Giving and receiving advice

[flowerpower]

Hello guys,
I was the other day with a friend I hadn't seen in a couple of years and he kept making the same grammatical mistakes over and over. Being a somewhat "literary" kind of guy, it made it difficult for me not to point them out to him, but I refrained nonetheless because i loathe pedantry. Still made me wonder though, what do you think is the best attitude to adopt when a guy is obviously mistaken, especially in areas of more importance than grammar like their outlook on life etc.? How do you help them without coming across as a pretentious asshole?
The opposite also happened to me when people give me very basic advice in a paternal way on things I know better than them. I never know what to answer other than "of course" or "how right you are!".
So, essentially, do you offer help when it hasn't been asked for?

 

[trashKENNUT]

flowerpower,

Still made me wonder though, what do you think is the best attitude to adopt when a guy is obviously mistaken, especially in areas of more importance than grammar like their outlook on life etc.? How do you help them without coming across as a pretentious asshole?

You just tell them like you are in a normal conversation. When they respond enthusiastically, don't overbear them like rightheous and religious people often do, which i see, all the time.

IF there's one thing i learn from true religious people, they gauge people's emotions and reactions almost every time when they dish out advices. So take that one.

Zac