Girls settling for boring beta males...what's the reasoning behind this?

[killerman]

Been on this site for more than a year now, and it's true, girls want an alpha male guy who has things going on in his life. they want a guy who's sexy, alluring and confident who excites them. We all know this. Yet however, I get confused time and time again, when I see so many girls (and these are young girls who should be going for the alpha lover, not the beta male nice guy) with guys who look like your typical nice guys...guys who have nothing exciting going on in their lives...guys who don't even dress well...who aren't sexy...who are out of shape...who move slow...who don't even have good fundamentals...how come these girls are with them? Are sexy, confident men with amazing lives truly in short supply? Or is it that even when they meet the man of their dreams who is sexy, charismatic, has LOADS of stuff going on, who's bold and moves fast and is a true alpha, that most girls don't feel worthy and just would rather settle for mediocrity as it's more attainable? And this is with girls who are in their teens and twenties. It's not like they're women who've been with a ton of bad boys who've broken their hearts tons of times, who now reach their mid 30s and want a boring, nice guy who'll stick around.

 

[Paulie Walnuts]

DUDE I'M SO THERE WITH YOU!

This is all I see at my college, it weirds me out because I even see these same girls staring at me but..... when I approach even when I get the number they flake and it doesn't go anywhere or I get "the boyfriend excuse", or "you're too old for me".

Then I see them watch everyone of my snapchat stories literally as soon as I post them (and half the time all I post are selfies -_-) and random brawl videos at parties and interesting stuff from time to time.

 

[windsofchange]

I'm not an expert on this by any means, but here's my reasoning from what I've seen:

First reason: yes, attractive men with their shit together and living amazing lives are very few and far between. Alot of people end up fading out (either getting into a LTR and letting go of the game it took to get them there) or stop trying.

Could be they think they don't deserve better; could be their high-school sweethearts that they're madly in love with; could be social circle pressure to not want to mess things up by being with someone outside of their social circle; could be parental pressure; could be they are actually amazing in bed with big dicks or rich fucks.

I've seen girls who I felt could do alot better than the dudes they with, but life doesn't always make sense like that. Yes, I can relate. It can get frustrating to see yourself put all this work to become the elusive alpha god, when others put seemingly no effort at all and get hot chicks. But you gotta remember, you're becoming a complete sexy man. Not just for the sex and the pussy, but also for the extra self improvement, confidence, and fulfillment that comes with personal growth..

 

[killerman]

That's kind of scary in a way, that girls are under pressure to get with someone from their social circle. No wonder so many girls cheat on their boyfriends/husbands eventually because initially there never was any attraction or chemistry there, they just rationalised in their brains they liked that person because they were in such a scarcity mindset. I mean what are the odds that that guy who's 1 out of 10 guys in their social circle (or however big or small it is, they won't have the pool of people to choose from like we do, which is millions of girls we can pick up from cold approach) is a guy who they're really going to click with? It's kind of insane in a way.