Got Her Chasing Me... Now What?

[SteveUno]

Before I started reading this site, there was a girl I was foolishly chasing and even made the mistake of telling her how I felt. We hooked up and I got the hint she wanted to be my girlfriend so I put it out there that I was open to the possibility.

She rejected the idea of us dating. So then I texted her saying that I wanted to be friends and she was right to not wanna date because I have more important things to do with school and stuff (an idea I got from this site). It worked. She told a mutual friend who was in town that she regrets putting me off. Now I'm getting texts from her.

I don't want to seem needy or desperate but at the same time, I want to throw her a bone. I'm planning on texting her again and hanging out with her as friends, but still being a sexual man in doing so.

She just texted me last week. How long should I wait to text her again and set up a meeting?

Do I continue to say that I don't think having a gf is possible?

Ideas?

 

[topcat]

Hmm.. if i were in your situation I would meet up with her casually when it becomes "convenient" to do so. Given that she's pushing for a meetup, and already stated that she regrets turning you down, she's going to be looking for something. Meeting up with her this week should be fine. I reckon if you hang out with her casually, stay sexy but be subtle about it and make a move as if it just happened, you're fine. In regards to her expecting a relationship, i usually like to frame things so it seems as though the girl wants me more, that way i have more control over the way the relationship goes, and it doesnt seem as though im misleading her (she's simply amping herself up, and dissappointing herself).