Woah man I am really sorry about that. That sounds like an awful situation you have my full condolences. About the issue though, I wonder if it's actually a biological issue. My girlfriend actually has type 1 diabetes and she was diagnosed about a year ago and the disease apparently causes girls to dry up down there but I didn't give it a second thought in the moment because I thought it was something that I was doing which it still might be. Maybe this is the cause of why I am in the same situation now although it has improved a bit.
Girlfriend is gradually becoming uncomfortable with sex
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Interesting, hey dude kudos for getting with some other women and making a serious attempt to get over her and move on with your life. In my own experience it takes more than just a lay or three to move on, after I broke up with my gf a while back before I found girlschase, I did a bit of dating and had some sexual experiences that I just found weird and uncomfortable since I was used to being with MY girl. Shit eh, well I felt miserable but several LTRs later I can see how stupid that really was, so just persevere man, I'm still in the grieving stage with a more recent girl that I really liked but I'm confident that will pass too eventually. Chin up my brother!
On a slightly different tack you may recall that earlier I'd said I thought this girl was FOS and you should cut loose and run for the hills, well on that note I'm interested to know whether you actually spoke to the doctors concerned and saw some concrete evidence of this Hashimoto's thingummybob, because for my money it's 100% BS, just far too convenient man. If you'll recall the article I posted it said "damsels in distress are HAWT!" and what you described would be a sure fire way to gain your sympathy and cooperation while leaving her free to do whatever the fuck she wants and basically trash your life and smash your heart into a million pieces all with a wonderful excuse why it's not her fault! Just sayin' anyway.
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On a slightly different tack you may recall that earlier I'd said I thought this girl was FOS and you should cut loose and run for the hills, well on that note I'm interested to know whether you actually spoke to the doctors concerned and saw some concrete evidence of this Hashimoto's thingummybob, because for my money it's 100% BS, just far too convenient man. If you'll recall the article I posted it said "damsels in distress are HAWT!" and what you described would be a sure fire way to gain your sympathy and cooperation while leaving her free to do whatever the fuck she wants and basically trash your life and smash your heart into a million pieces all with a wonderful excuse why it's not her fault! Just sayin' anyway.
Ray
FOS?
I saw where they took big core-samples out of her neck, and Hashimoto's explains a lot. She totally downplays it...thinks it's unrelated to anything going on in our relationship. Never even mentions it, so definitely not a "damsel in distress" (actually, she seldom ever complains about anything, even when she has good reason). I believe her.
I saw where they took big core-samples out of her neck, and Hashimoto's explains a lot. She totally downplays it...thinks it's unrelated to anything going on in our relationship. Never even mentions it, so definitely not a "damsel in distress" (actually, she seldom ever complains about anything, even when she has good reason). I believe her.
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Interesting. Well according to this website her story checks out, the core samples could have been checking for (rare) complications of Hashimoto's. But I must say according to the Wikipedia entry Hashimoto's was associated with mainly fatigue type symptoms so I wouldn't read too much into it. It could be she was correct in downplaying any effect on the r/ship. Your research is probably more comprehensive than my quick scan but I do know that there's a strong tendency to look for excuses for people's behaviour in relationships (which is codependent) rather than having strong boundaries for such behaviour (which is healthy). Anyway sounds like it does not really matter since she has conveniently solved the whole problem by removing herself. All that remains is for you to get your head back into shape and try to advance your grieving process to the point where you can function normally again. It sounds like this process was set in motion a long time ago when she started to withdraw from the r/ship so that gives you a bit of a head start. Good luck dude. Take good care of yourself.
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