Me: "She's freaking weird"
Girl A: "She is a little bit off. There's this creepy guy that always texts her and she replies to him all the time for some reason. It's like she's leading him on or something. And then when I told her I was your friend, she explicitly told me to avoid me cause I'm a 'horrible guy'"
Me: That's funny. She actually just used to have a crush on me, and I think she's just finding petty ways to get back at me for some reason"
Girl A: Her breath fucking stinks. And she's fuckin weird.
(Side Note about Girl A: She knows I see other girls as well)
Anyways, now I'm in a situation where I have to deal with this blonde and her white knight whining to me and defending her while she's also talking shit and spreading rumors about me. I'm not sure how this is gonna impact it but what's the best moves from my position regarding this? As I'm little worried she might start saying shit to all the girls in my class as she did to girl A.
She's clearly way past auto-rejection, but I honestly didn't care. At the same time, I just realized there may be social status consequences with a girl in auto-reject who are looking to get her 'petty revenge on me'
For guys who explicitly went through their player stages in college life, what types of consequences did you have to face when faced with women who are looking to spread nasty rumors about you no matter how petty it is?
As I'm usually VERY discreet about the girls I hook up with and only hook up with girls of a certain class and respect.
So in a sense I've dodged a bullet by not going after her but at the same time, she's starting to mouth off about me to everyone she can.
Either way, it'll be very good to have the knowledge and social skills to deal with such situations for future references.
So I wasn't intentionally trying to make her jealous, but she's definitely exhibiting the behaviors of a girl who went into auto-rejection. Let me explain.
She's a blonde in one of my classes who's been crushing on be ever since the beginning of the semester. She's probably like a 6.5 in terms of looks and not really my type. But because she's young she also has a vibrant energy and very playful look. (little immature for me) So instead, I just befriended her and almost treated her like my little bratty sister and flirted with her but nothing never serious. She was good friend for pre-selection purposes, or I thought.
As I got to know her little better and better, I found out she's a little socially inept at times, as expected with college women.
1. She has an orbiter guy that's just really really creepy and always hangs out with him. This used to be a bit of a crutch for me as when I would walk to class and she'd kind of be with me, this guy would always tag along. He'd always make remarks such as "she's not interested in you bro" "You need to treat her better man".
A. She felt bad for the guy and had him around, but didn't know when or how to get rid of him at times. (I.E when she's with me)
B. She started becoming associated with this guy. Imagine a guy leeching off of a girl's value to look "better" and she's just letting it happen without awareness of what kind of impact she's making to others watching this.
(Side Note: Girls have asked me why she hangs out with that guy, which I always questioned myself. He's a 37 year old guy who's balding and still lives with his parents and asked her to be her pretend girlfriend?)
C. She always presented these "time windows" that chase talks about, but I went against it because if I went ahead with it, it would've caused me headaches with A and B, and done me more harm than good.
And as time went on, she started increasingly started crossing boundaries a bit, which were non-existent in the beginning stages of our relationship. Long story short, I told her to "knock this shit off, you're starting to cross your boundaries" and she got little bit hurt and we stopped talking. (which i was relieved by)
Now in my class, the blonde sits right next to me. And the first few days we flirted in front of the whole class EXPLICITLY to get the attention of every cute girl in class. And as it worked, one of the cutest girls in class sat right in front of me next class shamelessly and started flirting with me as well. Always smiling and touching me, trying to get my attention away from the blondie.
And as I find her attractive, 7.5/10, I flirted right back and got sped up to moving things forward with her. And to be honest, I completely forgot about the blonde as once I stop talking to someone, they kind of disappear from my head space whether they're there or not. But I realized she's been watching us flirt in front of her while she's not getting any attention from me anymore, hence began to fill her with resentment and sending her into auto-rejection.
1. I was headed to my class when the "creepy bald kid" came up to me and said "Yo! Blondie wants her $3 back for the coffee she bought you 3 months ago tomorrow". And I was extremely confused as to what he was talking about. But according to him, the blondie messaged him to ask me to give her $3 back for the coffee she bought me cause I lost my wallet at the time. And I just told him I'll give it to her next time in class, which where he said okay to.
2. There's a girl that I've been secretly hooking up with that noone knows about, call her girl A. She out of nowhere told me today said "Some blonde girl asked your number from me." Turns out, Girl A is friends with a friend who knows another blonde. And right off the bat the blondie told girl A that "I'm bad news, and that she shouldn't be friends with me as I'm a 'dirty guy'" according to her words. To which Girl A asked me what she was talking about.
Girl A: "She said you owe her $3 or something, and needed to call you about it"
Me: "She's freaking weird"
Girl A: "She is a little bit off. There's this creepy guy that always texts her and she replies to him all the time for some reason. It's like she's leading him on or something. And then when I told her I was your friend, she explicitly told me to avoid me cause I'm a 'horrible guy'"
Me: That's funny. She actually just used to have a crush on me, and I think she's just finding petty ways to get back at me for some reason"
Girl A: Her breath fucking stinks. And she's fuckin weird.
(Side Note about Girl A: She knows I see other girls as well)
Anyways, now I'm in a situation where I have to deal with this blonde and her white knight whining to me and defending her while she's also talking shit and spreading rumors about me. I'm not sure how this is gonna impact it but what's the best moves from my position regarding this? As I'm little worried she might start saying shit to all the girls in my class as she did to girl A.
She's clearly way past auto-rejection, but I honestly didn't care. At the same time, I just realized there may be social status consequences with a girl in auto-reject who are looking to get her 'petty revenge on me'
For guys who explicitly went through their player stages in college life, what types of consequences did you have to face when faced with women who are looking to spread nasty rumors about you no matter how petty it is?
As I'm usually VERY discreet about the girls I hook up with and only hook up with girls of a certain class and respect.
So in a sense I've dodged a bullet by not going after her but at the same time, she's starting to mouth off about me to everyone she can.
Either way, it'll be very good to have the knowledge and social skills to deal with such situations for future references.
