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I've known this girl for a long time. She was on a few TV shows because of her cute and really energetic personality, needless to say very popular. We started off romancing each other but slowly faded because we both lived in different cities. But, we ended up working together. However, by this time she had become cold and really toxic (she had got a slew of yes men surrounding her) and that was affecting everything. So, I decided to cut contact for good 2 years (during which she did try to get in touch).
I quit corporate job to become a writer and she soon ended up working somewhere closeby. She called and said she wanted to meet and felt really guilty. She wanted to "correct" all wrongs as I was supposedly one of the few who really got her. I kinda smelt BS so I decided to politely decline. Wouldn't text her much. She kept inviting me to few cricket matches where she got VIP seats with her friends which I declined again because (a) by this time I was familiar with girlchase and knew not to go in group events and (b) I fucking hate cricket. Though, eventually I did end up meeting her. Her personality totally changed. Whereas before she was so self-centered and criticized my every action, now she was totally timid and kept asking me questions. She kept saying how great it was for me to follow my dreams, etc. and would like to connect me to some TV producers. She'd even stand real close and be open to me touching her. I was like, hey I don't really wanna date her but I'd definitely want to have sex with her. We went to another rather crowded bar where I got her to dance. I pulled her real close and kissed her. Before I could pull back, she pulled me again and started kissing me. Then she said she wanted to talk, told me she was truly sorry for everything she had ever done and all the lies she'd said, etc (deep talk stuff, she even got the bill!). We were making out all through before getting to her place. However, no sex.
Next time, I called her over to my place. (it's a good20 kms away). She came and I made some cocktails. There was enough deep talk, but I couldn't physically escalate it to sex. She also messaged me later that night and said that she was really sorry about the whole "make out session" and it was a mistake that'd never happen because she was happy that we were finally in a good place and didn't want to ruin it. At this point, I thought she was trying to friendzone me. So I clearly asked her what she felt, she said she had no attraction of non-platonic type. So, I said cool and slowly cut contact.
It's been a month and she has again got back in contact. Funny thing is, the way she talks now is similar to how I used to when I used to chase girls. I don't ever engage in a conversation with her. She keeps telling we should hang out. She kept suggesting we go to movies (because well, I'm a hardcore movie geek and we used to watch a lot of them when we were tight), but I refuse because of what's been written on this site about those kind of dates. Once, however I did say yes because it just felt a bit rude to say no at that point. She was ecstatic but then tickets were all out. At this point, I hadn't even realised that I was giving one-word replies. (am I turning into a girl?). Here's a bit of the conversation:
Her: So this theater is where I used to live. By the time movie is over, it'll be easily past midnight. Good idea bad timing.
Me: Okay
Her: I should book first and then ask people
Me: Happens
Her: Next time I'll ping you after I've already gotten them. Get ready to be randomly pulled into a movie plan.
Me: Enticing
Her: Yeah, the frustrating bit is, I was checking at this other theater and I found amazing seats and by the time I got you to say yeah, the seats were gone. :\
... So, what gives? I can assume she wants to friendzone me considering she already has a lot of guys at her disposal that she can use for sex. But, why would she go out of her way to just be friends with somebody (or even make out). Maybe she thinks I want something like a relationship? (I don't). Are there any mental barriers that I have to remove before getting her to have sex with me?
Also, I just had an interview for a new writing gig that might have me leave town for a good while. So, I have very few chances to get in bed with this girl now. Also, this is a girl who, if even given the slightest hint that she has the upper hand, will completely dominate the other person. So.. gotta be careful.
Anyway, I guess this case is a bit too much for a novice like me to crack. I hope to learn from the masters of the game. What do you guys think?
Cheers!
I quit corporate job to become a writer and she soon ended up working somewhere closeby. She called and said she wanted to meet and felt really guilty. She wanted to "correct" all wrongs as I was supposedly one of the few who really got her. I kinda smelt BS so I decided to politely decline. Wouldn't text her much. She kept inviting me to few cricket matches where she got VIP seats with her friends which I declined again because (a) by this time I was familiar with girlchase and knew not to go in group events and (b) I fucking hate cricket. Though, eventually I did end up meeting her. Her personality totally changed. Whereas before she was so self-centered and criticized my every action, now she was totally timid and kept asking me questions. She kept saying how great it was for me to follow my dreams, etc. and would like to connect me to some TV producers. She'd even stand real close and be open to me touching her. I was like, hey I don't really wanna date her but I'd definitely want to have sex with her. We went to another rather crowded bar where I got her to dance. I pulled her real close and kissed her. Before I could pull back, she pulled me again and started kissing me. Then she said she wanted to talk, told me she was truly sorry for everything she had ever done and all the lies she'd said, etc (deep talk stuff, she even got the bill!). We were making out all through before getting to her place. However, no sex.
Next time, I called her over to my place. (it's a good20 kms away). She came and I made some cocktails. There was enough deep talk, but I couldn't physically escalate it to sex. She also messaged me later that night and said that she was really sorry about the whole "make out session" and it was a mistake that'd never happen because she was happy that we were finally in a good place and didn't want to ruin it. At this point, I thought she was trying to friendzone me. So I clearly asked her what she felt, she said she had no attraction of non-platonic type. So, I said cool and slowly cut contact.
It's been a month and she has again got back in contact. Funny thing is, the way she talks now is similar to how I used to when I used to chase girls. I don't ever engage in a conversation with her. She keeps telling we should hang out. She kept suggesting we go to movies (because well, I'm a hardcore movie geek and we used to watch a lot of them when we were tight), but I refuse because of what's been written on this site about those kind of dates. Once, however I did say yes because it just felt a bit rude to say no at that point. She was ecstatic but then tickets were all out. At this point, I hadn't even realised that I was giving one-word replies. (am I turning into a girl?). Here's a bit of the conversation:
Her: So this theater is where I used to live. By the time movie is over, it'll be easily past midnight. Good idea bad timing.
Me: Okay
Her: I should book first and then ask people
Me: Happens
Her: Next time I'll ping you after I've already gotten them. Get ready to be randomly pulled into a movie plan.
Me: Enticing
Her: Yeah, the frustrating bit is, I was checking at this other theater and I found amazing seats and by the time I got you to say yeah, the seats were gone. :\
... So, what gives? I can assume she wants to friendzone me considering she already has a lot of guys at her disposal that she can use for sex. But, why would she go out of her way to just be friends with somebody (or even make out). Maybe she thinks I want something like a relationship? (I don't). Are there any mental barriers that I have to remove before getting her to have sex with me?
Also, I just had an interview for a new writing gig that might have me leave town for a good while. So, I have very few chances to get in bed with this girl now. Also, this is a girl who, if even given the slightest hint that she has the upper hand, will completely dominate the other person. So.. gotta be careful.
Anyway, I guess this case is a bit too much for a novice like me to crack. I hope to learn from the masters of the game. What do you guys think?
Cheers!
