Girls getting ASD from my Player Reputation

[Kaida]

Theres this very cute girl I’m talking to in my social circle that is obviously attracted. She easily complies with my requests and always shyly looks away when I look at her.

Thing is, everyone knows me as a guy who gets lots of girls. Almost every time I’m in a conversation with the girls of the group they joke around and call me a slut that fucks everything and my girl agrees. This is preselection yeah, but I want to walk the line and be an attainable lover.

She’s pressed me on this multiple times. She constantly jokes about how I’m “King Kaida with his concubines”. She told me I should stick to one or whatever.

I’ve admitted fucking a lot but I also said I care about the girls I fucked. And I also said I wouldn’t be completely opposed to staying with one girl if I found the right one. I made some strong discretion frames as well since we’re in a social circle together

Not sure if that has worked. She lives literally on the floor above me so if I passed that objection fucking would probably be easy.

I’m not doing a very good job at reframing. I could say I dont fuck that much but I dont want to lose that preselection boost. How should I reframe it so I’m still preselected but also making her open to fucking?

 

[TomInHo]

Why does everyone know that you sleep around?

If you want to keep your pipeline full in social circle it’s best to shut up about all your escapades. Let the other girls do all the advertising for you

When you run your mouth, girls are going to be cautious about fucking you because you become a big risk to their reputation. They may want to be slutty but they don’t want everyone knowing about it

Be more low key and you’ll get laid more trust

EDIT
But anyways here's how to handle this situation practically... You need to take a closer look at her early frame (EFA), and she is implying she doesn't want to hook up with guys that aren't serious

She’s pressed me on this multiple times. She constantly jokes about how I’m “King Kaida with his concubines”. She told me I should stick to one or whatever.

So it's best to frame it like.... yeah you're single and having fun getting to know new people, but you don't just fuck anything that moves because you have standards and don't want to waste time on a situation with no chemistry. But you're also not opposed to getting serious with a girl if the chemistry is dope and you both built a solid foundation of trust over time

Pretty much womanese for I'm fucking around and you can join in on the fun too, and if we click and you're better than the rest then we can have something special

PS: Please try to be more subtle with your pre-selection because most girls prefer being with the sexy mysterious guy that's selective rather than the raging horn dog that would sleep with anything and brags about it

 

[Kaida]

Why does everyone know that you sleep around?

If you want to keep your pipeline full in social circle it’s best to shut up about all your escapades. Let the other girls do all the advertising for you

When you run your mouth, girls are going to be cautious about fucking you because you become a big risk to their reputation. They may want to be slutty but they don’t want everyone knowing about it

Be more low key and you’ll get laid more trust

It is true that I have talked a little about it and I should really stop doing that. But 90% of it is the guys and girls seeing me walking around campus with a bunch of different girls. Then they start asking me questions and I just answer vaguely and they conclude that we fucked lol. I don’t really try and tell them otherwise even though they have been wrong some times.

I also make a lot of sexual jokes so that and the previous point meshes together. The guys in the group also talk about how much girls like me loudly in earshot of the other girls in the group.

 

[TomInHo]

It is true that I have talked a little about it and I should really stop doing that. But 90% of it is the guys and girls seeing me walking around campus with a bunch of different girls. Then they start asking me questions and I just answer vaguely and they conclude that we fucked lol. I don’t really try and tell them otherwise even though they have been wrong some times.

I also make a lot of sexual jokes so that and the previous point meshes together. The guys in the group also talk about how much girls like me loudly in earshot of the other girls in the group.

When they ask questions you don’t have to answer

Can be witty and say stuff like “A gentleman never kisses and tells”

Or… “Amy? Yeah she’s a cool chick, kinda crazy she’s only 19 yet so mature, but how about you? What’s going on with so and so”

Or classic… “We’re just talking”

There’s really no reason to put girls on blast and your friends are welcome to think whatever they want, because as long as you don’t incriminate yourself other girls will find that extremely attractive

I think some guys have issues with downplaying stuff because they are scared it will make them seem less sexually desirable, but the reality is women ain’t dumb. If you’re fucking around yet humble best believe they will know because your vibe alone is all the preselection you need

 

[HoofHearted]

This post doesn't actually describe a problem.

I think if you become known as a source of good, safe, discrete sex... well that's actually one less problem.

 

[Bill]

You don’t necessarily want preselection as a “player” who sleeps around, that puts them on the defensive even if they are attracted to it. Women are attracted to someone a lot of other women are interested in, not necessarily someone who sleeps with a lot of women.
If you already have that reputation or it’s unavoidable you frame it as you being the “guy that doesn’t count“ is just build a lot of comfort until they just sleep with you without expectations of commitment when they get in the mood.