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I met this girl downtown waiting for the train. I opened direct. She didn't understand (or pretended not to the first time) so I repeated and continued the interaction. She was foreign, I tried to connect with her about it. I tried to get compliance by asking her what she had in a shopping bag she was carrying. She declined. She still seemed kind of receptive nonetheless.
The interaction declined a bit, however, because I hesitated when she asked me what I was up to. And then when she asked me where I was going. I didn't had any plans cause it was early on a holiday (Dec 31) and all I was doing was take a ride on the transit to hopefully talk to some girls (I had to make up some answers that were not very convincing)
At some point when we were talking about where we would like to visit, she pointed with her whole arm at the mountain (which is a very popular destination) and she did it with her whole arm next to my face, almost touching it. Felt kind of weird, don't know if it was a kind of challenge/test I should've responded or made a comment about, or if it was her way of teasing me (we were teasing each other a bit after all). I don't know, let me know guys if you have some input here.
Anyway, minutes later I invited her to grab a chocolate with me, she declined, but I suggested we grab it later next week. She said ok and gave me her number. She replied my icebreaker, I asked her out, she took a lot to reply (one whole day, which I tried to match) and was also very aloof.
[after icebreaker and some small talk]
Me: I was thinking we ought to grab that hot cocoa soon. Let me know how's the sched looking
Her: Happy holly days.
Her: Sure!
Me: Cool What days work best?
Her: Well, it depends when during the day we can meet.
Her: Most of the time I finish work at 3 pm and you?
Me: I work the whole weekend, but I'm pretty open otherwise
Me: So how's Monday... say 6pm? We can meet at xwz bla bla and walk from there
Here I did something silly and risky: suggested we meet around the area I live.
Her: can we meet near downtown? the place you say is very far my home
Me: sure that work
[the day agreed] Her: Hi it was nice to talk with you the other day in the metro but I'm not very interested so we should cancel for tomorrow
Me: Got ya
The reason why this was a bad move is because I already had an idea how far she lived (we met on the line that took her home and talked about it), then I was trying to get too much compliance by getting her to meet me in my area, knowing quite well she was a bit skeptical from our face to face interaction….
To summarize: I fumbled with answering very normal question I fumbled when answering what I do for a living; (Need to think of ways to explain I work on the weekends, I study, and I also work on my own projects). I got some early negative compliance. I wasn't smooth when asking on an insta date , and then asked for too much compliance in an uncalibrated way at the end.
A few good things though: I implemented some light incidental touch, I persisted with the invitation to grab a drink, and I opened all right; very little hesitation.
The interaction declined a bit, however, because I hesitated when she asked me what I was up to. And then when she asked me where I was going. I didn't had any plans cause it was early on a holiday (Dec 31) and all I was doing was take a ride on the transit to hopefully talk to some girls (I had to make up some answers that were not very convincing)
At some point when we were talking about where we would like to visit, she pointed with her whole arm at the mountain (which is a very popular destination) and she did it with her whole arm next to my face, almost touching it. Felt kind of weird, don't know if it was a kind of challenge/test I should've responded or made a comment about, or if it was her way of teasing me (we were teasing each other a bit after all). I don't know, let me know guys if you have some input here.
Anyway, minutes later I invited her to grab a chocolate with me, she declined, but I suggested we grab it later next week. She said ok and gave me her number. She replied my icebreaker, I asked her out, she took a lot to reply (one whole day, which I tried to match) and was also very aloof.
[after icebreaker and some small talk]
Me: I was thinking we ought to grab that hot cocoa soon. Let me know how's the sched looking
Her: Happy holly days.
Her: Sure!
Me: Cool
What days work best?Her: Well, it depends when during the day we can meet.
Her: Most of the time I finish work at 3 pm and you?
Me: I work the whole weekend, but I'm pretty open otherwise
Me: So how's Monday... say 6pm? We can meet at xwz bla bla and walk from there
Here I did something silly and risky: suggested we meet around the area I live.
Her: can we meet near downtown? the place you say is very far my home
Me: sure that work
[the day agreed] Her: Hi it was nice to talk with you the other day in the metro but I'm not very interested so we should cancel for tomorrow
Me: Got ya
The reason why this was a bad move is because I already had an idea how far she lived (we met on the line that took her home and talked about it), then I was trying to get too much compliance by getting her to meet me in my area, knowing quite well she was a bit skeptical from our face to face interaction….
To summarize: I fumbled with answering very normal question I fumbled when answering what I do for a living; (Need to think of ways to explain I work on the weekends, I study, and I also work on my own projects). I got some early negative compliance. I wasn't smooth when asking on an insta date , and then asked for too much compliance in an uncalibrated way at the end.
A few good things though: I implemented some light incidental touch, I persisted with the invitation to grab a drink, and I opened all right; very little hesitation.
