How would you guys approach a girl sitting alone in a quiet library? I was also wondering if dropping a note in front of her with your info would suffice and what kind of things would you put on there to have her intrigued. Have any of you pulled this off successfully?
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aaron88,
I would avoid leaving the note, especially if you haven't talked to her. It's going to fail 99.9% of the time because she has no idea who you are or what you're about, and she'll likely find it creepy.
At a library, it can sometimes help to be a bit more passive and make the engagement seem more natural. One way of doing that might be this:
And then you can use her explanation of the story/book to segue into more conversation. If she seems very short/abrupt with her answers, then it probably means she's not very interested in holding a conversation with you, so you can exit at any time. If she seems to be enjoying the conversation (and otherwise seems to be showing some indicators of interest -- such as playing with her hair -- when she's talking to you), then you can possibly sit down with her and then begin to deep dive her a bit and get her number.
There's many ways to go about it, but this is probably a safe and easy way to do it.
- Franco
I would avoid leaving the note, especially if you haven't talked to her. It's going to fail 99.9% of the time because she has no idea who you are or what you're about, and she'll likely find it creepy.
At a library, it can sometimes help to be a bit more passive and make the engagement seem more natural. One way of doing that might be this:
And then you can use her explanation of the story/book to segue into more conversation. If she seems very short/abrupt with her answers, then it probably means she's not very interested in holding a conversation with you, so you can exit at any time. If she seems to be enjoying the conversation (and otherwise seems to be showing some indicators of interest -- such as playing with her hair -- when she's talking to you), then you can possibly sit down with her and then begin to deep dive her a bit and get her number.
There's many ways to go about it, but this is probably a safe and easy way to do it.
- Franco
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A risky but bold approach you can do that I've had work out in the past (albeit I always did it in coffee shops but its about the same venue vibe wise) on a few occasions is to write a text in your phone of however you would open her if it wasn't super quiet and everyone around to watch.
For example : "Hey you have an amazing sense of style! I wanted to see who you are
" or "I'm super attracted to you... are you single?"
Now you put yourselves in the shoes of someone that legitimately thinks they're phone is broken and needs someone elses opinion (that looks phone savy... i.e. hot girls who typically use their phones 20,000 times a day) to confirm that your phone is not working properly.
Put yourself in their shoes and emulate that vibe like you just need someone's opinion on your phone.
Go ask HER opinion in a friendly way and simply ask for her help.
Approach her with "Excuse me but I think my phone isn't working properly and you look like you're more expert than I am. Do you mind checking for me?"
She'll most likely respond favorably or neutral. Take note of how engages you.
Then simply slide her your phone as you say "Yeah I just can't get it too do thing X". Doing this so observers have no idea what you're really doing and think you just need help with your phone.
Carefully watch her reaction to reading the text (if you have good fundamentals you will typically never get a bad reaction from her).
She'll then make a decision about her attraction for you and either play along with the broken phone thing in a playful way or she'll change the subject out right and start flirting with you if she likes you.
If not she still may play along with the phone thing and say "it looks like it's working fine to me but thanks anyway" something like that. Or she may just thank you and tell you she has a boyfriend or tell you sorry and reject you which is fine because everyone watching can't tell the difference.
I typically write "are you single?" in the text so as to give her a way out real quick if she's not digging me (since it's a lot of pressure on her and she may fear your next move).
This works because it communicates that you understand societies pressure (you cant just go direct in front of everyone including people she may know) and you found a creative way to get around that and go direct anyway.
Try it out and tell me what you think.
-Rob
For example : "Hey you have an amazing sense of style! I wanted to see who you are
" or "I'm super attracted to you... are you single?"Now you put yourselves in the shoes of someone that legitimately thinks they're phone is broken and needs someone elses opinion (that looks phone savy... i.e. hot girls who typically use their phones 20,000 times a day) to confirm that your phone is not working properly.
Put yourself in their shoes and emulate that vibe like you just need someone's opinion on your phone.
Go ask HER opinion in a friendly way and simply ask for her help.
Approach her with "Excuse me but I think my phone isn't working properly and you look like you're more expert than I am. Do you mind checking for me?"
She'll most likely respond favorably or neutral. Take note of how engages you.
Then simply slide her your phone as you say "Yeah I just can't get it too do thing X". Doing this so observers have no idea what you're really doing and think you just need help with your phone.
Carefully watch her reaction to reading the text (if you have good fundamentals you will typically never get a bad reaction from her).
She'll then make a decision about her attraction for you and either play along with the broken phone thing in a playful way or she'll change the subject out right and start flirting with you if she likes you.
If not she still may play along with the phone thing and say "it looks like it's working fine to me but thanks anyway" something like that. Or she may just thank you and tell you she has a boyfriend or tell you sorry and reject you which is fine because everyone watching can't tell the difference.
I typically write "are you single?" in the text so as to give her a way out real quick if she's not digging me (since it's a lot of pressure on her and she may fear your next move).
This works because it communicates that you understand societies pressure (you cant just go direct in front of everyone including people she may know) and you found a creative way to get around that and go direct anyway.
Try it out and tell me what you think.
-Rob