meh, i'm rusty. and i've been fucking demoralized recently, almost on the verge of giving up. BUT like a phoenix from the flames ...
riding my bike home i pass two girls walking in same direction, one of whom is precisely my physical type* so i turned around and went back, then turned around and rode close to them calling "excuse me!" as i did, until i got their attention and then i give big smiles (the most i'm expecting here is a polite rebuffal)
"hi! excuse me! hello!" i stop and address both of them, they seem friendly but the friend gives more attention in a "how can i help you?" kind of way. i say "actually, i wanted to talk to your friend. can i talk to your friend? thanks."
i focus on the girl i like: "this is gonna sound crazy but i just drove past there and i saw you and i said to myself i have to go back and talk to that girl in the glasses!" she's all giggles and shit and her friend is cool.
my girl immediately gets her phone out to swap details. i say "that's a good idea." but i don't wanna rush it. i indtroduce myself to both of them and find out what they're up to etc. they live close to me. it goes far better than i expected (major lesson, test your assumptions, don't judge or gues the outcome based on how she looks).
i focus 90% on my girl but am friendly and chatty with her friend. i comment on my girls jewellery, hair etc. she's very compliant, letting me grab her hair which is plaited at the back, very cool, thick and shiny. mm mm
then, exchange details, bid them goodnight.
not long after we have a short text convo
little more fluff. some questions, which i want to avoid. i say, "i'm just tidying up and making some food. come and have a drink if you want. chat some more" to which she replies, "another day. now isn't a good time." grinning smiley faces etc
so, yeah. i think that's promising. dunno if i could have pushed for an instant date there and then. would have actually allowed the friend to come, or up to my place, even. if she'd said, "ok can my friend come?"
* i was gonna write a separate post about this but - my anti-approach anxiety technique is quite simple. i will REGRET not stopping, and it will hurt more than any bad interaction could.
this is also my no masturbation rule. it won't be a fulfilling feeling, i will instantly regret jacking off. so i "don't" do it. (this is not 100% true, but no man is an island)
riding my bike home i pass two girls walking in same direction, one of whom is precisely my physical type* so i turned around and went back, then turned around and rode close to them calling "excuse me!" as i did, until i got their attention and then i give big smiles (the most i'm expecting here is a polite rebuffal)
"hi! excuse me! hello!" i stop and address both of them, they seem friendly but the friend gives more attention in a "how can i help you?" kind of way. i say "actually, i wanted to talk to your friend. can i talk to your friend? thanks."
i focus on the girl i like: "this is gonna sound crazy but i just drove past there and i saw you and i said to myself i have to go back and talk to that girl in the glasses!" she's all giggles and shit and her friend is cool.
my girl immediately gets her phone out to swap details. i say "that's a good idea." but i don't wanna rush it. i indtroduce myself to both of them and find out what they're up to etc. they live close to me. it goes far better than i expected (major lesson, test your assumptions, don't judge or gues the outcome based on how she looks).
i focus 90% on my girl but am friendly and chatty with her friend. i comment on my girls jewellery, hair etc. she's very compliant, letting me grab her hair which is plaited at the back, very cool, thick and shiny. mm mm
then, exchange details, bid them goodnight.
not long after we have a short text convo
little more fluff. some questions, which i want to avoid. i say, "i'm just tidying up and making some food. come and have a drink if you want. chat some more" to which she replies, "another day. now isn't a good time." grinning smiley faces etc
so, yeah. i think that's promising. dunno if i could have pushed for an instant date there and then. would have actually allowed the friend to come, or up to my place, even. if she'd said, "ok can my friend come?"
* i was gonna write a separate post about this but - my anti-approach anxiety technique is quite simple. i will REGRET not stopping, and it will hurt more than any bad interaction could.
this is also my no masturbation rule. it won't be a fulfilling feeling, i will instantly regret jacking off. so i "don't" do it. (this is not 100% true, but no man is an island)
