going for the kiss

[Smith]

Hey fellows, just wondering when u guys first started out, how do u guys go for the first kiss? How do u know if the moment is right? it feels like the moment the girl wants to be kissed will pass as quickly as it come. Do you have to lean in quickly or slowly? How do you guys deal with the rejection if the girl turn away or lean backward as you try to do the manhandle kiss? I think this is where I'm stuck at right now, not knowing when to go in for a kiss? Please help me! I would have a girl coming back to my place, but I always fail to kiss her because I'm not sure how to execute this right.

 

[Mr.Rob]

Try and get rejected when you kiss girls that way you will have easy expectations to exceed. If you want to kiss her it's the right time, as long as you do it in a socially calibrated way. Obviously don't try and kiss her if she has crossed off body language or there's no sexual tension. So yeah try and get rejected and see what happens you might surprise yourself. Also a big thing is that its not a big deal if you get rejected what is a big deal is how you act after you get rejected if you play it off like it was funny to you and girls are silly and cute you should be fine. Don't get all awkward and weird after she rejects you otherwise you'll fail the test.

 

[Amadeaus]

I had a disaster date a few months ago. A few nights prior, I went over to a classmates place to do some school work with her. We had an okay time and on my way out, I just grabbed her and we kissed for a little bit. She agreed to go on a date with me a few nights later and, needless to say, I was pretty excited.

My friend told me about an art show, so I thought this would be a cool new thing to bring this girl to. We get to the art show and it was totally lame and not really what I had in mind. After looking at the stuff, I bring her over to my truck and pull the tailgate down for us to sit. I went in for the kiss and she turned away and said, "Not with all these people around". My ego was pretty hurt and I didn't really hide it. I was only able to hang out with her one more time and it was totally platonic.

Fast forward to a few nights ago... After that ego shattering first date, my confidence needed a bit of a rebuild. I've been working out, reading a lot and really working on being smoother (its soo hard to keep my inner 12 year old at bay).

So I'm on a 2nd date with another girl, first date went okay. I'm trying to keep this one a bit lite. We go downtown to have some drinks on a week night. The cool thing about taking a girl out to bars during the week is that they are fairly empty. We got out around 8:30 and were planning on staying til our friend got off work at 12. I suggested we have a drink and bounce to a few places. I read in a couple sources that if you do a lot of things on your dates, its like you have seen the world together. So we went to 6 different places and it really helped to break up the 4 hours.

At the 5th place, we sat outside and there was a nice mood out with the breeze and blue Christmas lights. I payed really close attention to my body language and how I sat all night, so as to keep a relaxed open posture towards her. I opened up to her with some personal stuff about myself, she opened up a bit too. Then I used a yes ladder before putting my arm around her and bringing her in. It was a really nice first kiss from a girl I really liked.

So to recap... Find a nice place where the girl can feel comfortable(and you can as well). Pay attention to how you position yourself and how you sit ALWAYS! Show a little of your vulnerable side to put her at ease. Use a yes ladder.

Don't let your inner 12 year old or unbridled libido get the best of you! Let the night unfold and make a good connection.

 

[Estate]

It's really easy to over-think it when you're not sure.

The thing is, just a kiss isn't a big deal. If you want to kiss her you just need her close to you. If she's at your place, just get her on the couch, if you're watching tv, put an arm around her and pull her in to snuggle a little with you and after a little bit just turn and kiss her.

There's no such thing as a right moment. I used to think there was, like those magical moments on TV where the romantic music plays and you stare into each others eyes. It just doesn't happen in real life.
Kiss her when you want to...

If she's not really presenting an easy oppertunity, just pull her close to you and kiss her. Simple as that.

I was on a date a few months ago... I took her to a bar I thought was cool but it turned out the place with absolutely packed. The only way we could really fit ourselves in was to go outside and get a table on the patio but I was stuck sitting across from her and it sucked. So after a while I finished up the food/drinks and got her out of there... we walked a little down the street but she walked to my side not very close because I didn't get to get too close to her earlier in the date.
I couldn't get "the moment"... so I stopped in my tracks and as she took a step ahead I told her "Hey, come here a second...", so she turned to face me, I just took a step forward but my hands on her waist and kissed her... she loved it... then I just told her "Sorry I just had to do that, I've been waiting all night" and the smile across her face was ridiculous... from a girl who was a little standoffish all night just because I couldn't get close enough to her to really make anything happen.

That's the idea really... if there's no "moment", just make one... kiss her. I mean, don't try to kiss her 2 seconds after meeting her on the street and she has no idea who you are... but I assume we are talking about when you've been with the girl a little while or it's on a date or something. She's expecting a kiss.