Great rapport and connection but woman keeps blowing off dates?

[NeverStop]

Yes its east to say she's just not that into you but what do you learn from that?

Had a date from an online dating site last week, the date went well (kissed her at the end) and she said she was interested in me. We started messaging each other that night to schedule the second date for the weekend and message everyday then on the friday night of the date she says she is busy but says she can come out on the saturday or sunday. I say which ever and she says she would prefer the sunday as she has an assignment to do and would like to do it all day saturday to come out sunday. I say thats fine but is there any chance she can come out saturday as she will have work in the morning on sunday. She ignores this and we keep talking about other stuff and then i find out she went out with her friends on the saturday for a while to the shops (not a night out). I ask her on the sunday I thought she was was going to be working all day saturday and if she was still coming out at night and she ignores this again and we talk about other things. It gets to sunday night and she still hasn't brought up when we are meeting and where so I ask her if shes that bothered about me considering we had been talking everyday for two weeks and she says she is and she didn't think it would bother me if we didn't go out that night and rearranges for tuesday night. She then says on the tuesday morning she doesn't think she has enough time for dating and will be busy for two weeks.

Now I obviously was looking for other girls as soon as she was becoming flaky the first time but I still want to know what I could of done better. If a woman thinks you might be boyfriend material will she start blowing you off as a shit test? Its easier just to move on but could I have pressed on in a joking way to get her out as soon as she started saying she way busy?

Thanks for any advice

 

[Lover]

then on the friday night of the date she says she is busy but says she can come out on the saturday or sunday.

She is trying to reschedule. That's a good sign!

I say which ever and she says she would prefer the sunday as she has an assignment to do and would like to do it all day saturday to come out sunday.

She's asking you to pick either Saturday or Sunday, but you leave it to her to decide. That is okay, but then this happens...

I say thats fine but is there any chance she can come out saturday as she will have work in the morning on sunday.

You make her pick a day, but then you ask her to choose Saturday instead. If you're going to let her choose a day, don't question her choices. I'm sure you meant it in a good way, but it makes things complicated, and it shows bad leadership from your end.

The rest of the conversation is basically her telling you that she is not interested in seeing you anymore. She keeps postponing, and suddenly she doesn't have enough time for dating and will be busy for two weeks. I think attraction is gone.

2 things to remember from now on when setting up a date:

1. Either YOU pick one of the days she suggests. I recommend this one - keep it simple

2. If you throw the ball back at her, DON'T question her. Don't mind her schedule - mind only your own.