good street stop interaction. pls critique

[lao che]

meh, i'm rusty. and i've been fucking demoralized recently, almost on the verge of giving up. BUT like a phoenix from the flames ...

riding my bike home i pass two girls walking in same direction, one of whom is precisely my physical type* so i turned around and went back, then turned around and rode close to them calling "excuse me!" as i did, until i got their attention and then i give big smiles (the most i'm expecting here is a polite rebuffal)

"hi! excuse me! hello!" i stop and address both of them, they seem friendly but the friend gives more attention in a "how can i help you?" kind of way. i say "actually, i wanted to talk to your friend. can i talk to your friend? thanks."
i focus on the girl i like: "this is gonna sound crazy but i just drove past there and i saw you and i said to myself i have to go back and talk to that girl in the glasses!" she's all giggles and shit and her friend is cool.
my girl immediately gets her phone out to swap details. i say "that's a good idea." but i don't wanna rush it. i indtroduce myself to both of them and find out what they're up to etc. they live close to me. it goes far better than i expected (major lesson, test your assumptions, don't judge or gues the outcome based on how she looks).
i focus 90% on my girl but am friendly and chatty with her friend. i comment on my girls jewellery, hair etc. she's very compliant, letting me grab her hair which is plaited at the back, very cool, thick and shiny. mm mm
then, exchange details, bid them goodnight.

not long after we have a short text convo

me: lovely. i'm glad i stopped to talk to you

she: i thought you were lost

me: you're so kind to strangers!

she: you don't look like a bad guy

me: maybe you're the bad one

she: haha maybe

me: then i'd better be careful

little more fluff. some questions, which i want to avoid. i say, "i'm just tidying up and making some food. come and have a drink if you want. chat some more" to which she replies, "another day. now isn't a good time." grinning smiley faces etc


so, yeah. i think that's promising. dunno if i could have pushed for an instant date there and then. would have actually allowed the friend to come, or up to my place, even. if she'd said, "ok can my friend come?"


* i was gonna write a separate post about this but - my anti-approach anxiety technique is quite simple. i will REGRET not stopping, and it will hurt more than any bad interaction could.
this is also my no masturbation rule. it won't be a fulfilling feeling, i will instantly regret jacking off. so i "don't" do it. (this is not 100% true, but no man is an island)

 

[lao che]

this has turned into one epic night, and thanks to seppuku and his tactic of having your girl with her friend, up at your place, an almost guaranteed bang either tomorrow or sunday. or sometime soon.

i've learned something today. hats off to seppuku

 

[Seppuku]

Hahaha!

Glad to read this man... But now you will have to describe a little bit ;-)

Looking forward to read about it!

Cheers,

Seppuku
PS. I liked your approach with the two girls. Insisting to stop them, then tell the friend right in her face you want to speak to the other. Looks very ballsy. You must have impressed both of them. Your girl being very compliant with your touch is a major hint.

 

[lao che]

PS. I liked your approach with the two girls. Insisting to stop them, then tell the friend right in her face you want to speak to the other.

i'm sure i must have read this somewhere else or stolen it from somewhere. probably GC



to describe the night wouldn't really do it justice ....


she texts me in the evening, a pic of her dinner

me: mmm crayfish, is that an invite?

she: company dinner

me: i just finished work. how about a drink after dinner

she: ok, where? (so easy, never any bs with this girl)

me: good question. where are you? near home is better

she: ok. what time. where?

me: i'll come and pick you up if it's not far. but away from your colleagues. don't want to meet them

she: i'm with [friend]

me: send her home

she: can't bla bla bla

me: you're too old for a babysitter

she: yes

me: ok good i'll come get you. meet at .....

so i think it's cool but when i meet her the friend is there too. i greet girl with a hug and warmly greet friend, asking 'oh you live right here? cool. how about you, friend? you're going home?" she says no she's coming with us.
they ask where we're going and i explain that i was gonna take girl on my bike to a bar i know but with three of us it's difficult ...
they say they'll taxi but i counter with: "well, my place is right there, i got plenty to drink let's go there." immediate OKs again. great.

so we squeeze the three of us on my bike with girl in the middle, so there goes the breaking of the touch barrier, and go to mine.
then for the next three or four hours we chill at my place. polished off a bottle of vodka. had an awesome vibe, awesome times, lots of groping of girl, dancing, acting stupid, good talks and plenty of attention given to friend.
almost no awkwardness.
they both gave me massages. girl walked on my back on my bed! fucking funny. i picked her up and manhandled her around a bit. she's about 5 feet 6 or 7 inches - 42 kg! slender firm toned body. tiny shorts with a long shirt. previously, at the start of the proceedings, i pulled up the shirt to check she had clothes underneath. quite shamelessly looked down the shirt at her breasts.
i kissed a little with girl when friend was in the bathroom. quite sexy, hugging and dancing and groping her ass and then stopping when the bathroom door opened. i asked if they'd ever kissed each other and gently pushed for a 3some.
the vibe was so friendly and close and without any barriers, i even suggested that we all just sleep together, and i meant it, no games. would be so nice. such a happy time, the kind of vibe like if you and some new friends do ecstasy together, no walls between us. fun and warm and i'm sure you understand, despite my rambling description
they are cooking for me tomorrow night. in fact, moving apartments this weekend.

finally i walked them most of the way home. they kept telling me how great a night it had been. a goodnight text message elicited the response "i am delighted today"

seems like just being chill with having two girls around is a massive DHV. really i couldn't have expected it to go better. pretty sure it's gonna be a 3 dates kinda deal. i have no problem with that. in fact i'm delighted

 

[lao che]

well, this is a bust. looks like i've been had. though i can't see how or why. she's been almost radio silent all over the weekend, needless to say i didn't get my dinner cooked for me last night.
i shall hold back the tears for the moment. but ... well, so many promising leads have slammed in my face recently.
ho hum

 

[Seppuku]

Hey LC,

not sure what went wrong.

When I pulled this successfully (two times already), the vibe was seductive and sexual, I made sure my interest was unambiguously on my target girl, I was partly escalating the girl (but up to some point, because of the friend being there), I ended up with my girl in my arms, kissing her, in front of the friend. The girl left highly excited.

The goal was always to 1. get the girl excited, 2. make her familiar with my place, and 3. get her on a second date, alone with me, directly at my place. It worked like a charm, on two different LR.

From what you describe it seems it was the same in your case... except that the agreement was apparently another group date with the two. Not sure about that? Maybe it was the time to make it clear you want one to one with your target.

That's all what I can see from your description.

Nevertheless, now it's strictly *no chasing*, and let her come back. Silence from you. If she doesn't come back after a few days, just sent her a short ping text to test the mood.

Keep us posted!

Cheers,
Seppuku

 

[lao che]

i don't know either. i did it like you

the vibe was seductive and sexual, I made sure my interest was unambiguously on my target girl, I was partly escalating the girl (but up to some point, because of the friend being there)

check

The goal was always to 1. get the girl excited, 2. make her familiar with my place, and 3. get her on a second date, alone with me, directly at my place

check (as in, the goals) number three was obv the ultimate aim

From what you describe it seems it was the same in your case... except that the agreement was apparently another group date with the two. Not sure about that? Maybe it was the time to make it clear you want one to one with your target.

it's clear in who my interest lay. however as they were moving home that weekend they said they would invite me for dinner at their new place on the sunday night.


i sent a short whatsup text on saturday - no reply.

sunday i asked "did you move?" she replies "yes" with a short video of boxes and stuff at their new place. i send "great. time to celebrate." and ..... that's that