Went on a date with a girl I met on the bus. We went to a bar so:
Venue #1: The Bar
When the bar keeper asked us what we wanted I said I'd have whatever she'd have and she ordered beer which I found a little surprising because (almost) all girls I know don't like beer at all. But was a good starter for the conversation, we had a good time. Although it was kinda strange that she so insisted that I talked saying she doesn't talk a lot herself but likes to listen. Not wanting to give away personal information I was like "uhm okay, I could talk about basketball but promise you won't run away" (Once I get going about the NBA I won't stop, and I don't care if you care). So I quickly told her I liked the Lakers and she was actively listening but I involved her so I asked her what she knew about the NBA like which players or teams and taught her some terms. I think she enjoys talking more than she claimed.
Now I didn't over do it but after a while I was bored myself so I changed topic and told her my parents live abroad and voila, she started to tell me like everything about her family. After a little while things got really awkward, though. All of a sudden she stopped talking, crossed her arms, leaned all the way back and gave me a strange look. I asked her what was wrong and she told me I appeared so disinterested which was quite a surprise to me because I thought I was relating well to her. But she told me it was my body position and maybe she was right on that one. Now I really was interested in what she said (her family is so much more interesting and exciting than mine) and I thought I sat there in a comfortable way but thinking back now, yeah, maybe it appeared distant. Had my arms on the tables but my elbows pointing to the side and my hands on the edge of the table hanging down. A position I used to sit in at school all the time, it's just a comfort thing but will change that habit now.
Anyway, I told her that I truly was interested in her story and that I didn't mean to give her that feeling, when she stood up, apologized herself and ran to the rest rooms for a second and then came right back. I didn't know what was going on and she said it was so embarrassing to her that she thought I wasn't interested that she needed to hide which in turn she then found even more embarrassing. Managed to calm her down though and we agreed that we'd use that as a bonus for me when I do something embarrassing myself.
Then we talked about some random stuff but having a real good conversation, drinking some more beer when she received a Facebook message. Now it's not my style to check what's going on on others' smart phones but I happened to see it was from a girl so I jokingly said "let me guess, her house burnt down and you need to rescue her". She blushed a little and admitted that her friend indeed asked whether she needed to get her out or not. But she also said that she found things to be going well. And so her friend, instead of rescuing her, wanted to meet me too. Forgetting about some of the principles I learned over the past two months I agreed.
So Venue #2: the streets with her and her friend
Her friend turned out to be pretty cool beans (and hot as well) and it was really easy to have a conversation with her and I was talking almost only to her, but I kept checking for my date who didn't even seem to be bored at all anyway. Her friend told us about a couple of friends of hers celebrating something in a nearby bar and we agreed to go there, even though I really didn't want to and I made up a plan.
Anyway, Venue #3: another bar
Didn't really come up with a plan, I didn't know how I would get her to leave with me. But I didn't need to, because the bar was super super crowded. So I told my date (actually, her name was Martha) that I really didn't like super crowded bars with all that smoke and she said she didn't either so it was easy to leave together. I asked her what she wanted to do now and she said we could just walk around and look for a nice looking place to go, which we did.
And there goes Venue #4: yet another bar.
Luckily, we didn't stay all too long because the bar was about to close, we just had a quick beer. Didn't really talk all too much, we were just sitting next to each other and she started to hold my hand. We had some intense eye contact and I went in for the kiss. After that, we took a taxi to her place. We didn't really decided that together, it was just like leave because the bar closed and I said "let's take a taxi" and once we were in she already said her address and we continued to kiss during the ride.
Venue #5: her place
There wasn't much I needed to do at her place, we got out of our shoes and she directed me directly to her bed room, showing me where an extra cover and pillow was while she needed to go to the bath room quickly. So I got that stuff and started to undress (not completely though) as she already came in and we lay down and then had sex. It was pretty wild which I enjoyed (my ex girlfriend was more into slow stuff) but things got awkward again when she came before me which she found to embarrassing, covering her face and asking if she was bad in bed or if I didn't enjoy it. I told her I was fine but I got down from her and we fell asleep. The next morning all awkwardness seemed to be gone though and she served me some coffee.
Pretty crazy date and I definitely need to learn how to move things/escalate faster. Especially the meet up with her friend was completely unnecessary. I wonder though if watching what a girl drinks like they do in the movies is really that meaningful. If so, I'll avoid girls who drink beer in the future. No, not just because of two rather strange incidents but she had a couple of strange features about her, which aren't worth mentioning though.
So long - nino
Venue #1: The Bar
When the bar keeper asked us what we wanted I said I'd have whatever she'd have and she ordered beer which I found a little surprising because (almost) all girls I know don't like beer at all. But was a good starter for the conversation, we had a good time. Although it was kinda strange that she so insisted that I talked saying she doesn't talk a lot herself but likes to listen. Not wanting to give away personal information I was like "uhm okay, I could talk about basketball but promise you won't run away" (Once I get going about the NBA I won't stop, and I don't care if you care). So I quickly told her I liked the Lakers and she was actively listening but I involved her so I asked her what she knew about the NBA like which players or teams and taught her some terms. I think she enjoys talking more than she claimed.
Now I didn't over do it but after a while I was bored myself so I changed topic and told her my parents live abroad and voila, she started to tell me like everything about her family. After a little while things got really awkward, though. All of a sudden she stopped talking, crossed her arms, leaned all the way back and gave me a strange look. I asked her what was wrong and she told me I appeared so disinterested which was quite a surprise to me because I thought I was relating well to her. But she told me it was my body position and maybe she was right on that one. Now I really was interested in what she said (her family is so much more interesting and exciting than mine) and I thought I sat there in a comfortable way but thinking back now, yeah, maybe it appeared distant. Had my arms on the tables but my elbows pointing to the side and my hands on the edge of the table hanging down. A position I used to sit in at school all the time, it's just a comfort thing but will change that habit now.
Anyway, I told her that I truly was interested in her story and that I didn't mean to give her that feeling, when she stood up, apologized herself and ran to the rest rooms for a second and then came right back. I didn't know what was going on and she said it was so embarrassing to her that she thought I wasn't interested that she needed to hide which in turn she then found even more embarrassing. Managed to calm her down though and we agreed that we'd use that as a bonus for me when I do something embarrassing myself.
Then we talked about some random stuff but having a real good conversation, drinking some more beer when she received a Facebook message. Now it's not my style to check what's going on on others' smart phones but I happened to see it was from a girl so I jokingly said "let me guess, her house burnt down and you need to rescue her". She blushed a little and admitted that her friend indeed asked whether she needed to get her out or not. But she also said that she found things to be going well. And so her friend, instead of rescuing her, wanted to meet me too. Forgetting about some of the principles I learned over the past two months I agreed.
So Venue #2: the streets with her and her friend
Her friend turned out to be pretty cool beans (and hot as well) and it was really easy to have a conversation with her and I was talking almost only to her, but I kept checking for my date who didn't even seem to be bored at all anyway. Her friend told us about a couple of friends of hers celebrating something in a nearby bar and we agreed to go there, even though I really didn't want to and I made up a plan.
Anyway, Venue #3: another bar
Didn't really come up with a plan, I didn't know how I would get her to leave with me. But I didn't need to, because the bar was super super crowded. So I told my date (actually, her name was Martha) that I really didn't like super crowded bars with all that smoke and she said she didn't either so it was easy to leave together. I asked her what she wanted to do now and she said we could just walk around and look for a nice looking place to go, which we did.
And there goes Venue #4: yet another bar.
Luckily, we didn't stay all too long because the bar was about to close, we just had a quick beer. Didn't really talk all too much, we were just sitting next to each other and she started to hold my hand. We had some intense eye contact and I went in for the kiss. After that, we took a taxi to her place. We didn't really decided that together, it was just like leave because the bar closed and I said "let's take a taxi" and once we were in she already said her address and we continued to kiss during the ride.
Venue #5: her place
There wasn't much I needed to do at her place, we got out of our shoes and she directed me directly to her bed room, showing me where an extra cover and pillow was while she needed to go to the bath room quickly. So I got that stuff and started to undress (not completely though) as she already came in and we lay down and then had sex. It was pretty wild which I enjoyed (my ex girlfriend was more into slow stuff) but things got awkward again when she came before me which she found to embarrassing, covering her face and asking if she was bad in bed or if I didn't enjoy it. I told her I was fine but I got down from her and we fell asleep. The next morning all awkwardness seemed to be gone though and she served me some coffee.
Pretty crazy date and I definitely need to learn how to move things/escalate faster. Especially the meet up with her friend was completely unnecessary. I wonder though if watching what a girl drinks like they do in the movies is really that meaningful. If so, I'll avoid girls who drink beer in the future. No, not just because of two rather strange incidents but she had a couple of strange features about her, which aren't worth mentioning though.
So long - nino
