Girl late for date then gives lame excuse...what do you do?

[killerman]

Just wondering about some scenario...let's say you have a date with a girl, then she doesn't turn up. Then 45 mins later or an hour you get a text from her where she's apologising for what she's done, like she fell asleep, didnt see the time pass so quick etc it's generally a real lame excuse, what do you do? Ive been nonchalant about it before, and it's got me laid but should you tell her she's really rude instead. And if she does it again, that's it, she's blown her chance? What do you think?

 

[Franco]

killerman,

Calling her out on it never really does anything good for you, so I certainly wouldn't do that. It seems you're aware of that, though!

You can probably make a decision here. If she seemed like a girl who was genuinely interested in seeing you, then I would give her the benefit of the doubt, but I would probably wait a week or so to set up the next date. Don't make it seem like your time isn't valuable by attempting to immediately set up the next date as if you have plenty of time for her. (EDIT: Text you might send here would look like this: "No problem! Stuff happens. We'll take a rain check on it ")

However, if you felt like this girl was very "on-the-fence" about you and that her excuse is likely not legitimate, then respond with something rather nonchalant that has an ambiguous tone (i.e. "it's cool, no worries") and stop contacting her. Sometimes this can be enough to make her wonder if she should have taken that opportunity with you (without sounding whiny or upset), and you might hear back from her within the next few weeks. If she suddenly contacts you out of the blue and seems interested in meeting up, then arrange another date with her quickly. It's very likely she won't miss this one!

- Franco