Girls shows up to first date with a group of friends

[metalbird]

Yes, it was very clearly a date.

I had met her and gotten her number the night before. She texted me right at the time we were supposed to meet saying, "Gonna be a bit late, had to pick up some friends."

She showed up alone first, and we spent about half an hour at the bar, with great chemistry and lots of sexual tension. After that, her friends showed up, and we moved to bigger table, where the group played cards for a while. I was pretty taken aback, but I tried my best to roll with it. At the table, I wasn't really sure how to interact with her or her friends (at least one guy of whom was very clearly in the friend zone, and automatically jealous and mistrustful of me), but I kept it pleasant with the group, and sexual with her, and the attraction levels between us remained high.

After about an hour of that, she let me know she and her friends were leaving, and she apologized for having to say goodnight. I pulled her in a for a hug and quietly asked if I could see her one on one sometime. She blushed and said yes.

So far so good, right? Maybe if I had just left it at that, I would have seen her again. But I still felt a little weird about the whole interaction, and wary of falling too deeply into "boyfriend candidate" territory, I quickly sent a follow up text:

Me: "Hey, no offense to your friends, but you can hang out with them anytime. Why don't you meet me somewhere we can grab some drinks?"

I didn't know it yet, but I was dead in the water right there. After some time, she sent a reply which I will paraphrase as, "No offense to you, but anyone I talk to has to like my friends. I don't date assholes, and besides, I'm only looking for friends anyway."

I understood right there I had lost all chances with this girl, but just out of principle I fired back saying that it was highly unusual for someone to show up to a date with friends in tow, and that if she had wanted to hang out in a group setting, she should have let me know in advance. The conversation basically devolved from there into her painting me as an asshole and me trying to figure out WTF just happened.

What are your thoughts? Should I have just let her leave with her friends and waited to see her another time?

 

[Fuck This]

You were dead in the water before you started. Might not have been your fault. She has probably been P&D'ed and wants the peer review before she gets her heart broken again.

 

[ramshead]

Metalbird

I went through something like this last summer by accident


I took this girl to a bar in downtown. It was our 3rd time going out. I had fucked her on the second date. This time a random group of her friends showed up at the bar. They hadn’t seen each other in a few months. So I acted cool and allowed them to talk. She introduced me as a new guy she’s talking too. I spoke randomly with a bored face. She then told me I’m so sorry we haven’t seen each other in weeks. I stood up and said ladies it was fun meeting but I’m going to head out. The girl literally saw me and said don’t leave. I just told I wasn’t going just yet I was going to restroom first.

At this point I decided if she going with me or not it was on her. So when I came out i graved her by the waist and started saying by to everyone and she said bye to everyone as well and we both left together to my place. At my place she said that I was jerk with her friends but she was smiling as she said it. She wanted to be lead. She could have stayed with her friends she hasn’t seen in a while or leave with a confident man her friends will talk about later.

You’re case similar but different I believe you had that option when you guys were together and her friends arrived you had the option of leaving right then and there or lead her out. Either one would make you look confident. She would have rejected you or her sexual instinct would have kicked in. Anytime friends are involved in the beginning in my view point is saying she views you as boyfriend material or friend zoned. Both are bad in the beginning because she doesn’t see you sexually in the beginning. If you wanted her as a girlfriend you must first be sexual and not giving a fuck if you lose her because you have options or make her think you do.

If I was you I would just send a simple text and see if she responds. Act like nothing happened.

 

[zappbrannigan]

At this point I decided if she going with me or not it was on her. So when I came out i graved her by the waist and started saying by to everyone and she said bye to everyone as well and we both left together to my place. At my place she said that I was jerk with her friends but she was smiling as she said it. She wanted to be lead. She could have stayed with her friends she hasn’t seen in a while or leave with a confident man her friends will talk about later.

That was an epic move. Respect, man!