Girls ignoring me

[Avalanche]

Hey Guys, I'm Amila, that's my real name, and I'm from Sri Lanka. Heard of it? It's the tiny island right below India. And I've got a problem comrades. The title says it. Yeah they do. Girls ignore me. I'm just so fucking confused. I think I'm a pretty good looking guy, but I'm not sure anymore. Oh I forgot I'm 20. And I'm not a dwarf or a hobbit, I'm around 5'9". My skin's bit dark. Not like an African, just a little. Our skin complexion varies from Scandinavian white to negro black. Like Indians. And I dress fashionably enough. And I walk in a sexy way, talk in a sexy way and does everything in a sexy way, as Chase ordered. But I don't see any difference in my environment. Its fucking same. I just don't know why this is happening. I would have approached already some girls, if they showed me some interest. But nothing happens. I can't go out in night yet, but I go out in many places in day time. And seen many women in every degree/status, hot or not, beautiful or not, rich or not, no one seems to care about me. This is disheartening.
I just wanna know from my fellow comrades in the west, have you faced this kinda thing? May be you're luckier than me. May be women here are shy, due to our own culture and religions. Which are slightly strict when compared with west. Anyway parents here do not restrict their girls from looking at men, Women here have the freedom to do anything. But again...I don't know why this happens. How about you guys? Are women in west like this? Guess not. So, that's it my friends. please help me in any way you can!

 

[Prehistoric]

I would have approached already some girls, if they showed me some interest.

Hey Avalanche,

I'm also a beginner in "The Game".. but let me tell u this.

Last Friday I was talking to some friends at this lounge bar. I spotted this girl alone standing 1 meter from us, looking very cold and definitely not paying any attention to me. I looked at her and, because I was in front of the stairs I said "if u're waiting for me to get out of the way don't worry, I am not patrolling the stairs". She smiled, I started talking to her. We danced a bit, we went drinking something alone at a bar nearby, she gave me her number, I touched her often in the hair... I went for the kiss and she said no in a very warm not cold way.. we said goodbye hugging"

Now, I am no professional, as my result shows, but what if I had let her initial cold look and her not paying attention to me discourage me from even try to approach her?
Instead I did, I collected experience, which is now useful to work on myself and try to make less mistakes and more right steps next time..

u gotta start acting some way, I think there is an article on this website "Results, not reactions". It was very useful for me!

Good luck and I hope some more experienced guy will also give you his piece of advice!

 

[Avalanche]

Thanks brother, but no one else seems to help me!

 

[Drck]

Generally speaking, girls are not interested in Nice Guys - guys who are too friendly, too compliant, too helping and too carrying, too needy and too clingy, and so on. On the other hand, girls are looking to sleep with guys who are more dominant, more leading, more serious about sex... perhaps guys who have some Alpha or Asshole traits as these imply more sexuality and independence...

But you probably know that. I noticed that people (girls) are different in different cultures, they are raised differently, they have different believes and morals... American girls (just a generalization) are seeking more "fun", they are more self-sufficient, more independent, more assertive, more bossy and probably less family oriented in comparison to e.g. European girls. I knew many many girls who were purely family oriented in Europe, they got married around 18-20, they have 2-3 kids, they never really slept around, and most of them will remain married and faithful till the end of their lives. Many of those girls are skinnier and better looking than US girls.

Many girls in Europe were raised to appreciate "man", and they are raising their children the same way. The guy is by default head of family while she cleans, cooks, shops... She respects him and she does things to keep him around...

I know it sounds like BS, many guys raised in US wouldn't even believe it as it is pretty much opposite of what they know, but I have no doubt that it is the truth. The whole system is different though, e.g. mother can stay with newborn 2-3 years home on average, if not more. It is almost impossible to find girl like that in US today. I'm not saying that girls in US are bad, they can be really good - just in different ways. Mothers in US don't stay home with kids long time either, they mostly get 6 weeks (compare to 3 years in Europe) and she's got to go back to work...

Again, this is only a huge generalization, there are many exceptions...

I have no idea how are girls in Sri Lanka but they might not behave in exactly "the same" way as girls in US. Because of their background, believes and morals they may react little bit differently to a guy who adapted western style seduction. They are (most likely) attracted to the same characteristics as girls in US (more dominant/leading guy, sexy, alpha/asshole traits,...) but at the same time their reactions to seduction attempts might be different as they were raised to seek classical providers. Their mind set might be focused on seeking a good provider, thus when they meet a guy who is looking too sexy and trying to push things too fast they might fall into autorejection fast. It may not be unusual for a girl in US to sleep with 5-10 guys as she knows that her peers are doing the same. But in another country, the same behavior may be associated with high shame...

IMO you can't go wrong in any culture if you adapt more mature and manly approach with girls versus more friendly/softer/compliant guy....

 

[Avalanche]

Thanks for your advice bro! But it seems like here in GC, Southern part of Asia is neglected. I have read many articles here already. And I saw few aricles which could help Asian men. But in all those articles, the writers only speak about eastern Asians. Chinese, Koreans, Japanese and etc. They never spoke about the men in our region. In this part of the world, there's a population of 1.7 billion. We are totally different races from the eastern and southeastern regions. We have different cultures and languages. Though the religions are basically the same. Whenever Chase or anyone else write an article about Asians, its about Eastern Asians. And why is that? That is simply because none of these writers really know anything about this part of the world. They simply know nothing. And whenever we ask a question from them, they just slip away. And that is really bad.

 

[Avalanche]

Wow! These forums are so fucking helpful!(sarcasm)

 

[Franco]

Avalanche,

This article is a good start for changing your mindset:

• "I Can't Get Girls Because Girls Only Want <BLANK>"

- Franco

 

[Smith]

Avalanche,

Sarcasm won't get people want to help you brother!

Thanks for your advice bro! But it seems like here in GC, Southern part of Asia is neglected. I have read many articles here already. And I saw few aricles which could help Asian men. But in all those articles, the writers only speak about eastern Asians. Chinese, Koreans, Japanese and etc. They never spoke about the men in our region. In this part of the world, there's a population of 1.7 billion. We are totally different races from the eastern and southeastern regions. We have different cultures and languages. Though the religions are basically the same. Whenever Chase or anyone else write an article about Asians, its about Eastern Asians. And why is that? That is simply because none of these writers really know anything about this part of the world. They simply know nothing. And whenever we ask a question from them, they just slip away. And that is really bad.

I'm in Australia now, and I've seen South Asian men with whites and asians, so nothing is impossible man!

 

[ray_zorse]

Dude looking for IOIs is advanced game, for now stick to basics and just fucking burn it down what I mean is don't wait for women to make something happen (eye contact, etc). Go up to them and engage them in such a way that ignoring you is not an option. "Hey! You there! Yeah!! You! With the purple earbuds! Can you hear me?" ... "Oh uhh err yeah? What do you want?" "Hi there... I'm Avalanche... blah blah blah".

Confidence bro. And lots of practice.



cheers, Ray

 

[Avalanche]

Sarcasm won't get people want to help you brother!

Actually it did, for some extent.

 

[sneaky_charm]

I'll put it bluntly, and you're not going to like it.

You're plain bitter, even though sometimes you try to act cool. Let alone girls, even I won't want to hang out with you even though I'm a dude.

Let me explain what I mean. When I read Richard's reports, I feel 'Wow! This guy is so caring at heart and has wonderful way of saying things!', when I read Antaman's, I feel 'Shit, this guy is a beast, but boy, is that amazing!', when I read Franco's or Chase's, they seem pure wise, NarrowJ's seem fun and extremely engaging. But when I read yours, there is something repulsive and bitter. I'm not gonna lie, and say something is pretty when it is not.

I mean statements like....
"But it seems like here in GC, Southern part of Asia is neglected.", "They simply know nothing."

And heck, you even hijack other people's threads with sarcasm...
I'm talking about your comment "Finally it all comes down to money, isn't it? What a wonderful world! " on 'The wealthy girls' by fsc.

You know that everyone's trying to help. Not everyone can fly to India or Sri Lanka and run games leaving their job and other work. Most people have never come to this part of the world, and they do not know much, so can't really help or understand. But that doesn't mean anybody is neglected. I'm in India, and even though there are some cultural differences, most GC things work here. Yes, most girls never even look at me, but when I approach them they're polite. Granted I haven't tried seducing foreign girls, but I can assure you that I won't come here and bitch without even approaching at least 50 girls, both receptive and non receptive.

Why don't you start approaching whether they look at you or not, and file every report here. If you really mean business, go ahead and approach girls. Get shot down, get neglected, get ridiculed. LET YOUR EGO GET BRUISED SO MUCH THAT YOU CAN'T FEEL THE PAIN ANYMORE.

If you really mean business, file at least 10 filed reports within the next 30 days, and accept criticisms with grace. If you cannot do that, you have no right to be here and bitch.

 

[Avalanche]

I'll put it bluntly, and you're not going to like it.

You're plain bitter, even though sometimes you try to act cool. Let alone girls, even I won't want to hang out with you even though I'm a dude.

Let me explain what I mean. When I read Richard's reports, I feel 'Wow! This guy is so caring at heart and has wonderful way of saying things!', when I read Antaman's, I feel 'Shit, this guy is a beast, but boy, is that amazing!', when I read Franco's or Chase's, they seem pure wise, NarrowJ's seem fun and extremely engaging. But when I read yours, there is something repulsive and bitter. I'm not gonna lie, and say something is pretty when it is not.

I mean statements like....
"But it seems like here in GC, Southern part of Asia is neglected.", "They simply know nothing."

And heck, you even hijack other people's threads with sarcasm...
I'm talking about your comment "Finally it all comes down to money, isn't it? What a wonderful world! " on 'The wealthy girls' by fsc.

You know that everyone's trying to help. Not everyone can fly to India or Sri Lanka and run games leaving their job and other work. Most people have never come to this part of the world, and they do not know much, so can't really help or understand. But that doesn't mean anybody is neglected. I'm in India, and even though there are some cultural differences, most GC things work here. Yes, most girls never even look at me, but when I approach them they're polite. Granted I haven't tried seducing foreign girls, but I can assure you that I won't come here and bitch without even approaching at least 50 girls, both receptive and non receptive.

Why don't you start approaching whether they look at you or not, and file every report here. If you really mean business, go ahead and approach girls. Get shot down, get neglected, get ridiculed. LET YOUR EGO GET BRUISED SO MUCH THAT YOU CAN'T FEEL THE PAIN ANYMORE.

If you really mean business, file at least 10 filed reports within the next 30 days, and accept criticisms with grace. If you cannot do that, you have no right to be here and bitch.

You must be professor Xavier. Reading others mind and judging my personality. Good luck with that. But simply, you didn't get me. And btw, you think you're cool? Blaming me not being cool. You know what you really sound like? You sound like a total dick. I don't know you, I didn't tell you anything, you came out of nowhere and began insulting me. PLEASE DON'T DO THAT!

 

[sneaky_charm]

You asked something and I answered honestly, and I'm sorry if that was too blunt. But I'll say once more the part you totally ignored (mildly this time):

Start approaching whether they look at you or not, and file every report here. Go ahead and approach girls. Get shot down, get neglected, get ridiculed. LET YOUR EGO GET BRUISED SO MUCH THAT YOU CAN'T FEEL THE PAIN ANYMORE.

File at least 10 filed reports within the next 30 days, and accept criticisms with grace. You'll get better and better as time passes!

I'm no Einstein, you're right. But I know one thing - whatever you feel inside, girls feel the same thing 10 times more. So if you feel happy, they'll feel happy, if you feel fear, they'll sense it, if you feel 'I'm not good', they'll know. I was not judging you and I'm sorry if that hurt you, but please don't be sarcastic. This community is one of the most helpful and people really do care about each other.

Also, read this every single day before going out:

https://www.girlschase.com/content/girls-silly-and-cute

 

[Chase]

Amila-

You know, an interesting thing I've noticed about travel in different parts of the world is that in some places, women simply won't check you out much. Sometimes that's because they're not into you, but other times it's because women don't spend a whole lot of time checking men out in those places.

When that's the case, really the only thing you can do is approach. Walk up to her on the street, stop her to ask for directions if you're getting warmed up, and pay her a sincere compliment to gauge her reaction. You'll often be surprised at how receptive women who previously weren't paying you much mind are to this.

I'm in a small city right now where I definitely stand out looks wise, for instance, and I know the women generally find me attractive. I get men staring at me like I'm a space alien, but women won't even look my direction half the time. Should I need to ask directions and I talk to a pretty girl though, much of the time her response is to light up once we're communicating.

Don't try to gauge the success you can have with women by the frequency they check you out - it's too misleading. Women will stare at you who aren't interested in you, and women who are interested in you many times won't look, out of fear of seeming aggressive.

Instead, do as Prehistoric, Ray, and Sneaky said, and go walk up to girls, say 'hi', and see how far you can get.

Good place to start right here: Newbie Assignment.

Also, do read this post: STICKIED: Board Etiquette. Vitally important that we keep things civil on the boards.

Chase

 

[Avalanche]

Thanks for your advice Chase, but I have a question. Now you're saying "women who are interested in you many times won't look." But in your articles you say, if my fundamentals are good, they'll check me out, would show their interest towards me and even would approach me. If so, then there should be something wrong with my looks, fundamentals. What's this so confusing? Did I get anything wrong?

 

[ray_zorse]

The articles often contain generalizations, otherwise every sentence would be loaded with caveats and "what ifs"... that's how we humans make sense of the world

Obviously not every article is directly relevant to every situation, but the underlying principle outlined in the article can nearly always be adapted to your situation That's why the articles are good, cos they have a bit of depth, the "why" that helps you adapt it, rather than a specific formula for a specific situation.

I guess in this case the difference is that in conservative societies with lots of risk of reputation damage, girls will check you out in indirect ways, such as asking their friends about you... this may not be as obvious but if you look good they will probably check you out somehow Have faith bro

cheers, Ray

 

[Avalanche]

Okay, let's do this then.