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Hey, so I struggle with calibration a lot. It’s quite difficult for me to gauge how much interest I should show vs. how I actually feel.
Due to this it has unfortunately happened more than once that a girl has left the date early because I have shown too much interest.
One time the girl literally ran away:/
I’m not a creepy guy. I’ve probably approached over 800 women by now, I have friends, etc. So I can’t be creepy.
But when I know the girl is interested, the pressure is high to make things happen. I feel like I get an intense look in my eyes and that scares girls away, especially since I’ve been quite aloof and outcome independent up to that point. But when it’s on I don’t want to miss.
On a date one can’t be outcome independent, can they. It’s a huge failure if you don’t at least kiss on the date, or if you miss any other escalation windows. So it NEEDS to happen.
But if I somehow become outcome independent on the date, I won’t care and nothing will happen.
I think that outcome dependency has been covered a lot, I just need to have an abundance of women.
So my question is, if a girl pulls away (but doesn’t run away) because you’re too intense/needy, how do you recover from that date?
Due to this it has unfortunately happened more than once that a girl has left the date early because I have shown too much interest.
One time the girl literally ran away:/
I’m not a creepy guy. I’ve probably approached over 800 women by now, I have friends, etc. So I can’t be creepy.
But when I know the girl is interested, the pressure is high to make things happen. I feel like I get an intense look in my eyes and that scares girls away, especially since I’ve been quite aloof and outcome independent up to that point. But when it’s on I don’t want to miss.
On a date one can’t be outcome independent, can they. It’s a huge failure if you don’t at least kiss on the date, or if you miss any other escalation windows. So it NEEDS to happen.
But if I somehow become outcome independent on the date, I won’t care and nothing will happen.
I think that outcome dependency has been covered a lot, I just need to have an abundance of women.
So my question is, if a girl pulls away (but doesn’t run away) because you’re too intense/needy, how do you recover from that date?
