Girls trying to make you jealous

[Aquila]

Was at our college party last night, bantering with this girl who I know has a crush on me, and I had no doubt that we were going to hook up that night. Needless to say, I then proceeded to tease her a bit too hard, she went into auto-rejection and got really upset with me. Of course, being me, I was totally unfazed and non-needy, and went on to flirt with other girls, kinda ignoring her and see if I can re-engage her when she calms down later.

I think she might have seen my indifference as not caring enough about her, later during the night, she got drunk and made out with a friend of mine in front of me, and tried to hook up with him. Again, I was unfazed and totally cool about it, even teased her a little. She got upset and clearly wanted to make me jealous by showing me what I have been missing out. But eventually she didn't end up with my friend and just left.

The reason I'm asking here is because I see this girl around our college quite often, and since this is the first time this had happened to me, I'm not quite sure how to act when I see her again.

I'm known to be this edgy, rebellious guy who doesn't care much about being appropriate and flirt around with girls. And after tonight, she probably thinks that I didn't even care about her making out with other guys, and might see me as cold and uncaring towards her.

So what's the smoothest move from now on? (I don't care about losing her, but since this is a social circle I don't want to have girls resenting me)
- act like nothing happened, and flirt with her as usual?
- tease her a bit about her and the guy, then flirt with her as usual?
- acknowledge that my teasing was a bit too much (not apologizing), but act like nothing happened, and flirt as usual?
- don't flirt with her, so as not to reward her behavior of trying to make me jealous, but then what? (I'm usually a very flirty person)

Any thoughts on this would be great, thanks guys!

 

[foggy]

I'm pretty sure your attainability is low. She doesn't feel like she can get you! You need to start being less of a challenge to her. Next time you see her, be really calm, don't ask for anything from her, and minimize the investment you get from her, this will allow your attainability to rebound.

 

[JimmyB]

So do you want to hook up with this girl? Sounds like you don't really care one way or the other. So you're fine just not caring. I'd tone it down a little maybe next time you see her. I would not tease her hard next couple times you interact with her. If she's trying to make you jealous by hooking up with another guy, she probably has a big crush on you (like you said) and whatever you do she'd still be into you anyways. It's a bit cold if you don't let up at least a little.

 

[Aquila]

Thanks for the replies, though I already bumped into her before I get to see the replies.

Yeah I teased her a bit too much cos she's actually very hot and even though I know she likes me, I didn't realize a girl this hot would care so much about what I say. Lesson learned.

So I bumped into her a couple days later and teased her a bit about the hook up to diffuse the awkwardness, addressed why I might have come across as "insulting" and got some compliance from her. I was a lot warmer this time and things are looking good now, though I think I'm gonna let her off the hook for some time to let her cool down.

@ JimmyB: I don't mind hooking up with her, but either way I don't care because there are many options out there. I was more worried about the consequences of girls resenting me within the social circle (which is something I have trouble dealing with as I have many girls who like me but are now in auto-rejection).

 

[DakenMarquis]

Honestly you want to reward passive aggressive social power moves like this? When she kisses another guy, its not jealousy, its a statement. Kiss a girl in front of her, at the very least you get something, show her the game she's playing, and perhaps really make her understand. Fire w fire. Because otherwise she wouldn't light a match.