Girlfriend going on holiday with a friend?

[Shadow]

Hey Gents,

It has been a while since I posted here

I'm in a tricky situation with my current girlfriend. We've been together around 2 years and it has been actually quite good (funnily enough - went with option B that Chase advised on this a while back and stay with her despite the high risk factor viewtopic.php?f=7&t=7860&p=37038#p37038 ). Lately, I've been having second thoughts about if I actually want to go through the next steps (e.g. living together) and have been postponing it as I feel there is more to experience in life before I commit 'for life' (or well marriage) .. And this is where the irony begins

Last year she went on a weekend holiday with one of her best male friends (who is a single casanova wannabe cough) - I took it quite lightly as it was quite early in our relationship and was prearranged blabla.. I did make it clear that I don't think its very cool, but didn't say much else. This year, however, there is round #2 and again she's going with the same guy abroad for a weekend holiday. I acted out a lot more this time as it irritated me quite a bit and made me .. jealous? After some talking I did bury it and was promised this is for the last time and will never happen again... Until I found out that they will actually be sharing a bed there and now I'm running with a shovel in my head

Logically, I'm still pretty confident nothing would happen, but emotionally it feels like she's playing with fire and my nerves. This also would be a perfect 'excuse' to end things and be done with my dilemma about future commitment... And I do feel I'm starting to lose grip on things (e.g. starting to be needy/angry/weak - something I was not 2 years ago..).

I guess the aim of this thread is to get some 3rd party opinions on things? Am I overreacting ? Or is this just ridicilous ? And finally, if I decide not to end it (as I do love her, don't get me wrong ... plus my weak mentality at the moment) - how the hell do I get back on my high horse of manhood?

 

[Shadow]

And today I found out that she is having an emotional affair (at least - fb thing) with another guy after a wedding. Moreover, she has been telling him and his friends that we've broken up... Makes a lot of sense to be fair given how cold and detached she has been in the past 2 weeks or so.

I will try to have a less emotional conversation with her in the next few days, but I think logically there is only 1 outcome.. Don't think I can date someone like that anymore... :/

@Chase - you were right 2+ years ago As usual.. Went too high too quickly and then set precedents I couldn't follow through on with a hell of a chick

 

[Ditto24]

And today I found out that she is having an emotional affair (at least - fb thing) with another guy after a wedding. Moreover, she has been telling him and his friends that we've broken up... Makes a lot of sense to be fair given how cold and detached she has been in the past 2 weeks or so.

I will try to have a less emotional conversation with her in the next few days, but I think logically there is only 1 outcome.. Don't think I can date someone like that anymore... :/

@Chase - you were right 2+ years ago As usual.. Went too high too quickly and then set precedents I couldn't follow through on with a hell of a chick

I also posted here almost 2 years ago, and Chase as always read her and told me exactly how she was. I ignored it and decided to give her a chance. Guess what?

......Big mistake, lost so many things in my life and so much time.

Listen to Chase and next her, it´s hard but if she doesn´t value your company and have sex with other people don´t even try to make things work, why would you?. Dump her and have a beer with your pals.

Remember always ask yourself: ¨What does this girl offer besides sex for my life¨

Cheers man, don´t worry women just show the really them to you with time.
Ditto24

 

[jhonsmith]

it is big deal she is his friend not boyfriend so not it deap