Girl's expectations before opening

[Supah]

I have recently noticed something when i go out at night.

I get compliments about my style every day some days a bit more some days a bit less. But the days when i'm dressed more casually i seem to have more success then when i'm really dressed up. I have one outfit on which i get a lot of compliments, a lot of girls looking at me, it's nothing special just a more expensive blue shirt with some detail but it fits me perfectly, i wear it un tucked on my black jeans. I went out twice wearing this outfit and did not have any really successful approach. When i go out with my casual blue unbuttoned jeans shirt on some random t-shirt, i almost always take a girl home or kiss at least one girl that night. I get less compliments on this outfit less attention from girls but i seem to be more successful in my interactions.

So i started wondering what was happening here. There are a few options here. It could be that it seems to try hard but i don't think that's it. I am thinking that girls are having expectations that are to high when i look 'to good'. They are like damn this guy looks hot he must be awesome and then i start talking to them and i am less awesome then they thought i was. When i go out in a more casual outfit wearing a jeans shirt ( i almost always wear a jeans shirt lately, most of the time unbuttoned) i'm just a cool guy that starts talking to them and not this hot dude that she has been checking out all the time.

Of course, when i perfect my opening and conversation this will no longer be a problem but this does not happen in just one day.

Does this make any sense or am i just over thinking this and was it just coincidence that i didn't have any success those two nights.

 

[PinotNoir]

It's all relative, right? I think it depends on the girls and the people in the current environment.

If everyone is dressed in jeans and you show up in a tuxedo, then this would be bad. I think you only want to dress a tad better than the people around you, and sometimes it can be a hard line to walk.

You said that you're getting compliments in the nicer clothes, so they're initiating conversation? If so, I see that as great, and I think it's just a fluke that you have less success in those clothes. However, if they give a compliment like, "Wow! Nice clothes. Isn't that a little too formal though?" or "Nice clothes! How much did they cost?" or something similar, then this would be bad. If you're dressed just a little too well, then she may see you as a potential boyfriend (money/provider) instead of a lover, in which case you need to use conversation to get yourself out of boyfriend territory or perhaps tone down your wardrobe a tad. You can still wear jeans and a shirt, but add an interesting bracelet/necklace/ring to make you stand out.

Overall, based on what you wrote, I'm not 100% sure, as it could definitely be conversation or clothes. With the nicer clothes, try to adjust your conversation and approach style, maybe a little warmer, and see if anything changes. Open with a direct approach by complimenting on her clothes/fashion, flip the table.

 

[Supah]

I mostly get complimented on my clothes by friends or people i know already, they are not like 'nice clothes' they more like 'damn you look stylish today' or 'how are you always looking so hot' or something similar. It's not that people approach me to tell me that i'm wearing a nice shirt, sometimes when i've approached someone they might say nice shirt or something but it's not something that initiates conversation. Although that would be nice.

The problem is that i'm not over dressed because there are a lot of guys out there wearing shirts but it's that the shirt fits my body so well that i look very good in it, it's like it's custom made (it's not though). And my fundamentals are a bit better then the average guy out there which makes me look even better. the problem that i'm addressing here is that if you look to good from the point of view from a girl and then start conversation and you aren't that awesome as she thought you were. Now if you look just a little bit less good and appear to be a cool guy if you initiate conversation, isn't this better then? It's that if she has such high expectations from you you have to for fill these expectations which is harder.

I'm just thinking about this it might be totally wrong but i think it's an interesting discussion

-Supah