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Girl only replies with 3 or 4 words during texts- what should i do?

Ryan

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It's really annoying. I use usually about 12-14 words per text and i try to be as concise as can be. But i often have a lot to say. But when she replies, she only says things like 'okay, thank you' or 'see you' or 'how about 1pm' when i ask to meet up.

This happens a lot with girls. When i last got this, i tried to fight fire with fire and send her texts only a few words long. But then are conversation was then boring for both of us, and we never really spoke again after that.

What should i do now?
 

ocantu1987

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Match investment. She uses 2 words, you use 2 words she takes 30 minutes to reply, you take 30 minutes to reply.
 

homage

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Im good with texts. Show me the exact conversation. Copy n paste what you say and what shes says.
 

Rasta

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What is your goal in texting women? Are you trying to have a one night stand, or a long term relationship?

If your goal is a one night stand, you shouldn't even be texting her but a few words to meet her face to face. I personally have had a lot more success doing this and I think the majority of this board will tell you the same thing.

if you are going for a relationship, either she's not that interested, or she is very busy. Man I am a full time student and the rest of the time I work. I don't have time to text someone novels all day, and so I dont. I only use text to accomplish something, and I do so as efficiently as possible.

Hope this helps
 

Ryan

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Hey homage, thanks but i've got a really old phone, so i can't copy and paste or log in into here with it. It's pretty much how i described above. I can't write them a proper message (i.e. asking them how their day is, then asking them out sometime, or asking them out sometime and wishing them a nice day) without receiving a low investment response (e.g. 'i'm okay, thanks.' or 'sure.' or 'bye'.) and then i'm on the back foot all the time.

I can't lower my investment, as the quality of the conversation lowers and she can't be bothered with me anymore. Neither can i up my investment, because then i'll be chasing.
 
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Ryan

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Rasta said:
What is your goal in texting women? Are you trying to have a one night stand, or a long term relationship?

If your goal is a one night stand, you shouldn't even be texting her but a few words to meet her face to face. I personally have had a lot more success doing this and I think the majority of this board will tell you the same thing.

if you are going for a relationship, either she's not that interested, or she is very busy. Man I am a full time student and the rest of the time I work. I don't have time to text someone novels all day, and so I dont. I only use text to accomplish something, and I do so as efficiently as possible.

Hope this helps

I don't really text novels. Just one single text asking them how they are, and asking them out, and wishing them well for that day. But i always get zero investment.

My goal is a casual affair with her (not so casual as one-night stands where i assume i would never see her again) but a few nights of romance and sex which i can move on to being her friend once i find a new girl (like Chase recommends: being a lover, not a chaser. Then i can turn her into a girlfriend on my terms if i like her enough).
 

nitroyouth

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Invite for a meet?? if that doesnt work, I would drop her. You are already investing enough as it is. Remember, auto rejection works both ways, you dont have to tolerate that situation.
 
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