girls back pocket mentality

[shaneawi]

I was wondering what are some ways to tell whether a girl is truly interested or just trying to put you in your backpocket on reserve?

I was in class with a girl who I sat behind. She looked back at me a few times during class and also deliberately stayed after class to talk with me about the class in general. I saw her in the gym and I approached just to say hi and she asked a lot of questions about what year I was in and we talked about career goals. Because I have a girlfriend who I'm happy with I ended our five minute conversation and said "If I don't see you again, good luck with your career." She then said "Hopefully we'll see each other before we graduate and then invited me to a party she's having this weekend."

Because I have a girlfriend I didn't want to move her to see whether she was truly interested so I respectfully declined the party invitation. I had other plans. She seemed very inquisitive but she was possibly just looking for another friend.

My question is what are some ways to tell if a girl is truly interested or is just trying to use you to put you in your back pocket or as just another guy on reserve?

 

[Franco]

shaneawi,

My question is what are some ways to tell if a girl is truly interested or is just trying to use you to put you in your back pocket or as just another guy on reserve?

This one's simple; you simply try to get her out on a date and see if she accepts. Then you try to push things towards sex as quickly as possible -- if she doesn't let things escalate toward sex but continues to stay in contact with you, then she's probably trying to boyfriend/friend-zone you. If you two have sex... well then she's obviously interested in you.

Because I have a girlfriend I didn't want to move her to see whether she was truly interested so I respectfully declined the party invitation.

If you have a girlfriend, then you won't really get to know for sure what it is she wants from you because you can't push things forward with her. She sounds relatively interested, though, and my guess would be that you could probably make headway with her if you were single.

- Franco

 

[shaneawi]

How do some guys get put in the friend zone before the girl even meets the guy. For example, myself I'm a pretty introverted guy, and I keep to my own circle of friends and always keep my conversations focused on the girl. I'm not a loud guy and I don't seek attention or validation from people. When I talk to girls "for the first time" who are in my graduate school class they say that they tried looking for me on facebook but I don't have a profile. Why am I getting put in a friendzone before I even meet/speak with these girls? I can't think of anything that I've done to indicate any friend like quality that I would offer to them.

 

[Drck]

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