Girl says she hasn't had good experiences with men. How to respond?

[snipefield]

I was chatting with a girl who I first met last year and who had flaked on me then. I asked her whether we'll ever meet up outside the confines of the uni, and she said yes.

As we were planning the meeting, she said "I haven't had a social life recently. With men" and also something along the lines of "I haven't had good experiences with men as of late"

Is there subtext to this? What's good way to respond with poise? I said "you'll tell me about it when we meet" without thinking, now realizing that this was not a good response...

 

[R.A.D.]

One subtext of that is the expectations she is setting for herself and yourself and that she prefers to be safe than sorry, it is also a test to see how you react. An answer that implies that you will take it slowly and you dont have any expectations of her besides just meeting and see what happens should work well with her.


"i understand, lets just meet and see what happens, i ask nothing more than a brief conversation"

"Its ok, if it doesnt work out i wont take it badly, but who knows? maybe we could have a great time!"

Just some random examples that could be better, dont think too hard about it because she may flake on you again and again....

 

[Thedoctor]

Snipefield,

I usually avoid girls that say things like this since it's usually an early sign of crazy.

My advice is to text something back that's a bit on the lighter side. Something like "We'll you've had poor experiences cause you've haven't been out with me yet. "

If you respond too serious or respond asking her to give you a chance, you're playing the "White Knight" too much and it will get you nowhere.

-John