Girl torn between me and the BF – im leaving the country in 5 days

[14sherif]

Hey im still not sure what to do to meet or not honestly. My unsureness is actually evoked by my boyfriend because he isn’t sure if he wants me or not. He cant give me a satisfying answer and I cant decide easily because I always have too much on my mind. But if you were me what would you do?
Love xyz


A bit background info is the boyfriend is not sure about her because he saw the messages about a date we were going to go on and a night where she called me at midnight to tell me to come round to hers. As it stands I because of him finding out I haven’t been able to bed her or even meet her lol

I did walk away from this girl after the first time I met her where she made it clear she had a boyfriend. But then she approached me a month later in the library to drop of her name and number metres away from her boyfriend.
I’m leaving the country im in , in 5 days time to never come back.


I have no qualms about what im doing but what I would like is some advice on how to respond to this.

 

[Smith]

I would try to sleep with her, but not telling her what to do regarding her situation. Since it doesn't really affect u anyway.
Just tell her to make up her own mind. It's her future.

 

[Pete Butter]

How'd you get to this point? How long have you been talking to her? Sounds like too long; she talks to you like a friend.

I couldn't take her seriously but I'd probably respond:

"I don't know lol...going unwind at a bar in an hour or so, come get a drink."

 

[14sherif]

Well I sent something back about her making up her mind and that we cant do this forever obviously in the most socially aware way possible
but im honestly at the stage now where I have three nights two are for hanging out with friends and one im gonna meet up with a chick i met yesterday so honestly even if she does get in touch with me i dont know what time ill have for her and with whats been happening with her who knows if anything will even happen

so ye as far as im concerned this is finished

I feel bad tho.. shes fucked with her boyfriend and nothing even happened between us..

 

[Drck]

The truth is, she may not have a BF at all. It might be - and most likely it is - just a guy she hangs around with, he is a Beta-Orbital who is patiently waiting for her. The fact that "he isn't sure if he wants her or not" talks loudly for itself. He is indecisive weak beta male who waits till she drops all of her resistance, and even then he will be unsure if he can nail her. He will ask her a permission to sleep with her, and only once she gets tired and exhausted by waiting for some guy with Alpha characteristics, only then she will give in...

The fact that you are waiting for her making up her mind also means that you are unsure about her. You are unsure about yourself. If you are not sure about yourself, she can't be sure about you either. So don't worry about him, worry about you. You need to be sure in what you want. You want to nail her.

Stop waiting for her to make up her mind. She will never make up her mind about her BF, you, or anyone else. She can't, her mind operates on emotions, once she change her emotions her mind will also change. It is your job to make up her mind by creating strong, positive emotions leading to sex. Make her chose between pleasure/sex and rejection.

You should be persistently pushing, exerting pressure on her (gently, don't be an ape). She must be absolutely clear that you want to nail her, she can't see any hesitation at all. Once the pressure is high enough, she will have to make a choice: either reject you or sleep with you. There is nothing in between.

Push and be ready for rejection. Push and be ready to nail her. If she is sure about him and if she loves him, she will never go out with you no matter what you do, and vice versa...