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Hey guys,
This is a recurring pattern I've noticed creep up over the past year or so; and it's been affecting my ego dramatically each time it happens. Girls I've known for months, years that I on/off flirt with and felt like had gotten properly calibrated suddenly blocking me on Snapchat after one (mis-step?)
The key thing preached on here is better to get rejected than face regret; yet in these cases, the regret seems to be having made moves with bad timings? Maybe fresh perspectives could help me see what I can learn from these:
Scenario 1:
Girl I'd known for a few months ; talked quite often and I was actually getting used to having her in the friendzone just to have at least some girls I wasn't trying to sleep with. One night, we ended up sexting (mild sexting but sexting anyway), that was mostly or all initiated by her. I told her sorry I couldn't send any "d" pics but she seemed to suggest it's okay next time. Then a few days later, we didn't talk much, alot of on/off (she ended up busy with work and things), and when she got some downtime, I sent the pic. Instant blocked. No words, no questions. Just blocked.
Scenario 2:
Girl who had recently broken up with her bf and I had gotten to know each other well and were talking on Snapchat quite regularly. One of the nights, we ended up sexting. Now, she did feel bad about it saying this isn't who she is, etc. I felt I did well to assuage the feeling, but guess not. A few days later, I just send a shirtless pic and that was enough. Blocked. No words, no questions. Gone.
Scenario 3:
This one hit alot more; this was a girl I'd known for over 2 years. Now she does have a bf (or she got one a year ago, but not really sure if they're still together or not) There was a few tense situations in the past (where she got offended I'd even think of flirting sexually with her) ; but I didn't let it phase me and slowly things started getting a bit more flirty. Ie she following me into my frame (me being sexy, etc). One day I make a flirty joke on a pic she posted of her slapping her own butt.
Me: "I knew you needed to be spanked "
Her: "Haha"
Me: "Don't have to do it yourself. If you needed to be spanked "
Bam! Blocked on the spot.
The 2nd scenario I can understand more or less why it happened; she wasn't ready for that level and it just made her feel really bad and guilty. But the first and second, I felt we had developed the rapport and calibrated with previous steps that it would be okay to do those actions.
Any ideas on what may have caused what seems to me like sudden mood swing leading to insta block? Ideally I'd like to use these as learning steps to not repeat on future prospects.
Thanks in advance.
This is a recurring pattern I've noticed creep up over the past year or so; and it's been affecting my ego dramatically each time it happens. Girls I've known for months, years that I on/off flirt with and felt like had gotten properly calibrated suddenly blocking me on Snapchat after one (mis-step?)
The key thing preached on here is better to get rejected than face regret; yet in these cases, the regret seems to be having made moves with bad timings? Maybe fresh perspectives could help me see what I can learn from these:
Scenario 1:
Girl I'd known for a few months ; talked quite often and I was actually getting used to having her in the friendzone just to have at least some girls I wasn't trying to sleep with. One night, we ended up sexting (mild sexting but sexting anyway), that was mostly or all initiated by her. I told her sorry I couldn't send any "d" pics but she seemed to suggest it's okay next time. Then a few days later, we didn't talk much, alot of on/off (she ended up busy with work and things), and when she got some downtime, I sent the pic. Instant blocked. No words, no questions. Just blocked.
Scenario 2:
Girl who had recently broken up with her bf and I had gotten to know each other well and were talking on Snapchat quite regularly. One of the nights, we ended up sexting. Now, she did feel bad about it saying this isn't who she is, etc. I felt I did well to assuage the feeling, but guess not. A few days later, I just send a shirtless pic and that was enough. Blocked. No words, no questions. Gone.
Scenario 3:
This one hit alot more; this was a girl I'd known for over 2 years. Now she does have a bf (or she got one a year ago, but not really sure if they're still together or not) There was a few tense situations in the past (where she got offended I'd even think of flirting sexually with her) ; but I didn't let it phase me and slowly things started getting a bit more flirty. Ie she following me into my frame (me being sexy, etc). One day I make a flirty joke on a pic she posted of her slapping her own butt.
Me: "I knew you needed to be spanked "
Her: "Haha"
Me: "Don't have to do it yourself. If you needed to be spanked "
Bam! Blocked on the spot.
The 2nd scenario I can understand more or less why it happened; she wasn't ready for that level and it just made her feel really bad and guilty. But the first and second, I felt we had developed the rapport and calibrated with previous steps that it would be okay to do those actions.
Any ideas on what may have caused what seems to me like sudden mood swing leading to insta block? Ideally I'd like to use these as learning steps to not repeat on future prospects.
Thanks in advance.